TTC Girl - March 2012

[prayforprincess]

Prayforprincess~ the temp drop sounds great, O is coming..do not stress bc you will delay it. Friends don't get it, they do just say you need to be happy with whatever it is. Kills me. and your right its not about being unhappy with what you have, Everyone always says they would never trade their little boy for anything in the world, or imagine a life without him, its about what we DON'T have so TRUE..

We are going to get our girls! We just have to... Your Dh is often in NYC, I guess for work..just think of this one day I will meet you there with our DD in tow and have lunch at the doll store American Girl! Its a right of passage! Just picture that not OPK's

My dh does go to NYC a lot for work. He built the Gramercy Park hotel and the Standard Hotel in NYC. A few more hotels coming up in NYC and LA once this economy gets better. He is only down there for the night, home tomorrow afternoon. Wouldn't it be great to meet up with our daughters one day...a dream come true!

So,bummer no attempt tonight.
I am o-ing tomorrow and he will not be home til tomorrow late afternoon.
So o-ing on Friday.
We had 2 attempts Tuesday night (2.5-3 day cut off)
1 attempt last night (1.5-2 day cutoff)

Should we dtd on Friday night? I will be o-ing on Friday so - I don't know. I know he is not releasing at all today. Nor did he take his LR pill this morning and since he did not take them to NYC he won't be taking them tonight or tomorrow morning. Do we even bother with an attempt on Friday?
He would have to release and then we dtd with his 2nd batch 1 hour later. Not so sure though -- I feel like we are running into risky territory there. Only will have used 1/2 app. rephresh on Wedn. morning. So we would have to use some sylk, right; or maybe use a tiny bit of replens tomorrow morning if we are going to attempt tomorrow night.
Thoughts on whether to attempt Friday night and how. Do we even need to, or stick with the cutoff and see what happens. ??

[prayforprincess]

PrayForPrincess, thanks for your beautiful post!!! It brought tears to my eyes and I really do feel it's so true...that's why I still love coming to this site, because no one else in real life "gets" how I feel, but you ladies do, and I love having that support!

It's not about what I *already* have, it's about the element I don't have, an element I want to experience....

I could not have said it better. It has nothing to do with what we have. It has everything to do with what more we hope to experience and that we know something else, some other feeling is out there pertaining to raising our children; and it is something that one can only experience when raising a daughter.
We are not horrible people for wanting to experience that difference, those emotions. Its like experiencing motherhood to its fullest, from every angle. It really is a blessing to be able to experience the joys that come from both raising a son and a daughter because they are soooooo different. Many people don't care and maybe its because they don't look at life as deeply as we do or think as intensely about things as we do. Many people just go through the motions without stopping to really think about it or feel it -- they just do with what is. We just want more, the most -- everything we can experience and feel in motherhood.
That doesn't make us wrong, if anything it makes us more right. Its just unfortunate that others do not see it that way.
I am sure that if I had 3 girls I would want a boy. Boys are so cuddley and loving. My boys tell me all the time how much they love me and how beautiful I am. Girls will never tell us how beautiful we are as they get older -- they will however point out all the wrinkles we are getting and that our rear end is looking flabbier. But that is just girls. Girls go through the moody teen stage where as boys do not as much; but as children boys are wild and crazy and girls are more quiet and cooperative -- they are different. I would feel like I needed to give my husband a boy if I had 3 girls. I would feel something missing. Though I can say that my GD for a boy would not be as great as it is for a girl -- not like I could never live without a son, the way I feel for a dd. But who knows, I don't know how I would feel if the shoe was on the other foot.

[amari]

Sweetsister-I am going to dtd as much as possible with nothing added, I may use Robitussin or Mucinex. How much did you use and when/how often? I am not going to use Preseed just b/c whenever I use any kind of lube it burns me like crazy and I can't even dtd. I got sylk and used a touch once and couldn't do it! I am TOTALLY ready for this to be done too! I just can't do it anymore. My body is finished too. I think I weight too little and not being able to lift weights and eat protein is making me feel weak. I hope this is our month!

Praying-I would dtd when dh gets home tomorrow!

kd-Hate the 2ww, hang in there, sister!

[Lassie1982]

PFP - it certainly seems from everything i have learnt on this site that timing is the least important factor - so with that in mind, id say DTD when DH gets home.
Maybe send atomic a PM and get her thoughts?

Its so hard trying to decide what to do isnt it! Im in the same boat...

