How important is it to keep testosterone level down when swaying pink?

[atomic sagebrush]

I agree, I am one of the most stressed out, highly wound, tense people ever and often lie awake at night consumed with worry. I have seriously had insomnia for like YEARS at a time. With DS 3 I had a super high stress job too. My mom, MIL, and stepmom are all super calm - they get upset of course but just don't get as worked up as I do (all have girls)

Over the last year I have gained some perspective on this - for those who don't know, my FIL is dying of a very difficult, debilitating disease and has not handled it well at all emotionally (refuses treatment and will not agree to several home improvements that must be done that my husband has to do for him), my MIL, who is already disabled from arthritis herself, was diagnosed with glaucoma at the same time and the doctors couldn't get it under control and we thought for several months she was going blind. My teenage son is going to have to move in with them at some point in the future. My husband kinda went off the deep end a bit and was extremely hard to live with for several months. Additionally, he switched to a new work schedule to help with his dad - he now only works 3 days a week, the job pays less as well, we had no money, were traveling constantly - it was extremely rough.

And my mindset really was different than it has ever been in my entire life. I cannot put it into words really but my normal response is that while I do get stressed out and worried and think I can't handle something, I am always planning and scheming and trying to figure out what I can do to make things better (worry can actually kind of calm me down because it's how I plan). In this case there seriously was nothing I could do to make anything better because everything was utterly beyond my control. I couldn't fix anything because it was all other people's actions making us all miserable, and many days it was all I could do to get thru the day one step at a time and thinking no further ahead than what I was going to make for dinner that night. I would literally count the minutes until I could just go to bed every night, even tho I would lie awake worrying at least no one could talk to me and make things worse. It changed me on a fundamental level and I KNOW that while I've really honestly thought I was stressed out at other times in my life and of course I WAS, the most stressful thing is to not be able to control anything in your life and it is a totally different feeling than what most people call stress. And BOY is it different than the kind of stress you get from swaying!! Like night and day different. Almost like an entirely different emotion that needs a new word. Because swaying is all about hope and planning and doing things that you feel are going to make some difference...it's a whole different ball game when there is this stress and worry and you can do nothing to change it other than endure. But no one could have told me any of this had I not experienced it myself.

My point is just that I don't want people to get stressed/obsessed over swaying and justify it because of this one study and think it's going to sway pink for them because I really don't think it will.

[Wishing4Princess]

AS, just curious, what's your zodiac sign?? you sound alot like me. haha

[atomic sagebrush]

AS, just curious, what's your zodiac sign?? you sound alot like me. haha

Gemini!

[Wishing4Princess]

ahh, interesting! I'm a virgo..but always stressed..total mess, always trying to 'create new plans'..sucks to be me sometimes. I feel bad for my dh and the rest of the family who deal with me..I also have 2 boys.

[amari]

Atomic-Hope things are more relaxed for you now. Sounds like you went through a pretty rough patch.

I guess I do use planning as a coping strategy! I try to be much more relaxed now too.

[fresas]

AS, I'm really sorry about the stuff going on in your life. That is beyond tough and yes, you are very right that it is very different than swaying stress.

[atomic sagebrush]

Things are def. going better for now, thanks you guys.