UK SMOG Wannabes - March

[chocolate]

Hi all, I am still reading these threads, just not posting much at the moment, but am reading :-)

Charlie, glad your results are back so you can start some treatment, that won't help with feeling low. I seem to have little blow outs at OH on the weekend, nothing too major but I end up ranting how he gets his career, not 1 but 3 bloody boys, company car, easy life whilst I work my arse off all week for 6k a year, up to my eyeballs in washing and ironing etc. and just feel like a skivvy and this isnt how I wanted my life to be. And now I know I wont have a daughter Im doing all the hard work for all the makes in the house who will one day just move out without a thank you and be back at christmas if Im lucky. The rant helps even if it is a bit illogical and dramatic, it just expresses a bit of how I feel.

Ive decided though that I just can't justify going high tech, we need that money and I wont cope with the process and we will all suffer awfully if it doesnt work, and even if it does work we'd be skint afterwards. Ive had a happy few days buying the boys some very cute clothes, going on day trips, enjoying the sun and buying myself nice girly bits so need to focus on that for now. Enjoy what I can, we will probably have a 4th in about 3 years, maybe more if we ever had the money to move but think 4 will be it, not sure about swaying. I do know we will def. only start trying to conceive over summer as all the March onwards babies round here are girls conceived in summer! Anyway, thats me up to date for a while, oh and Im thinking of doing some evening work after this ones maternity leave ends. I only want to work maybe 6pm till 930pm so not sure Id earn a lot of where Id get a job with no experience, maybe a supermarket, waitressing type thing.

Inglewood, I cant believe where the time has gone, will def. be popping in to see pics!

Zanacal Yes I saw atomics news, was shocked. Pleased for her obviously but it was nice having a swaying type coach with all boys to relate too, but I guess we still know she has been where we all have so would still understand. Can also understand why she didnt disclose ttc whilst running this forum etc.


Hi to everyone else

[pinga]

Charlie - sorry to hear things got so low for you. But at least DH now sees what is going on with you. The midwife sounds as though she could be a huge help. Hang in there... when they get a hold on your anaemia etc you'll hopefully feel a bit brighter. Its going to be a tough few weeks until your gorgeous little baby arrives... I don't think anything will get rid of the ache of not having a daughter but he will give you so much joy. You will have 4 people who love you so completely. I know it doesn't help that much... I find I don't really want to talk about the baby all that much... I just want to get to the end of the pregnancy so I can hold him and shift this negativity. Don't worry about me me me posting... if you need to talk.. here is the best place for it!!!

chocolate - sorry you're feeling down too.

having a sick day today - boys in childcare and no working. Feeling very nauseous and blerggg. Must have caught a bug... so forgive my lack of personals... I"m going to drag myself back to the sofa to lie there and feel sorry for myself. Only this week and then we're on School hols so DH will be home for 2 weeks!!

[Sunset]

Hello everyone sorry i've been missing over the weekend. I'm poorly myself now and has been glued to the 'The hunger games' book in bed so haven't been online neither on here or fb..
hope you've all had a lovely weekend

Charlieispy ~ it sounds like you're getting great support which is so so important.. i hope once you're not anemic anymore that you will start too feel a bit better. Thinking of you!!

pinga ~ hope you feel better soon!

inglewood ~ eek, not long to go!

maybebaby ~ how's dave doing?

petal ~ hows oakley?

[Babymad]

Hi Folks......

Hugs to all those poorly peeps.... xxx

Charlie ~ So pleased your DH is helping out more, it really helps! And I hope they get you sorted with your iron levels, I'm always anaemic too, its not nice. Great that your MW specialises in depression (I have always suffered with depression in pg too) and GD - pass her my way when you've finished I do think talking about it and having that support makes such a difference and really makes you feel better - I would love to have someone to talk too.
You are doing so well xxx

Indigo ~ How are you hun??

Deaks ~ Hope you are feeling ok?

Maybe ~ Hows Dave doing? Are you getting much sleep?

Chocolate ~ Good that you know what the future holds for you in ttc - at least thats one step forward. Hang in there x

I haven't seen atomics news as I don't get on here much and I only have time to come on this thread - can someone update me please??

I saw the MW last week and she was really concerned about me so off I went back to the doctors for the third time!!!
she didn't seem too concerned that I said I wasn't coping or managing and just gave me some sleeping tablets! the level of care can be so poor. Luckily the sleeping tablets have helped and I have had two decent nights sleep after many weeks of illness and insomnia they were very much needed!! I nearly collapsed in Sainsburys last week and I have to stop the car when driving as I get so dizzy! So I'm still having a crap time.

The weather has cheered me up though - even though I did spend 4 hrs on Saturday cleaning our patio!!!...back ache and knackered was not the word!!

I have bought a new pushchair for cubs which has cheered me up to - I got the Maxi Cosi Elea in Red, should hopefully be here this week

Inglewood ~ Hugs hun, hope you are feeling better today x

Well better crack on as should be working

[Wishing4Pink]

Hi Wishing, hope ur well? When are u starting ur sway? still April?

I can't offer any BF help at all, I managed to BF ds1 for 4 days before getting Mastitis and Dh had to call the doc in as I was literally bonkers! Was confused and sleepy, so doc told dh to give him a bottle and let me get over the infection.
Ds2 I managed 3 wks, which was awful, I was SO depressed about it all, my milk was coming out so fast that he was choking and vomiting constantly and had terrible reflux, my dad then had a stroke when he was 3 wks old and I had to spend so much time at the hosp I gave up and gave hime a bottle.

