UK SMOG Wannabes - March

[deaks66]

littlemiss, how are you? i see you are 16 weeks...are you having a gender scan or will you find out at 20 weeks?

[Kell]

Lavender try looking up soy, I believe ins a natural clomid, I've seen a few girls have success with it on another forum.

[chocolate]

Deaks my brother openly said he wanted a boy, they were told 'boy' at 16 weeks but girl at 20 weeks bless him, however, Im still jealous because obviously he had a preference but got over it easily. She said are you that disappointed that you want a 3rd and he said 'hell no' lol.

She said before she wasnt bothered about having a boy as she had got 'her girl' think by my facial reaction with my son in tow she could tell I was offended that my son didnt inspire her to have a boy lol

[Sunset]

Charlie ~ I'm so sorry you're going through such a rough patch at the moment.. What I wouldn't do to be able to take all your pain away Just know that you don't ever have to apologise to us for how you're feeling! Don't ever feel you need to say the word 'sorry'. You can vent to us all you want! we are all too familiar with GD and that's what we're here for - to support each other through the hard times and the good times. I also think it's very important you know and feel you that you can always talk to us smog ladies. We are all here for you and we would never judge you! If you would like someone to talk to on the phone just know you can always drop me a private pm and i'll give you my number! Me and the other ladies are here for you 24/7! ((hugs))

[Sunset]

Lavenderlime how frustrating for you i really dont have any words of advice i'm afraid.. fx you do ovulate next month and fall straight away!!

[charlieispy]

Congratulations Maybe, so glad your in love, makes me remember it all comes right in the end.

LavenderLime, I would ask about clomid too, research it and take info to back you up. Or ask for follicule tracking although youd need to go daily or every 2days to see whats happening around ovulation time.

Charlie - Big hugs, I know I havent had boy confirmed but there is no way my nub shots could be girl so am 100% sure its a boy. Ive had a bad few days, not sure its gender related, just feel down about my life in general atm. Not getting on with OH, he works all week so I have to work and see to boys all by myself as he isnt home till 11pm and goes to work before the kids are up, so by the weekend Im knackered and wanting him to take over with them a bit but all he does is moan about why should he have to bath them, and why do I make such a mess when I cook HIS dinner etc.
My OH's side and my brother and OH's sister just seem to exclude us from anything they all do together which makes me feel like crap, I dont have much time for seeing friends and then my kids show me up whilst out meeting them. Just feel a bit like Im always chasing my tail and just running out of enthusiasm. Its not directly about this one being a boy but I just KNOW I wouldnt feel like this if this was a girl as Id keep ploughing on.
Im a crap Mum too at the moment, and today, DS1 drew on the wall.



Hope you other ladies are having better days lol

hun x i think you said it for me - if it was a girl it would be easier.....life sucks here too DH always working if he isnt i am i feel so alone even with my beautiful boys i just dont seem to be on the same level as ds1 and 2 x ds3 still is gender neutral he is a dream today after i wrote my me post i sobbed, then i went and had a bath with him - where he covered himself in chocolate face mask then dive bombed me for hugs....it was lovely i cried again but he made me smile he is so loving i just hope i find common ground with them all as they get older. HUGS for your brothers 2nd girl x none of my sisters have kids they will have girls though i know it as they are not fussed at all x

[charlieispy]

thank you all your love means alot x i dont think i could do a phone call but thank you sunset - i would just sob and be a mess but thank you x i am going to try and get a phone call from the doctor tomorrow i think i am going to see if i can try anti depressants something i would never ever do normally not pregnant but i cant take much more - i want to try and get signed off work too they are being shit i have to stand for my entire shift 9hrs (bar 30min break) am meant to have extra breaks risk assessment - well monday the floor was covered in water due to a leak so super slippy and we only had 2 people for lunch cover i said i wouldnt work again if they didnt get more people in (we always normally have 3) well again i am running shift with 1 other person - screw them!!!

lavender - it could be just a random cycle they reckon most people dont o at least one or 2 months a year.....frustrating though HUGS i really hope next month you get a strong O and a BFP x x

[charlieispy]

lavender - if you do get a longer cycle have you thought about temping - so you can pin point O?? I have taken clomid it is pretty horrid for me it works by kick starting my ovaries but i dont fall pregnant on it - only once but that was my MC this pregnancy - i took it one cycle fell the next x i O really late so you do have hope if it is just a late O my earliest O is cd20! This baby was a CD26 ovulation x anyway i hope you get some answers x soy is a natural clomid but i would maybe wait and see what happens next cycle as i have seen it mess up cycles too x

[threelittlemenandcounting]

Lavender Sorry you bloods came back neagative for O just wanted to offer a little reassurance, my cycles when TTC DD were all over the place, My DS3 was 8mths when AF came back and they were failry regular until I started the diet and supps, I think it was probably the vitex that knocked them out, however I had cycles that were very long with O at various diff times, I went to the docs had the same blood tests and mine came back negative for O to but not because I wasn't O'ing but because it was just too early in the cycle to detect it as I O'ed much later than 14 days!

You would think in this day and age a GP would ask questions about how long cycles were and if longer than you ave 14 days then test at diff points to try to identify O has taken place but they dont!!

Anyway I asked about clomid and was told that I would need to try for at least 6 mths and then be referred to Obs and gynae and then they would consider clomid so I knew that I couldn't wait that long.

I took Soy Isoflvannes while trying for dd as they are supposed to regulate O, some say they sway girl as they are supposed to decrease testosterone and some say they sway boy as they increase the ewcm you can have but for me I took a chance

Hope this helps!

[indigoviolet]

Charlie and Chocolate ((hugs)), loads of love to you both. What you say is so familiar. I'm always thinking that everything would be easier if this was a girl at the moment everything a grind. Will write more tomorrow, so tired and off to bed.