Uk SMOG Wannabes ~ February

[Babymad]

Inglewood ~ Hope your scan goes well - enjoy

[deaks66]

Babymad, im so glad you are venting to us because its such a lonely thing gd. So sorry dh had to find out that way and that you have had a tough time working through it all with him. I guess thats always going to be the way though as guys just wont quite understand how we feel. I know my dh doesnt get my gd at all and will even be a bit cross with me if i dont get over it fairly quickly which makes it harder as you feel you have a time pressure to get over your feelings. Its such a shame you dont live closer as id make you a big cuppa, get the choccy biscuits out and have a good old cry with you!

You are right too, i know i should be enjoying my pg but the swaying has made me more obsessive over gender than i reckon i would have been had i just ttc normally. Am 100% convinced its a boy and keep having to remind myself how i felt when i went through that horrid first chemical...i would have given anything to keep that baby regardless of gender. Why do we let those feelings get replaced by gd so easily. Its so annoying!

Your sway was great hun, it really was but i think someone up there has different ideas for us sometimes. When i look at photos of you and your gorgeous boys, i think there is wonderful a reason why you have lots of boys...so there are lots of handsome men in the world for the future. And like i said before, not all mums would be so good around boys. Some wouldnt know where to start and you are a natural!

Please keep talking to us about this! Much love X

[Kell]

Deaks I don't know what's worse with regards to dh/dp and having a dg or not.
My dp wants a little girl as much if not more than me and the pressure I feel to produce his princess is really immense!
Just now we were discussing the scan, we are forecast more snow this weekend but it's to early to know for sure how much or when. So at the moment I'm not sure if we will get to this scan.
I know he says things in jest but he said if its not a girl he won't talk to me and that he might sell the baby!
Now I know he's just being stupid, but I know he is desperate for a girl and that he will have some resentment toward me I think if we don't hear pink!
It's just a little to much but I can't say I won't feel gutted if I don't hear pink! I suppose atleast we will understand each other possibly. But I worry about the possible effects it may have on our relationship

[maybebabythree]

Ah babymad. Sorry it's still very raw but it really is still early days. I did cope well at my scan then burst into tears after while shopping. Felt like some one died at the time. Sounds crazy to people who don't get gd but by dream of a dd had literally died, I had always thought I would have a dd since I was a kid. That's a lot to get over because as mums our kids are our world. All our hopes and dreams for them and there future. They are the sun and we revolve around them.

For me what makes it ok is that dave was hard to conceive and my last chance. I have that to remind me he was meant to be as a he'll of a lot of tears was shed waiting for him. My body was not meant to be pg. I don't think I have the chance to try again so I am done and we are complete. Not the way I dreamed it would be but complete as the same. The was a hole missing in our lives but dave has filled it.

It is hard, keep talking to us and you too maybe. Thinking of you xxxx

[indigoviolet]

Maybebaby- what you wrote was lovely, so true. At least we all understand and can be a support for eachother. I love how positive you are about little Dave, so glad you got to that place. he's going to be a little star, can't wait to meet him!

[indigoviolet]

Glad you got one! They do gender determination free at any scans after 16 weeks so good luck!

really? does it say that on their site? I wans't sure if I'd be able to find out as it was a free scan. omg so nervous now!!

[indigoviolet]

Hi all,


Indigo, what a lovely thing for your dh to say! I go through times of the day when im fine with the proospect of another boy and times when im totally not. Im hoping this is me dealing with any gd now and not after the scan...doubt it works like that though.

I know what you mean, sometimes I feel almost fine about this being a boy but that is because there is still hope for a girl, once I know for sure I think it will be a LOT harder. One good reason not to find out I guess. I do feel like I need to get over it whilst still pg if it is a boy to save getting depressed at the birth. Gosh I don't know....
I'm sure you will be fine, try not to worry although I know it is easier said than done, I worried a LOT too. Praying it will be fine with your little bean

[indigoviolet]

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Anyway, know where your coming from and hope that dark place buggers off soon xx[/QUOTE]

Amen to that!

[Babymad]

Babymad, im so glad you are venting to us because its such a lonely thing gd. So sorry dh had to find out that way and that you have had a tough time working through it all with him. I guess thats always going to be the way though as guys just wont quite understand how we feel. I know my dh doesnt get my gd at all and will even be a bit cross with me if i dont get over it fairly quickly which makes it harder as you feel you have a time pressure to get over your feelings. Its such a shame you dont live closer as id make you a big cuppa, get the choccy biscuits out and have a good old cry with you!

You are right too, i know i should be enjoying my pg but the swaying has made me more obsessive over gender than i reckon i would have been had i just ttc normally. Am 100% convinced its a boy and keep having to remind myself how i felt when i went through that horrid first chemical...i would have given anything to keep that baby regardless of gender. Why do we let those feelings get replaced by gd so easily. Its so annoying!

Your sway was great hun, it really was but i think someone up there has different ideas for us sometimes. When i look at photos of you and your gorgeous boys, i think there is wonderful a reason why you have lots of boys...so there are lots of handsome men in the world for the future. And like i said before, not all mums would be so good around boys. Some wouldnt know where to start and you are a natural!

Please keep talking to us about this! Much love X

Ahhh you brought tears to my eyes reading this.... Thanks, means a lot to hear such nice things.

I agree we need to remind ourselves of what we did to conceive these beans and how wanted they were... And still are!!

Maybe~ so pleased you are in such a good place. So lovely to hear xx

I always feel better when I've talked you guys, maybe I need a daily rant on here

Thanks again for everyone's support - really does help xxx

[maybebabythree]

That's what we are here for. I really wish there was a pill or a switch to turn that longing off. I think for me it will always be there, there's no point lying to myself. But like the longing for brad Pitt, it's not going to happen so I can file it away at the back of my mind to gather dust rather than have it on my mind everyday