Timing Question!

[Mommasita]

I got a + OPK yesterday morning with FMU. We had BD the night before. Then, I got -OPKs the rest of the day. We did not BD last night. Then I got another + OPK this morning. So, for TTC a girl, should DH and I BD again tonight?

I am loosely following the LE diet, but i haven't lost weight. I take cranberry, vitex (1000 mg), acidophilus, folic acid, cal/mag. I don't exercise, and I drink t 3-4 cups of peppermint tea per day. I have been taking Zyrtec (Reactine here in Canada), but I still seem to have EWCM. I have also been using Rephresh every 3 days, and I did use it yesterday morning after our attempt th night before.

What do you think? Should we hold off BDing tonight and hope for a O-3 conception? Or should we go for it and risk the boy timing?

This is our first month trying.

[rainbowflower]

if you BD again tonight I'd do compressed FR and release and discard the first "lot" and then BD with the second (within 8hours) to ensure sperm count is lower. Otherwise it'll be 48hrs since he had last released and that's very blue.

[atomic sagebrush]

I agree with rainbow, it's not the timing you should worry about, it's the frequency!! Timing doesn't sway, but BD every 2-4 days does seem to sway blue.

Personally, I would leave it for this month since it is your first month trying. If you do want to BD again, I second Rainbow's advice of compressed FR and would actually have you DTD even sooner than 8 hours - as quickly as possible after the first batch.

[Mommasita]

Hmmm...does this mean that if I O today or tomorrow and there was 3 days between O and our last attempt I would be in the boy zone? I didn't seem to have EWCM when we last BD.

Argh! I thought I had a decent sway this cycle!

[zanacal]

Hmmm...does this mean that if I O today or tomorrow and there was 3 days between O and our last attempt I would be in the boy zone? I didn't seem to have EWCM when we last BD.

Argh! I thought I had a decent sway this cycle!

No it doesn't! I think maybe you're getting confused between the time between BDing an O and the time between BDing and potentially BDing again! It's 2-4 days between attempts (ie. each time you BD) which sways blue - not how near or far you BD from O.

[Wishing4Princess]

No it doesn't! I think maybe you're getting confused between the time between BDing an O and the time between BDing and potentially BDing again! It's 2-4 days between attempts (ie. each time you BD) which sways blue - not how near or far you BD from O.

Zana, just to make this real clear for myself and other ladies wondering (although, Atomic explained to me a few hundred times already ..lol).......TIming near or far from ovulation does not sway boy or girl. it's the frequency of BD or abstain + all the extras like diet, stress, EWCM, that sways. right??? so shettles method is wrong. am I right?. 2-3 days = girl and ov= boy..is wrong.

[Cinss]

Yeah all the timing methods create boys and girls, you can't rely on timing as a sway stratergy. Also i am pretty sure you are not supposed to use FMU with OPKs. You can get false +s doing that.

[Mommasita]

Okay, now I'm even more confused. So based on timing (3 days before O) I am not swaying either way, but because we were BDing every second day I am in blue territory?

[Wishing4Princess]

Yeah all the timing methods create boys and girls, you can't rely on timing as a sway stratergy. Also i am pretty sure you are not supposed to use FMU with OPKs. You can get false +s doing that.

Cinss, with clear blue digital opk, it's recommended to use the FMU. I have been doing that for 4 cycles now and it worked just fine for me. Not sure about the regule opks.

[Wishing4Princess]

Okay, now I'm even more confused. So based on timing (3 days before O) I am not swaying either way, but because we were BDing every second day I am in blue territory?

sorry to confuse you Mommasita. hope someone else can chime in and clear up the timing mess.