ColdWater, can you take a look please?

[TTC5]

I just saw the latest post and had to reply. GRRRRRRRRRRRRR

Seriously J, don't let them get to you.... you have us after all we luffs you

[Butterfly Spirit]

I just saw the latest post and had to reply. GRRRRRRRRRRRRR

Seriously J, don't let them get to you.... you have us after all we luffs you

GREAT post!

[JoannaK]

Thank you do much for your support ladies. And I don't say that because you tell me what you think I want to hear, I appreciate you because you pick me up when I'm down, something that they have not done, for whatever reason. What did you say TTc 5? Don't show me what they said though

[TTC5]

You know what your ob said and he said girl, that is all you need to know

And if, just if, she turns in to a he, well I am sure we can help you deal with that *if* it happens.

[TTC5]

I will copy and paste my reply for you.

[JoannaK]

That is ALL I needed to hear from those people... And I bet, I hope, it was easy for you to say that, that IF he's a he, you will help me and we'll all be happy together. That's what I can't figure out. Why they couldn't just say that.... *shakes head* but thank you so so much xxo

[TTC5]

You were told by your OB your baby is a girl so no need for people to put their doubt in, wether they believe your dr or not! Telling you, to be cautious is only going to make you confused and doubtful. Why not just end it with "Congratulations" and keep your comments to yourself (unless of course, you asked them what they thought )

[TTC5]

Someone was going on about how you should be greatful and how they cant believe how obsessed one can be over gender and yadda yadda yadda.

My reply:

I think she knows more than most the importance of a healthy baby, after losing a baby not too long ago herself...

Gender Disappointment is very REAL and anyone who has been lucky enough to never experience this, has no idea what it is like.

Women unable to have children has nothing to do with wanting a particular child so badly, it does not make you a bad person for wanting a certain gender so dearly.

[TTC5]

My god she would hate to have walked a day in my shoes since my 12 week scan LOL.... I was nubsessed and crazy haha ask any lady here... they all told me my baby was without a doubt a boy, and I STILL questioned and scrutinised every one of my scan pics lol

[JoannaK]

You've hit the nail on the head TTc, until you're in the same situation, the same shoes, the same experience, you can't POSSIBLY know how it feels. So these people really shouldn't be dishing out advice on how a person should live. I can't imagine what it must be like for that woman, trying to conceive since 2007, that must be awful. But I also know how it feels to see people walking in and out of hospital with healthy babies, and knowing I'll never be bringing mine home. But the thing is, of course I appreciate that this baby is healthy, I'd be a horrible person if I didn't. But the thing is, I've come out the end of it realizing that's it's ok to have these hopes (for a certain gender for example), because the one positive that came out of that hell was my ability to be able to at least try to give myself a break once in awhile, to be ok with hoping for a girl, BECAUSE I know I'm a good mother and I'm going to love and appreciate this baby more than any word I could describe. What I DON'T do is preach to people about what they should or shouldn't do, when I've never been in their situation before