Ladies due in Sept/Oct/Nov 2012, gather here!

[purplepoet20]

purple- I think you said you guys will move ? So hopefully he don't have to put up with this woman's much longer.
I wish you would have a scan!
I have no feeling what is the baby I don't care at all (sounds bad) but I had such a strong feeling I don't want more baby's ect it's really bad...
I will have a 12 weeks scan but I also can care less about that.

DH was offered a job a few mths ago but he was nervous because he heard rumors of budget cuts so he turned it down. Just recently they layed off several people who worked in the same field he applied for. He has had 5 interviews in the last 2wks and all are in his current field of work and also not in a public fund so the chances of being layed of are not possible. Since he is a City empolyee it is best to stay away from his old job because it is payed with public (taxes) funds. He is currently in a utility job so he is paid with private fund. He wants to stay in AZ so he can still retire at 54 but one of the jobs he interviewed for is close to his parents but he would have to wait until 65 to retire.


I was the same as you where I stopped caring for awhile but now I really can't wait to find out. I will need the next 20 wks to prepare myself.

[purplepoet20]

I can't help it it's not my fault I just can't! Im thinking must be hormones because what else? And I feel everyone is judging me because of this. Maybe I should never had posted about it.
i never feelt like this with the other pregnancys and i had a lot!

I was very moody and hormonal with my boys. It was hard to deal with it with DS2 because once I knew boy I was worse. I understand you may have it worse with 4 girls already but at least they are all there for you. You don't need anyone else in this world!

[Mochagirl]

Oh Flava, hun - no one's judging you - we're just worried about you! I really think you should talk to your midwife (or maybe your doctor since your midwife is being so useless about your m/s) about your feelings. Depression during pregnancy is a real, treatable, thing. Hopefully what you're going through is just due to hormones (and maybe due to this being a boy so different from all your other pregnancies ), but if it's something that's not going to get better soon on its own I'd like to see you get help so you don't feel so hopeless.

Never worry about sharing your feelings here - we're not here to judge - we're just here to watch over and care for each other when it feels like the rest of the world doesn't understand what we're going through.

[Flava]

Im just hopping when the m/s and the tummy burning is better I also will feel better. It's a lot easier to wait if we are not sick.
I ONLY have a midwife no doctor. It's a birth center and everything I need what they can't do there like u/s or if I need to see a doc,they send me to a place they work together with.
The u/s place is the same I went to when I was pregnant with DD3 and 4 and saw a doc. not a midwife. lol

[Hobbermittens]

I've fainted on the toilet before, but only when I was sick with the flu/fever. Once luckily dh heard me moaning and came in a caught me before I fell and hit my head on the bath. I hope you're ok. Are you feeling fine now that you rested?

Yeah, totally fine! Weird! I am having tummy pains a little, like I might get diahrea, so maybe I am coming down with a flu thing? I have to take DD2 for her 2 yr appointment in about a half hour, so I might ask our family Dr. if he thinks I should be concerned about the fainting thing.

[rainbowflower]

Flava - as Mocha says, noone is judging you.. just worried! perhaps it's hormones/sickness making you feel more sensitive, but it could also be the start of antenatal depression so please do talk to your MW/doctor if you carry on feeling low

[auroara78]

Flava, no judgement here, really. I went through that not giving a care hormonal mess too for a few weeks of this preg, and now that my DH is so depressed/sensitive/whatever I'm kinda regretting it again, esp. if I hear boy, I know I will be really upset at myself for pushing thru a preg. when things weren't the best, but when is it ever *ideal*?

Big, big hugs and Flava I really believe this will resolve itself soon, hormones do play a big part in it.

Flava, apparently a problem adding to DH's depression is that once the kids are settled into activities, I hop onto my online game and play and he just sits there, lonely. I have asked him to join me on this game (we actucally MET playing this same game years ago) but he hates the game now and won't paly with me and says i'm ignoring him, etc etc. But I need some kind of outlet too...I tried just coming home from work, watching TV with him and taking care of the kids but i got very ZZZZZ....playing the game for a lil bit or just even knowing it's "there" makes me feel like i got a lot going on and makes me feel like I have options of other things to do besides just kid stuff all the time. (God now I really sound bad....)

He says he can't handle me palying it. I just started playing it agin at the end of Feb and it just makes things more relaxing for me, though I have to admit, i haven't been as good as a mom because my focus is on the game instead. I know he's right deep down, but this was exactly the kind of burying my head in the sand activity I needed before I found out what the baby is, hehe.

Hobbers, I woudl totally ask the DR while you're there just to get his/her opinion.

[auroara78]

Maybe I'll jsut get crafy and start making things and aspire to be as good as Doula Mama one day at crafting!!!!

[LolaInLove]

What game(s) are you all playing? I just play Angry Birds on my phone, but I can do it for hours! I think it is both stimulating and relaxing at the same time to play online games.....well, the ones like Angry Birds and the like....I have never played the warcraft ones or whatever where it's a whole scenario, just the little brain games. My DH will play online poker (the free kind where you don't bet actual money, thank goodness) for hours too.

[Mochagirl]

I ONLY have a midwife no doctor.

Do you have a family doctor you could go to? Who do you go to for check-ups or ailments when you're not pregnant?