cut-off....abstinence or frequent BD??? cut off or BD AF-O?

[mkarntz1980]

Okay I am 30 and DH is almost 33...is that okay age for abstinence?

[atomic sagebrush]

Okay I am 30 and DH is almost 33...is that okay age for abstinence?

YES! I'm only worried about the super-old 40 year olds like myself!

[Kpeanuts]

Hi - this post has been great! I'm 38 and my DH is 42. I think we're going to try frequent release (as much as he can manage), and try for a cutoff. I'm using a Clearblue fertility monitor but it doesn't always show my 'high' days before it hits 'peak' so I'm not sure we'll get much of a cutoff, particularly as my Ovulation day varies from D12 to D18! Also I'm planning to use rephresh and for the same reason, I don't know how much before the 'peak' I will have used it. What would you suggest in terms of a DTD cutoff, and for stopping using rephresh (or best way to use it in this scenario?) Thanks in advance! x

[luvmyluvbug]

This really is a great post full of good info. I am with most of you. Both DH and I are 30 we have one DS 2.5 and he was conceived on ovulation with abstinence. So my plan this month I think will be frequent release DTD but with condom till a cut off of 2-3 days. Using OPK and fertility monitor. Stop at first sign of + OPK. Hopefuly I can figure it out. May try O+12/O+__. Just for fun but who knows. These are tough decisions. GL to everyone.

[atomic sagebrush]

Hi - this post has been great! I'm 38 and my DH is 42. I think we're going to try frequent release (as much as he can manage), and try for a cutoff. I'm using a Clearblue fertility monitor but it doesn't always show my 'high' days before it hits 'peak' so I'm not sure we'll get much of a cutoff, particularly as my Ovulation day varies from D12 to D18! Also I'm planning to use rephresh and for the same reason, I don't know how much before the 'peak' I will have used it. What would you suggest in terms of a DTD cutoff, and for stopping using rephresh (or best way to use it in this scenario?) Thanks in advance! x

Are you also keeping an eye on your three primary fertility signs? http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...ertility+signs Even if you don't want to chart them, just keeping them in the back of your mind can really help pinpoint O a lot. If I didn't know when I would ovulate, I would watch like a hawk for that first batch of EWCM to show up and my cervix to start to soften, then use the RepHresh and antihistamine that day and then BD the next day. It will probably work out to be a perfect 2 day cutoff, most people start to get EWCM 2 or 3 days before they O. If you are able to chart or just pay close attention for a few months in advance (even if it's just your CM and cervix pattern) and compare it to when you O, you will get a good feel for what your body does when it's gearing up to O.

[atomic sagebrush]

This really is a great post full of good info. I am with most of you. Both DH and I are 30 we have one DS 2.5 and he was conceived on ovulation with abstinence. So my plan this month I think will be frequent release DTD but with condom till a cut off of 2-3 days. Using OPK and fertility monitor. Stop at first sign of + OPK. Hopefuly I can figure it out. May try O+12/O+__. Just for fun but who knows. These are tough decisions. GL to everyone.

That sounds like a great plan! It may help to use a spermicide condom in the days before your attempt, something in the spermicide ~may~ have some girl-producing qualities. Not enough spermicide will be left behind to keep you from getting pregnant, but the residue may help in some way. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...ght=spermicide

[Kpeanuts]

Are you also keeping an eye on your three primary fertility signs? http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...ertility+signs Even if you don't want to chart them, just keeping them in the back of your mind can really help pinpoint O a lot. If I didn't know when I would ovulate, I would watch like a hawk for that first batch of EWCM to show up and my cervix to start to soften, then use the RepHresh and antihistamine that day and then BD the next day. It will probably work out to be a perfect 2 day cutoff, most people start to get EWCM 2 or 3 days before they O. If you are able to chart or just pay close attention for a few months in advance (even if it's just your CM and cervix pattern) and compare it to when you O, you will get a good feel for what your body does when it's gearing up to O.

I feel so honoured you have replied to my post already! I've read loads of your replies! I haven't been able to do BBT (I did for my DS) as when he wakes he wants me NOW but I might see if I can manage to start doing it again. I've been monitoring CM and position for over 12 months. I'm pretty good at its position, but STILL not very good at CM as it doesn't seem to be the same every month - is that possible?!! Just read your link for the fertility signs, and I'm wondering if I'm reaching in the wrong place for CM. I've been just reaching around the opening to the Cervix. Is that wrong?? I always get 'wet' CM but is not always stretchy (sorry if TMI). Also I've read people do 'finger' rephresh. Should I try that and if yes - WHERE exactly do I put it :-) Antihistamine - is cetrizine ok or have to be something special? Sorry for the EXTRA questions!! Thanks again x

[atomic sagebrush]

It is totally normal for your CM to be different from month to month, your diet, hormone levels, even the amount of water you've been drinking can all have an effect. Position is the hardest one to get so if you have mastered that, congrats!!

Wet CM is fertile CM even if it's not superstretchy..

Cetirizine is fine and actually my preferred type of antihistamine. Brand name is Zyrtec so if you hear me refer to that, they are one and the same.

Checking the CM around the opening to the cervix is exactly right.

The directions for fingertip Replens are in this essay http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...plens+rephresh I believe in the second post from the top.

[irenerckwy]

Let me see if i remember all this Lol For My first girl i wasnt planning just happened For My second we bd From af to O

[irenerckwy]

@Luvmyluvbug Can You tell me how long was abstinence For ur ds