UK SMOG Wannabes APRIL

[deaks66]

Well i have my fx for you aurora! Weird that i know gender of mine and you are a month ahead of me! Girls can i ask how long it took most of you to get to the point where you stopped crying and felt ok with idea of boy all day without having meltdown? Really cant remember with ds2, think it was around 4 days but then i knew for sure that i would get a shot at another baby in the future.

[maybebabythree]

Deaks tbh it took a while, with the pg hormones trown into the mix I think your looking at weeks not days. Some being good and some bad

[indigoviolet]

Maybe- have you heard from the school? I hope ds2 gets in as well.

Deaks- I was the same, fine in a way having ds3 but can't let go of idea of a daughter. I hope you keep feeling a little better each day.

It's funny how we all think the same things.

Charlie- I was about to say the exact same thing as petal that I love all your boy's names. Might ask if I can maybe use one of them for ds3?

[maybebabythree]

Deaks - where did you get the sex confirmed? The two best clinics I know (fetal medicine at Harley St and Dr Penman in Kent) would not want to sex with 100% accuracy at 13 weeks. I know Harley St do get it right at 12ish weeks but they are the best of the best AND only give people a guess - they don't offer it as a service (I only know they get it right as a aside as I have been looking into early tests for downs and spina bifida. I wasn't looking for early sexing. BTW Dr Penman in Kent is the person for that - even he waits till 16 weeks). Sorry just being nosey. I just think its still too early to say for sure. Not to give false hope or anything like that. I just think its going to involve a lot of inaccuracy.

[deaks66]

Thanks indigo and maybe... so glad i have you all, its such support! Cant believe i know gender at 14 weeks, god this pregnancy is going to last forever! Been looking at pgd tonight and its a minefield! Wouldnt have any idea where to start and the procedure is hardcore hey?! Trouble is with dh never here in the evenings, being left to my own devices is dangerous...need to stay away from the computer!

[maybebabythree]

Indiogo - just found out ds2 got in!!! SOOOO happy!!! Love that school! PHEW....

I wanted to copy one of Charlies DS names too! Funny as our boys could be in the same class with the same name and if I didn't know you IRL we would have thought it was small world to have two sets of three boys and share a name ;¬)

BTW just found out dh has these spine dimples too! Coincidence? I think not!

[deaks66]

Deaks - where did you get the sex confirmed? The two best clinics I know (fetal medicine at Harley St and Dr Penman in Kent) would not want to sex with 100% accuracy at 13 weeks. I know Harley St do get it right at 12ish weeks but they are the best of the best AND only give people a guess - they don't offer it as a service (I only know they get it right as a aside as I have been looking into early tests for downs and spina bifida. I wasn't looking for early sexing. BTW Dr Penman in Kent is the person for that - even he waits till 16 weeks). Sorry just being nosey. I just think its still too early to say for sure. Not to give false hope or anything like that. I just think its going to involve a lot of inaccuracy.

Thanks maybe. I went to a private clinic where i live and it was so so so obvious! Massive boy nub sticking right up. After all the nubsessing i have done over the years dont think it could be mistaken for anything else. Even the sonographer was absolutely certain!

[maybebabythree]

I didn't think the nub theory was so well known. I had my downs scan at 13 weeks and tbh I knew it was a boy then (too many years on IG) but saying that I would not have bet my house on it being a boy IYKWIM? I think that once you know for 100% sure and buy some things and think about what baby will look like in them and what baby will be like you will feel so much better. Right now its just feelings of it's not my DD, but soon that will change more to - this is my son, I wonder will he look like the boys? Will he like what they do? What colour will his hair be? What will he be like? Once you start to think about the baby as a person as it gets more real I think you will feel so much better. They don't really feel real at this stage as there is no bump or kicks, just the poop things like sickness and tiredness. Nothing nice to counteract that yet.

[deaks66]

I didn't think the nub theory was so well known. I had my downs scan at 13 weeks and tbh I knew it was a boy then (too many years on IG) but saying that I would not have bet my house on it being a boy IYKWIM? I think that once you know for 100% sure and buy some things and think about what baby will look like in them and what baby will be like you will feel so much better. Right now its just feelings of it's not my DD, but soon that will change more to - this is my son, I wonder will he look like the boys? Will he like what they do? What colour will his hair be? What will he be like? Once you start to think about the baby as a person as it gets more real I think you will feel so much better. They don't really feel real at this stage as there is no bump or kicks, just the poop things like sickness and tiredness. Nothing nice to counteract that yet.

Thanks hun, yeah i long for the day where i truly come to terms with it. At the moment it feels like im barely keeping my head above water, panicking into looking into pgd, worrying about how i will cope with the next 6 months. Actually just want to love being pregnant and feel totally fine with no dd ever. Doesnt help never having dh around.

[indigoviolet]

Aww Deaks hon, it is hard when dh is away a lot, gives you time to brood (I have the same problem). I agree with maybe though that once you get into the 2nd trimester it will be more like a real baby and your lovely son. Give yourself a break and a bit of time, you WILL feel better and get through this and love your little man to bits. I know the desire for a daughter, we all do, but it is also so good to have people like petal and maybe who have got through it and show us that it is possible to have a 180 degree turn in how they felt. And at the moment I can say the same for me, I feel at peace about my new boy and have lost a lot of the desire for a daughter, just trying to focus on now and enjoying the pg. we are here for you and moan away but it will get better the news is still raw for you.

Maybe- that would have been so funny with the name thing! Even if we had never put 2 and 2 together and realised our boys were at the same school, our boys will be in the same class (and could have had the same name) and we might never have known the connection! SO glad ds2 got into the school, what a relief.