Can't believe I'm here...

[NYFamilyOfFiveRoses]

I was in your position a while ago. My DD3 is 19 months old. The hardest part for me was being pregnant and dumb comments of everyone asking what the baby is and then saying inconsiderate things. It is hard also when they are young.

As they get older it gets easier because then it is no longer what gender you just had etc. etc.

You will always get "will you try again".

I was the most depressed person for so long and I even feel it is getting better.

[wilma_five]

I know how it feels but trust me, this feeling will fade. You will love your little 3rd baby, the boys will love a little baby brother! Focus on the future!

[Messyhair]

I just found your updated thread - sorry you didn't get to hear what you wanted at the scan. There's always high tech or adoption, but I know it's not quite the same. I wanted a girl so bad for my first because we only planned on having one. I actually got a gender scan done so that I would know what I was having early enough so that I had time to get over the disappointment if it was a boy. That didn't take long, though. He's an awesome little guy and yours will be, too.

[hopingforalily]

I am so sorry! I know exactly how you feel...I was the one who burst into tears on the ultrasound table when I found out DS3 was a boy....at the time we only wanted 3 kids, so at that moment it felt like the end of the world. I do have to say that little boy became the light of my life! Such a sweet little being! I know it doesnt feel like it right now, but it does get easier. Big hugs to you! xoxo

[juffertje2]

We've been there! We can only say big hugs......
But trust me..It does get better. Eventhough you don't want this child at this moment, there comes a time when you will be ready for him! It takes time an a lot of grief!
For now, let yourself have these feelings! Drown in misery, feel very sorry for yourself! Hide in bed and let the tears come! It's ok! And then, in a while, you'll see it does get better!
I konw that doesn't help now...And you feel like you will never ever love this child.
Try to keep in mind, it's not his fault!
I've been there with #3 and #4 again! And trust me, my #3 is my little precious! I look at him, and wonder why I ever had feelings about not wanting him!
And #4 is going to be my child and I will be proud of him!