Ladies due in Sept/Oct/Nov 2012, gather here!

[Hobbermittens]

Can't wait to hear if you have twins in there, PP!

[Hobbermittens]

Oh, and I had a crazy dream last night that Matt Damon was hanging out at my house... these dreams are getting weirder and weirder!

[Mochagirl]

Because of my ambiguous nub shots, I'm now more anxious than ever to find out the gender. I called the only private u/s place in the area and found out they don't do gender scans until 20 weeks! I said that was ridiculous because we get a free scan at 20 weeks, so what's the point. He explained that recent legislation is cracking down on private places because of the possiblity that people will use early scans to give them a reason to abort. How sad!

Anyway, I'm lucky to live in a densely populated area with lots of other large nearby cities. I found a place about an hour away that says on their website they'll do them at 18 weeks, with a note that they don't guarantee results before 18 weeks. I've emailed them to ask if they'll do one at 16 weeks, so we'll see what they say. It only costs $60, which seems reasonable to me, because they don't use 3D. The only problem is because it's a little further away it'll be hard to do it without telling dh (since I don't want to have to bring the kids with me), and I'm not sure he'll approve of me paying for a scan when I can wait a month longer and get one for free. What to do, what to do??

[Mochagirl]

My DH was sort of supportive about swaying--he didn't really want another baby all that badly and only did it for me. He took his supps and cut back on his drinking and smoking, but refused to quit all together, and we had a lot of issues with him releasing when he wasn't supposed to, etc., and at one point we got in a huge fight and he threatened to pull the plug on the whole thing. He said he would go along with it but said he pretty much believed it was still a 50/50 shot.

This is the way my DH was, except he didn't change his diet or take supps but went along with the frequent release as long as I 'helped' him . He thinks swaying is a bunch of bunk and thinks we have a 50/50 chance no matter what, but stopped teasing me about it constantly when he realised how desperately I want a girl and after I explained that I just needed to feel like I'd tried my best so I wouldn't have any regrets.

[Hobbermittens]

Good luck Mocha--hopefully they will do one for you at 16. Maybe you can tell your DH you are having a girl's day or something with some friends, and then go?

[Mochagirl]

I suppose I could do that, though I know if I find out I'm having a girl I won't be able to keep the secret from him, then he'd know I lied. I'm thinking maybe if I explained to him how anxious I am and that this would help me relax and just focus on enjoying my last pregnancy he might go for it. I also don't have to tell him how much it costs - he's clueless about stuff like this, so maybe he'd think it only costs a little for a private scan.

[auroara78]

Mocha, I think not telling him how much it costs is a great idea...men are generally clueless about money or how much stuff cost unless they are told...i def. think you should tell him exactly like that. I think he'll be reasonable and say OK. How exciting would it be to find out at 16 weeeks! Hopefully, the place will do it.

Hobbers, my DH has a laundry list of whys he does not want it a girl, but I think it boils down to this weird protectiveness he'd have. He keeps saying he doesn't want to go to jail if we have a girl, because he felt like if anyone tried to hurt her, he'd kill them. Also, he feels that a girl would be taken advantage of by boys, and he doesn't like that idea either, and he also worries about having a girl that would get pregnant as a teenager, etc etc. Let's just say, his issues with a girl are very long and most of them stem out of irrational fear. He always tells me, "you don't know how men think, I do!" as a girl would be so easily exploited.

However i think if DS1 was 16 and having sex, I don't think DH would have a problem with it, as long as DS was being careful. If it was a DD we were talking about, I think he'd want to strangle the boy she was sleeping with and put her in chastity belt!

[auroara78]

Oh, I asked him yesterday, "so if we are having a daughterr, are you going to say swaying is crap then?"

He said, "Yeah, I'm going to say the coin flipped in the other direction!"

[purplepoet20]

I guess I am lucky that DH is supportive of everything. He felt bad about always calling DS1 and DS2 boys as soon as we found out we were expecting. He was very well behaved when it came to release because the rule was it's all mine when I want it And he has only called this one a girl so far... he doesn't know I think maybe twins.

My OB Dr called me and said the gender scans have been changed to 22wks because a lot of people in Northern AZ are doing self-abortions so the only insurance covered scanning has changed the gender scan times. I called the nearby private scan place and talked to them about how I want a 12wk scan for a nub shot, a 16-18wk scan for gender, and one later in pregnancy for a 4D of the face... I told them that they do not have to offer any guesses in the early ones only because I know it isn't 100%. They said they are willing to do the scans for me. With there discounts it will be $125 for all 3 scans.

[pinkin2011]

A Quick Little Side Rant:

DH has heard me talk about gender swaying now since September. I don't go and on because he doesn't have a good tolerance of it, but usually he'll listen to me, or comment on things that he thinks seems more 'real' or 'tangible' about swaying....

well yesterday we went to grocery store just us (his grandma watched the kids), and I went on about how opposites can occur when swaying, and he got really huffy and said, "Really? You know swaying is crap, it doesn't work, it doesn't change anything...it's always 50/50!"

I was really surprised by his outburst, and I asked him why he was more supportive or didn't expres that opinion while we were actually swaying, and he just shrugged and didn't have an answer.

I think he's scared that our sway will actually work, since he has this negative thing about having a daughter. I think deep down he is really hoping for another DS. Anyway, he truly made it clear last night that he does not think swaying can help anything, that it's just down to which sperm was fastest/healthest/best "survial of the fittest" sperm was his exact term.

Anyway, it wasn't anything major and it didn't bother me, because he is entitled to his own opinion, but it just surprised me that after months of talking about it, he suddenly got huffy about the subject!

How about your DH's...were they supportive of swaying or did they think it rubish too?

My D/H did NOT support me one bit at all, He thinks its a load of rubbish and if i mentioned anything about swaying to him he would crack! He " Thinks" I get sucked in and as your hubby said its 50/50 and there is nothing you can do about it! He would just laugh at me ... My D/h Is a no mucking about kind of bloke and black or white! But he did say to me as he knew how badly I wanted a Girl , He said if we get another boy We will try and do HT .... Which I am not sure if I want to do that But i got comfort in knowing that I may have a option if I want it... MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!