Failed/delayed O, now what?

[NeedAGirl!]

So this whole cycle has been wacky.

Not sure what to do now. Temps have been goofy. O is late. Have had 2 false + OPKs - I think I have a bad batch of CB Digital strips - I don't think they were LH surges with failed O's as both times the strips looked goofy.

We started with abstinence and broke it after the first + OPK so we dtd early on cd 9. Due to the confusion and O clearly not coming, we ended up switching to double release and dtd on days 10,11,12 and 13 as well. I almost always O on CD12, sometimes CD13. It is now CD 16 and have not O'd. I have this continued mild O like ache in my right side for several days - maybe I have a cyst or something but no thermal shift.

My feeling is that it is not worth any more attempts this month. DH has not released for 3 days and stopped the LR and cranberry then too as he was starting to get headaches and had been on it several days longer than usual due to late O.

The only supplement I am taking is Vitex. Not sure what to do next month to prevent this from happening again. I really hate to increase calories although I need to do better about getting them in general. I don't want to gain weight but I can't lose anymore either. Lost about 19 pounds (from 132 to 113. BMI 21.6 to 18.5) Hoping it will sort itself out...

Should I stop the Vitex now and restart it with the next O?
Should I try to gain weight? (cringe)
Should I just let it ride and see what happens next month?
Oh and what would you do about bd next month?

THanks!

[rainbowflower]

keep temping, you might OV this month afterall

is this your first month on vitex? vitex can really mess up already regular cycles

if you don't OV this month, I wouldn't gain weight but I'd try and maintain. Your BMI is borderline low enough to stop OVing and you can stop OVing if you lose more than 10% of bodyweight too. 19lbs seems like quite a lot so I'm guessing you've lost more than 10%?

[NeedAGirl!]

I will keep temping but don't think we will make anymore attempts... My starting weight was 132 which is about 7 pounds heavy for me. I had been at 16lbs down but got sick at the start of this cycle and lost another 3 without trying. The combo of the sudden weight loss and illness is prob what threw it off...

Oh and I have been on the Vitex since Nov 1. This is the first cycle to be off. My pre-O temps were abnormally high too this month.

[atomic sagebrush]

I think you need to stop the vitex BEFORE you expect to O. I found that sometimes with vitex, I wouldn't O until I stopped it, and once I stopped it I was Oing within 1-3 days afterwards.

I would personally have you stop the vitex, do double release from now till attempt, and try this month because of your weight loss.

I would not have you gain any weight at this point, just hold steady where you're at. It's much better to eat more cals and hold steady than gain to relose!!!

next month, jsut stop the vitex a day or so before when you expect/want to O. Have DH stop licorice root at 2 weeks regardless of whether you Oed. Licorice root MUST be taken 2 W on, 2 W off regardless of when you O.

[rainbowflower]

being ill could also delay OV

[girlmom]

sometimes i would have a delayed O with the vitex, i did last cycle even though i had stopped taking it but i also was fighting a cold. i would stop taking it and see what happens. if nothing else it could just be one of those cycles we all get where we just don't O that month. stress, trying to soon after a m/c or chemical, illness, lossing or gaining weight too quickly. could all screw with your cycle days. if all else fails you still have to only wait a few weeks to try again. good luck.

[Indira]

I don´t think you should discharge this month yet. It happened to so many of us girl swayers that ovulation came after all, a week later or so. When you get a pos OPK DH could do compressed FR if he can do that.
Having a wacky cycle may be a good thing for a girl sway and skipping this month means at least another 4 weeks on the LE diet..

[NeedAGirl!]

My temp was still low this morning so no O yet. Used the last stupid digital OPK last night and guess what, got an error message! I have had nothing but trouble with those. It was the darkest one yet though. Ended up doing compressed FR with 2 more attempts - one last night and one this morning. Only bad thing is that last night after 2 releases on his own, poor DH had trouble getting things done and depsite my best efforts, I had the big O. Arrrggghh. This whole month has been a mess. Seriously, I am done now. Stopped the Vitex yesterday. Just have to let it go for this month. I am not buying new OPKs until AF comes. Will keep temping and stay on the diet and see what happens...

[NeedAGirl!]

Well, I have a true + OPK. FINALLY! Ended up buying the cheapos again and when it was +, double checked it with the pricey digital - got a smiley. So, guess we will see what happens! I had already bought progesterone cream and this whacko cycle confirms to me that I am going to use it as soon as I see my temps go up. (hopefully tomorrow morning it will be up!) Especially since I would otherwise be expecting AF in just about 8 or 9 days from now. I am not making any more attempts. Guess, I'll see...

[zanacal]

Good luck!