So this time, as much as part of me wants to try BF, I'm not! Dh has begged me to seriously think what's best for us all as a family and doesn't want to see me confused or depressed again. He's happy they will be bottle fed, then he can help, or I'd be so exhausted. Was a difficult descion to make after starting to BF both boys, but best for me and my family. I have a friend who BF her last 2 kids only and they are the sickest kids ever!! So makes me wonder what is the best thing to do. Although out of my 2 boys, ds2 was fed longer (not that much) but is def the healthier kid.

Hi inglewood, can't believe your little girls will be here shortly!! I'm going to start the diet after the easter holidays, makes sense with all the chocolate that will be around and then i can enjoy the break with the boys. So i'll prob be attempting in may now. For some reason i'm just not in a rush for it all now, maybe cos so much needs to be done to the house or scared of ending the dream for a girl, i'm just not sure. Need to sit down with the other half and discuss, which is a task in its self, lol.

I hope all those that are feeling poorly or down, feel better soon. Wish i had a magic wand to make things better, sending lots of hugs instead

Hello to everyone else!!

x

[maybebabythree]

Sorry to those still feeling low, thank god the sun is out! Babymad - depression is a hard place. I think
If people see you can function they don't understand. A life of just getting by isn't enough. I get pnd but so far I feel great! Maybe more sleep and more sun you will be on your feet again.

Atomic is expecting a girl after four boys (I think it's four?) I mostly stay on this thread as on my phone. Not sure it's a good idea to go back to my ig days where lived on the pc.

Chocolate I dream of ivf but really I couldn't do it. If you look at the threads on here more fail than succeed and it takes more than one go. I might have anotherbefore I turn 40 but I know it wouldbe a boy.

[maybebabythree]

Save is a good baby and sleeps from midnight to 4-5 or even six mOst nights. But I am still finding feeding hard and painful! I want to carry on but maybe some women just don't get on with it? Seems so unfair as it's been three weeks and it still hurts. I can't get him to make a wide mouth :-(

[deaks66]

Hi all,
Sorry havent been able to post much lately, just catching up on posts now and so sorry to hear a few of you are suffering so badly. Wish i could make it all better but pretty sure i will be joining you in a few weeks time. This pregnancy couldnt be anymore similar to my boys!
Babymad, glad you have chosen a lovely new pushchair...roll on some sleep and soon being able to push your beautiful new bubs around in the sunshine! I think its cruel that us gd ladies feel we need to find out early in order to get our heads sorted but in turn that leaves a long pregnancy feeling down. We cant win!
Charlie, ghope the anemia disappears soon with the medication. Great that you have got to the bottom of it, that dh is bring more understanding (shame we have to shout at them for that to happen hey?!) and that you have a great midwife who understands gd. You must feel much more supported.
Pinga, chocolate, am feeling for you too. We need these beautiful boys here now so we can start to enjoy them!
Inglewood, getting close! Thinking of you and your poor back!
Sunset, hoping your family is improving and there are less bottles of medicine on the go!
Hope and dreams, where are you in your cycle?
Hi to everyone else, wishing, lavender, maybe (glad you are loving little ashton despite the pain!) X

[chocolate]

Hey everyone, Pinga hope your feeling better, a little one I looked after on Friday threw up fish pie everywhere, nearly made me sick! Thankfully none of us have been sick
Sunset, not you poorly as well, hope your better too!
Babymad, glad the tablets gave you a few nights sleep, I am terrible with anything less than 8 hours sleep, would be so snappy
Wishing4Pink, I think May would be my time of year to ttc, I know there are so many theories but all my friends seem to conceive girls in the summer months, Ill be ttc our last baby over summer as we havent done that route yet.
Maybe3, the IVF idea was a nice way to break myself into accepting another boy as I was then able to enjoy it as I knew that was my back up plan. My working hours have been halved and Im having so much fun with my boys that I could not give all this up to save up for IVF so thats the decision made. We will use the money to finnish doing the house up, maybe move one day and just enjoy days out and not worry financially.
I found breastfeeding painful with DS1 but DS2 was ok, I remember though a midwife showed me how to squueze the bob above the nipple and below to mould it into more of a sausage shape to make a bigger section to pop into the mouth. Do you have another midwife who can help? Lanishosh cream was the best for me, Sainsburys have 25% off baby bits I think, may end today though but I got mine from there last time as it was expenses. The first 6 weeks of feeding is def. the hardest.

Deaks are you going to try to get a nub shot? I kinda wished I didnt because it was such an obvious boy nub it was like hearing 'boy' but at least I sort of prepared myself. No way around it though as I would hate to get excited and then feel devastated. Wish I could just skip the whole ttc and pregnancy bit and just be told your having a boy here he is lol, none of that wondering in between.

I went to the drs today because I have felt absolutely no movement all day today, they found the heartbeat straight away, very odd, baby must be having a huge resting day. Wont now though as I just ate an Easter Egg lol

[deaks66]

why didnt i think of breaking open an easter egg?!!!... got loads of them and just settled for rice crispies with golden syrup on top to satisfy my constant sweet cravings!

Dont think i will outright ask for a nub shot but will be watching closely and will ask for a couple of pics as dh cant make it. My ds2's nub shot was so so SO obvious that i too found it hard knowing boy for so much of the pregnancy. But at the same time i dont know if i can help myself. I have pretty much convinced myself this one is a boy so i feel like i am already preparing myself which i didnt for ds2.