Ladies due in Sept/Oct/Nov 2012, gather here!

[TTC5]

Hi ladies,

I really will have to catch up when i get sometime to myself. Im totally stressed out at the moment, tired is not the word for what i feel like at the moment.

Grandad passed away on Tuesday and feels like i am one doing absolutely everything, funeral all organised and i have to go back to Scotland Wednesday for that. I got back late Thursday evening and since then i am receiving phone calls from social workers in scotland as my step grandmother is being a pain and not accepting the care she is being given. She is disabled and grandad did everything for her. They say she needs be in a home but she is refusing. She is taking wrong tablets, not eating (she diabetic) and refusing to have a wash/shower. The calls are coming day and night, they woke me up at 10pm last night. Im exhausted!!!

Saturday mum's cat got poisoned and i had to deal with that also, trips to vets and had to transfer her to an emergency vet, sadly she got worse and also passed away.

My nan now just phoned me to cancel her appt with spinal specialist i was taking her too tomoz.

Can no one in my family do anything for themselves???

Im also feeling sick all day unless i eat so my gastric band isnt working like it should as im constantly snacking!

Sorry for my rant ladies

xoxoxooxoxxoxo

[TTC5]

So I just got back from my 12 wk NT scan. The baby looks healthy; just waiting on blood work. But I saw the nub and it is totally a girl. I knew it would be. Nothing ever works out the way I want it too--I don't know what I was thinking, trying to sway! Who was I kidding?

I am not as upset as I was about DD2, because at least I know I TRIED. But I should have quit while I was ahead. I can't believe I will have 4 kids now, 3 of which are the gender I did not want!

Huge hugs hun but you dont know for sure till bubby is born xxxxxxxxxxx

[TTC5]

Thanks, Hobber. I'm really sorry about the nub. It's possible you were seeing something else, though. Are you going to post a nub shot?

I feel marginally better. I sent a pm to coldwater, asking her to look at my nub shot. She felt like there's an 85 percent chance it's a girl. Now of course i'm worried I'm going to get my hopes up and be even more devastated if I hear boy. I can't win! I'm either sad because I've convinced myself it's a boy or I start feeling positive then scare myself out of it. Blah.

I hear you!!! I have posted my shots on a few forums now and everyone says boy without a doubt! I am so so scared of getting my hopes up but do admit I am a little excited but what if that comes crashing down. I just can't believe that I could be so lucky to have a boy this time. I am torn between excitement and hope and my head telling me no it will be a girl because that is my luck..

[Hobbermittens]

Huge hugs hun but you dont know for sure till bubby is born xxxxxxxxxxx

Thanks TTC5... but I know it is a girl. I knew from the moment I got pg that my sway didn't work--it was just the feeling I got. SO I guess I am not really surprised. I knew swaying wasn't 100%, but I figured I had made a boy without swaying, so I sort of thought I would be a shoe-in, you know? That was my attitude going into swaying. Stupid of me. I should have just quit while I was ahead.

[TTC5]

Thanks TTC5... but I know it is a girl. I knew from the moment I got pg that my sway didn't work--it was just the feeling I got. SO I guess I am not really surprised. I knew swaying wasn't 100%, but I figured I had made a boy without swaying, so I sort of thought I would be a shoe-in, you know? That was my attitude going into swaying. Stupid of me. I should have just quit while I was ahead.

Your not stupid at all. Look at it this way, had you had never tried this time would you have regretted that decision years down the track. I bet you would, you would look back and think, Damn I wish I tried one last time.

Give it some time and believe me when this baby is born, regardless of gender she is going to bring much joy and love to you and the family xoxoxoxoxoxo

[Hobbermittens]

Your not stupid at all. Look at it this way, had you had never tried this time would you have regretted that decision years down the track. I bet you would, you would look back and think, Damn I wish I tried one last time.

Give it some time and believe me when this baby is born, regardless of gender she is going to bring much joy and love to you and the family xoxoxoxoxoxo

I know, I need to think of it that way. But honestly, if I had known 100% that my sway would not work, I wouldn't have done it. 3 kids is hard enough. I know I would be a lot happier at the prospect of a bigger family if I was getting another boy.

[TTC5]

I get what you mean there. I think most of us would stop too in hind sight if it was going to give us the opposite.

[Myloves]

I know, I need to think of it that way. But honestly, if I had known 100% that my sway would not work, I wouldn't have done it. 3 kids is hard enough. I know I would be a lot happier at the prospect of a bigger family if I was getting another boy.

Bigs Hugs to you Hobbermittens , I'm so sorry you're feeling upset There's still a chance you could be having a boy in there! My sister's boy didn't look very boyish at first, (he was shy lol) and he's definitely all boy now. It's not 100% yet, you're only 11 weeks after all. Hang in there, hun x
And I can understand what you're saying too - two of my kids are not the gender I wanted and as much I wouldn't wish them away now, I would've felt the same way as you had before they were born.

[Bumblebee]

So I just got back from my 12 wk NT scan. The baby looks healthy; just waiting on blood work. But I saw the nub and it is totally a girl. I knew it would be. Nothing ever works out the way I want it too--I don't know what I was thinking, trying to sway! Who was I kidding?

I am not as upset as I was about DD2, because at least I know I TRIED. But I should have quit while I was ahead. I can't believe I will have 4 kids now, 3 of which are the gender I did not want!

Thats exactly how I felt when I had my scan, I think I'm having a girl too I could see the nub and it was clearly forked and I felt totally deflated and regretful. I should have left it at two and set myself back to square 1 with a new baby again especially one of a gender I don't want. I still feel really lost these days trying to figure out why this is happening and why it didn't work and why if you flip a coin you get an opposite easily but in pregnancy you can't. I'm just feeling sad I guess I know theres a chance that it could a boy for us like everyone says but when you've seen the scan and you have "that" gut feeling, its hard to be positive.

[Mochagirl]

Your not stupid at all. Look at it this way, had you had never tried this time would you have regretted that decision years down the track. I bet you would, you would look back and think, Damn I wish I tried one last time.

That's exactly why I'm doing this. I had visions of waking up when I'm 50 and wondering 'what if I'd tried again'? I had a lot of regrets after ds3's sway and I wanted to feel like I'd tried my best.