Anyone else due??

[Belle]

Oh Indira I'm such a wreck already I'm having my 13.5 week scan on Thursday I'm so worried I see an obvious nub and if I don't see a nub Im also worried about down syndrome ( I had a scare with ds2 I can't go through that again) Thank god it all worked out well. I'm such a paranoid freak right now my husband can't handle me. How are you feeling? Your only a day after? I cannot go team green if they paid me, I have to know this time so I don't go into shock. Sorry probably sounds worse then it is. Fx for our healthy and pink babies
Applesoup have you told the rest of your family your pregnancy news yet? I still haven't told mine but when I do I'm just going to say I know what it is so they can shut up about their comments and I'm not telling anybody, even if I don't know yet. What day is your scan?

[applesoup]

Belle, I couldn't go green if they paid me & offered cleaning my house for a year...well, maybe if they offered the later!

We haven't announced to our families yet. After the rumor went around (started by my dad who apparently was just kidding...and ended up with my mom...they're divorced), I felt guilty about lying to her & came clean. So I told her...and of course, the first thing she could talk about was how maybe I shouldn't find out the gender on and on... So much for the honesty route, now everyone's trying to solve my GD...which can really only be satisfied with a girl!

I also told my little sister. She announced she was preggo. She's the person I'm closest to in both families. And I felt like she should know before my mom, so I told her. She was really supportive and kind about the whole thing.

After I find out on Monday, we're going to e-mail out a picture. I want a picture with the boys playing telephone (with the tin can + string) with my belly. DH liked the other idea (especially since we just moved) which is: "We decided to expand our house by 2 feet this summer" with a picture of the boys feet & some baby shoes. It's all worked out & decided, that's the important thing.

Told the boys to keep it a secret. So, my 4 year old announced it to his preschool teachers today & then told them "it's a secret." Grrrrrrrrrrrrreat. Not that I mind them knowing, but now I DEFINITELY can't let him be around our family until we announce.

Having a semi-okay-friend watch the boys on Monday. She didn't sound excited about it. I just don't have anyone else to ask...feeling guilty like I need to actually ask my mom to babysit. Which would be a bigger hassle & frustration that it sounds.

[applesoup]

Belle, if I told my family that we knew the gender...but didn't announce...they'd harass me more! They'd analyze every time DH slipped on referring to the baby as a he/she, etc. I didn't go that route (or the, we're not going to announce route) because I felt like our families wouldn't respect it & would analyze everything more.

Will your family respect that statement and leave it alone?

[applesoup]

Indira, let us know how your scan goes! Will they look for a nub at your DRs office? Will you get a picture? Have you announced to your family yet? How'd they take react & respond?

[applesoup]

My belly photo @ 16 weeks (last week). The 4 is for "4 months"...I'm going to take the same picture every month, wearing the same thing, & then put it together at the end. Saw this on pinterest.com and loved it!

Guess I'm looking small for my 4th kid! Although, I feel huge!

Applesoup.jpg

[indigoviolet]

I want a picture with the boys playing telephone (with the tin can + string) with my belly. DH liked the other idea (especially since we just moved) which is: "We decided to expand our house by 2 feet this summer" with a picture of the boys feet & some baby shoes. It's all worked out & decided, that's the important thing.

I LOVE this idea, so cute!

[indigoviolet]

but said boy bits are usually pretty obvious by now, and he cant see any 'obvious' boy bits.
so there is still a chance for pink.

I just read this, sounds really hopeful! getting excited for you!!

[Indira]

Wow applesoup, you look GREAT! Not at all like someone who had 3 kids and is having her 4rd. I now completely understand about your announcing issues..we flew to my italian inlaw family and announced, it was shocking to be honest.
Most people didn´t even say ´congratulations!´ Reactions went from ´Oh wow´ to ´Oh, is it another boy?´
Hello, I´m standing in front of you with hardly a bump, how would I know and is that really your first thought?
And I got a couple ´Oh are you happy about it?´ presuming it was an accident! What the heck?! And all the jokes to DH ´good luck eheh´ ´at least now you´re done, right?´. I feel so much sympathy now for all 3-4-5 and more mums, I never expected this. In the beginning I made a big point about explaining it wasn´t a surprise pregnancy, now I just smile and don´t care if they think that. To be honest some of these people have 2-3 siblings themselves and just 1 or 2 kids and I know their reactions are coming from jealousy.
Fortunately, my own friends and sister have been really excited and happy about this pregnancy

I won´t ask the dr. about the nub, but will look at it myself. I got a picture last time, so I think I will get one now too. I will show you girls, but won´t post on the ultrasound forum if it has an obvious boy nub.

Ah and I would like to contact that person that will pay me and clean my house for a year for going team green

[Indira]

Belle, I´m all with you about freaking out about the scan and down syndrome. I kind off panicked about this last week. With my previous pregnancies I never did any test because we would just have the baby if it had down syndrome.
Now I thought about it a bit and looked at the statistics to reassure myself, eeeks that was scary! At 36 changes are a lot different from when I was 29 and 32. Now I really have no clue what we would do if the baby had down syndrome, I wish I still had that peace of mind I had with the other pregnancies. I´m living in another country now, so I don´t know if they will measure the neck part (sorry too lazy to look up the right term). Fortunately I have been very busy this week so time flew by, now I´m looking forward as well to see my little one.
Oh and I have been miserable between Monday/Tuesday, I had a headache and then vomited a couple of times, I hope this is not starting at the end of the first trimester for me! This happened 2 weeks ago as well, I don´t know if it is some kind of migraine or a pregnancy symptom.
When you had morning sickness, did you have a headache as well, anyone?

Belle and Applesoup, I hope we will see three nice flat nubs in a row...
Although Applesoup, you can get a potty shot perhaps, right?

[applesoup]

Although Applesoup, you can get a potty shot perhaps, right?

Monday is 18 weeks for me, so we're looking for potty shots! Praying the baby isn't shy. I'm really starting to freak out about it.

Indira, sorry to hear about the family's responses to baby #3! I felt like everyone was REALLY excited about #1 & not at all about #2 or #3...and the only way they'll be excited about #4 is if it's a girl. Ya know? I don't know why everyone has to make such dumb comments about it. Is it really their place to "explain" how it happens...as if we don't know?? Frankly, unless I'm living in their basement eating out of their cabinets, it's NONE of their business how many kids I have. I think the "you're done now" comment would've ticked me off the most!!

With me, all I did was *announce* that we were preggo with #3. (No gender comments, hopes, references) & everyone BARELY said "congratulations" (& if they did it was forced) & went straight to gender. I get it & I don't. Obvious another baby will have a gender and change the dynamic of the family. At the same time, can't they just be happy it's a baby?

We find out Monday & will announce next week. If it's a girl I'll probably announce on Tuesday. If it's a boy...I might wait until the weekend.

Starting to brace myself for the pain of disappointment and the realization that I'll probably never have a girl. And apparently God wants it that way. I'm trying to see the blessing in it...but I can't find one. Really starting to think that boy #4 is going to put me over the edge & make me lose it altogether. Stupid hormones don't help. Stupid gender comments won't help.

I've started knitting a little boy infant hat. Although, I don't know how to knit & had to start all over last night!