[_Lala_]

Hi everyone,
well...you are all going to think I am totally crazy, so please don't judge, lol. DP and I dtd @ 6.30 am yesterday morning, only once. Almost immediately afterwards I felt a bit strange in my lower abdomen, bit hard to explain. After I had got up, had a shower, n taken DS1 to school I was feeling really crampy. This lasted for the entire day - I mean nonstop cramping for the whole day, sometimes rather painful, and i felt n looked rather bloated, until I went to bed last night. I assume that this was ovulation. However the pain didn't stop when I went to bed and I did not sleep well as when I woke up in the night the cramping was still there. It honestly feels like I am about to get my period as I get very crampy and very painful/uncomfortable periods. So I woke up at 6am still feeling really crampy n uncomfortable, thinking this is really strange. If ever I've gotten ov pains it doesn't last 24hrs. So anyway got up at 6.30am (about half an hour ago) which is exactly 24hrs since dtd, went to the toilet n there is pink on the toilet paper. Surely this can't be my period, I am only on CD16, I got my smiley only 36hrs ago, n before I went to bed last night I checked my cervix n it was still high n swallen so I think I am probably still in the process of ovulating. But I must be a crazy person to think that that could possibly be implantation, right? I mean, i know i am an extremely fertile person, but you don't get ov spotting 24 hrs after dtd! Its like days n days after conception.
Can anybody shed any light on what on earth this could be? Its really got me puzzled.

PFP you are preaching to the choir with me sister, i feel exactly the same as you do. I wouldn't replace my boys for anything in the world, they are divine, but the desperation for me to have my own daughter is all-encompassing n something I deal with on a daily basis. I would leave your attempts as they are personally, especially since Dh wouldn't have taken LR n didn't release. I think you're covered.

Amari, KD, Sweetsister- stick with it! Sometimes we all need some encouragement because this is just so hard at times. FX we all get a BFP ASAP so we can start eating normally n living normally again! I think everyone has done an amazing job at sticking with all this swaying n we all should all be really proud of ourselves for the mammoth effort we've put in to this. I hope our daughters can appreciate this when they are older!!

[Mochagirl]

Sounds like ovulation spotting to me, Lala - not implantation spotting. It can be a good sign of strong ovulation. I spotted the day before I ovulated on my BFP cycle (the same day I got my cramps), and it was the first time that had ever happened to me. Good luck!

[_Lala_]

Ok so I've done a bit of reading n I now assume this is ov bleeding, which I never even knew existed! n something I have never ever experienced before. How weird that this occurs the month I am ttc!!
I feel relieved that I now have an answer cos I was starting to freak out thinking something was wrong with me!!! lol. This swaying turns you nutty, I tell you!

[_Lala_]

Thanks Mocha, I've come to that conclusion too! Thank god, cos I thought it can't be implantation n it can't be my period so WTF is going on with my body!! Lol. How odd that it happened first time for you when ttc as well!

[prayforprincess]

Lala- absolutely ovulation spotting. Its not a bad thing. It cannot possibly be implantation spotting. Implantation can only happen once the embryo is 5 days old. Not a minute before. And most embryos implant at 6-8 days. The earliest they can even reach your uterus is 4 days old, and that is not likely to happen. 95% of them time they do not reach the uterus til day 5 and then they begin implanting day 6-8. You could also have a tiny spot of pink or blood from having sex. Happens to me when I dtd around ovulation only...its weird but very common.

[prayforprincess]

ok ladies -- so I got a clear +opk on 2 of my test strip opk's and a Smiley face on the cb digital. I knew it, as always -- I get my +opk on the same day I get my temp drop.
Just my luck dh is away tonight...just my luck.
THANK GOD I did not wait til my +opk this month to dtd...thank god, otherwise this month would have gone right out the window.
I talked to dh...he did take his LR pill this morning. So he will be missing it tonight and tomorrow morning, but I can give it to him when he gets home tomorrow afternoon. Plus, Atomic says that LR stays in your system for awhile after you stop taking it. He is grabbing something to eat right now and I told him when he gets back to his hotel room to "take care" of himself. He is grumbling.."what for, aren't we done?" I said, just incase.
I think I might have him release when he gets home tomorrow and the dtd tomorrow night 1 more time. Maybe just use a dash of replens tomorrow morning in case that is what I decide to do.
I am torn though -- I feel like dtd after I have ovulated....the egg would already be released and any sperm from our 3 attempts would already be there to fertilize it right away. Should I assume that there is enough, or should I take a chance and do it one more time? I just don't know.