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[maybebabythree]

Kell - Defo mention your hands to the midwife - weird to be swelling so early on in cold weather. Fuzzy feeling could just be your cold and the strain of being pg with two little ones to look after.

Chocolate - I don't get the 'Three boys your mad' comment very much. It must be the look in my eyes lol! No one dares! But I don't get many 'oh three boys how lovely!' either (apart from other mums of three or more, they all think it's the best thing ever). Generally people think your mad to have more than two kids - so I really think those comments are aimed at having three children. It's not aimed at your three boys IYKWIM?

One child = selfish perents - your child will be lonely
Two children = perfect, you passed on your genes and they have company
Three children = your insane, you don't know about birth control, poor kids have to share their shoes as you have no money
Five kids = Why has no one made a documentary about your bizarra life style choice!

But thats just the way I peoples opions come across to me. MIL said all of the above to me.

No kids - Why don't you have kids? Your selfish and career driven
DS1 - he will be so lonely, your selfish and career driven
ds2 - No bad comments
ds3 - Was this baby a mistake?

So basically don't worry about what other people think.

[deaks66]

Hi all,

Pinga, its pants when everyone around you makes girls so easily! One of my best friends is about to have her first dd after 4 boys and although i am totally jealous, at least she knows what we have all been through. But those that make girls as their first and second babies.... jeeeeese, its so annoying ha ha

I have totally come to terms with ds3 now and really excited. Designed a quilt for him but starting simple and making a cushion to go with it first! Its got an airedale on the front for which i used a Cath kidston template of her stanley dog which is just a small version of the airedale. Cant wait to get it finished then start the quilt properly! But the fact that we are going to definitely do pgd has probably helped sort my head out... just cant decide whether i would be mad to go for it summer 2013 bearing in mind ds3 will only be 10 months old then!

Maybe, you are so right with your quotes!! And i totally agree, who cares what other people think!

Been lovely to be outside today! Hope you are all enjoying the sunshine too! X

[auroara78]

maybe, you are 100% right!!!!!!!

I know when I posted about the 3rd preg on my facebook I got a lot of "wow....." comments from ppl who ONLY have two kids and it about blows their brains right off that I'm going for a THIRD because wow that is so crazy, right?

LOL

Maybe if I go for a 4th in a few years, that'll snap their heads right off!

[Inglewood]

No way, wrote a huge message and it's vanished!!!
Now no time to re-write it all....damn keyboard!

Was roughly how I get alot of comments about going 2-4 kids and were the twins a 'double surprise' as in unplanned and I say "no, a baby was planned and we were blessed to have 2" and how having to order a 2nd green wheelie bin being a LARGE family now made me laugh!

We finally got a new car, Honda FRV (6 seater) very nice, shame I can't drive yet! Maybe tom?? Girls 4wks old tom!! time going so fast.

Hope ur all well, sorry I don't get on to catch up these days, have a good excuse, lol but hate missing out on how u all are. Fb good for a quick nosey... Charlie, love ur bump pic!

Wish I was 'crafty' decided to do the girls room (when loft conversion for boys done) Red and Cream rather than traditional Pink. Thankfully my MIL will make the curtains and cotsheets, but so wish I could make them something, will try and do something, even cushions??

Take care, better start tea. x

[maybebabythree]

The feeling of three children being a big family is totally strange to me - it's just one than the 'norm' but evidentally just one more is just one to many lol! Even my doctor seems to disaprove and HE has three!!!!!

Wow deaks your thinking of IVF! Good on you if you decide to go down that route. DH told me that someone he works with just came back from Cyprus and DH was asking him where he went and what was it like as I wanted to go - lol! I can't belive he hasn't decided I am mad and divorced me yet!

I'm still not sure if I am done. I don't think mentally I will ever be done. But I have enough boys - I think - whats a girl to do??!! I know one thing. If I ever did have a DD I would never be a smog.

Todays heart melting moment with my 'crowd' of boys was when I kissed Dave on the lips with his mouth open. It makes a funny sound and 100% gauranteed to make him beem - oh too cute :¬)

Inglewood - I remember you talking about tax credits a while back? I phoned them last week and they said I get nothing dispite not working for most of the tax year. I phoned again today as I had worked out my childcare cost slightly wrong and now they say I am entitled to £49 a week!!??? Maybe worth phoneing again now the girls are here.

[deaks66]

Maybe, i love reading how loved-up ds3 makes you... can't wait to have that feeling again! I guess i always knew that if i had 3 boys i would probably do pgd but its weird having to actually consider it for real... i never thought in a million years i WOULD actually have 3 boys!! The way i have got dh's head around it (he wasn't sure on 3 kids let alone 4) is by asking him if he would regret having 4 children if we got a dd? There is nothing he can answer except no he wouldn't regret it! i don't actually think we would regret 4 boys either but i never want to go through gd again and nor does he want to witness it! Mind you, would still potentially have to deal with pgd failing.

Inglewood, hope you manage to get out and about in your new car soon! Oh and cushions are dead easy so i think that would be something lovely you could definitely do!

[Sunset]

Kell ~ it's good to hear from you! you should post a bump pic for us all to see my fingers started swelling around this time too with dd and i went on to develope pre-eclampsia, so do keep an eye on the swelling as well as your bp.

Petal and Maybebaby ~ I've got the 'constantly kissing baby bug' too lol it's the chubby cheeks that does it!

Babymad ~ how are you doing now? you must be due any day now?

Inglewood ~ aww 4 weeks already do you manage to get much sleep at all?

Deaks ~ pleased to hear you're feeling happier! at least you have got your head around the idea of another boy early on so you can enjoy the rest of your pregnacny

Ds1 had his first day at his new nursery today.. it went well and he came home happy so fx he'll settle nicely

hello to everyone else!

[Inglewood]

Inglewood - I remember you talking about tax credits a while back? I phoned them last week and they said I get nothing dispite not working for most of the tax year. I phoned again today as I had worked out my childcare cost slightly wrong and now they say I am entitled to £49 a week!!??? Maybe worth phoneing again now the girls are here.

Well, funny u should write that, I phoned last night as I thought 2 babies and zero money?? is that right?? so I am waiting to hear....... thanks anyway...great minds think alike!

[Inglewood]

Sunset, we do ok for sleep, either of us does the 1st overnight feed (after the feed around 11pm-12 that we both do) around 2-3am and the other at 5-6am and it's funny, but both girls are up, whoever screams the loudest gets fed 1st and the other waits...sounds too good to be true, but 'mostly' they wait like they know they just have to. If they are both screaming them the other person gets up too, but we usually manage around 4-5hrs a night each.

Glad ds1 likes nursery!

Maybe, how cute! The girls love neck kisses, they smile!

Babymad, hope ur ok? any twinges??

Deaks, my Dh only ever wanted 2 also....look at us now and we wouldn't change a thing, neither would your Dh I'm sure with 3 or 4 or 5!!

Thought I could drive from today...nope doc says 6wks

[deaks66]

Hi all,

Glad all going well with the twins inglewood! Sounds like you have got into a good feeding routine bearing in mind there are two! Reassuring to know that your dh only wanted two but couldn't be happier with 4. I know my dh will feel the same or he wouldn't even be contemplating the next leg of our journey after ds3 born

Sunset, glad ds1 settled into his nursery ok today.... always a relief. My ds1 was a bit wobbly when he first started this nursery but has always been an independent character. Ds2 is such a mummies boy im dreading the fuss he is going to kick up when he goes!

Babymad, i too am thinking of you and hoping all well. Bet you just want your little man here now! Are you all sorted and ready?

Hi everyone else.