TTC Girl - March 2012

[nks798]

prayforprincess, I'm thinking of you!!

[Lassie1982]

I need help, ladies! I'm still stuck on if we want to abstain or FR.. DH is 25. any suggestions? I'm a little scared about abstain.. only bc of the low quality sperm.. I know FR is less but higher quality.

from memory, i think the general consensus is abstain for younger men, and FR for older, i think i read something along those lines in one of the essays. I wouldnt have thought quality is an issue for a man at 25.

Atomic will know the answer for sure, maybe post it as a separate question somewhere?

[Lassie1982]

Sorry to hear that PFP
Hopefully now that you 'know' it can give you some finality, and you can take the next steps, TTC again.
Best of luck for march, I cant imagine how disappointed you must be, but try and think positive and pink, for some reason it just wasnt the right time, just believe that when the time is right you will get your pink bundle.

[nks798]

thanks, Lassie.. I sent her a message. I have read where she saids that she suggests that but that she wouldn't do it. so hoping to get some light on that.

Saturday should be CD1 so I'm freaking out right now LOL

from memory, i think the general consensus is abstain for younger men, and FR for older, i think i read something along those lines in one of the essays. I wouldnt have thought quality is an issue for a man at 25.

Atomic will know the answer for sure, maybe post it as a separate question somewhere?

[dannikins]

sorry PFP, that really sucks...

at least you have some answers now.

suregena, whats happening with you, any answers yet?

[PeonyPrincess]

Dannikins, Suregena finally got AF, after 56 days! So her next attempt is in May.

P4P, I am sad that your AF is here. Glad you finally know what is happening though. It is horrible not knowing what is going on with your body when you can't control anything.

[PeonyPrincess]

PeonyPrincess~ what do you think you messed up in Feb?

Hope, I have just been finding it hard to get my head around cycles that are all over the place. I normally get O pains that are mild to medium and last a few hours. So when I started getting those in Feb I thought O was happening and for some reason the OPKs didn't work. So we did our attempts. Anyway, days later I got +OPK, more O pains that ended up lasting for days (totally unusual for me) and my temp eventually spiked saying I O on CD18 (the latest I have ever O). I try to plan some things in advance for when I think I will O, as DH works away. So what I had ended up doing was having him around when I didn't O, and having him away when I needed him.

This month I am trying not to pre-plan and just go with what my body is doing. There is a very small possibility I could get pg from our Feb attempts, but as we have BD much closer to O before and got BFNs I am not expecting anything to come of it. I still have no idea why I got O pains for so many days. Was going to ask the naturopath if I could have had a cyst? Once I did eventually O the pain went away, but it had been quite bad for 4 days.

I have some new words under my siggy to make me remember it will all work out in the end. I just need to stop being a control freak!

[prayforprincess]

I need help, ladies! I'm still stuck on if we want to abstain or FR.. DH is 25. any suggestions? I'm a little scared about abstain.. only bc of the low quality sperm.. I know FR is less but higher quality.

If your dh is that young abstaining is the way to go. Try a couple months and if you do not get a bfp then switch to fr. I am sure abstaining will do the trick though.

Just to add -- my dh is 36 and his sperm is potent!! I am trying abstaining this month. I think it definitely depends on the individual but your dh being that young -- you should be fine.

[amari]

Sorry, pfp and sweetsister- Hope this next month is your month!!

[rainbowflower]

I need help, ladies! I'm still stuck on if we want to abstain or FR.. DH is 25. any suggestions? I'm a little scared about abstain.. only bc of the low quality sperm.. I know FR is less but higher quality.

even though the risks for OLDER men are increased by abstaining I think (from memory) that it's not by a massive amount anyway.. and most damaged sperm won't even make it as far as the egg. At 25 I think you have less to worry about.