UK SMOG Wannabes May

[maybebabythree]

Kell I did the survey. I really wouldn't a man rummaging in my foof when I was in labour. I think there have been times in labour when I have felt bordering assaulted by my a midwife. To have that done a man would be worse but maybe not if he was with a female midwife at all times. I have never had a man touch in labour / post birth but when ds1 was born there was a pead in the room waiting for him to be born. If I or baby was in distress I dint care who is there as long as they have a phd in medicine.

[maybebabythree]

Bad 24 hours for me. Went a a&e with a really bad burn yesterday and today the car caught fire with the kids in! I had to get them out and stand on a verge on a country lane!

Maybe just also wanted to say the cord has nothing to do with your sway. You have a perfect baby with a perfect cord which has unfortunatly got in the wrong place. All my boys was born with the cord round their neck

[threelittlemenandcounting]

Hello Ladies

Cant believe how far you ladies are in your pregnancies, really looking forward to seeing pics of your squishy new borns!!

Very busy here beein trying organise paperwork and house for extension, all being well we should be good to go by mid august and then the chaos begins!!

DD is also poorly again with tonsilitis she only had it last month and she has it again and I hate it she really worries me when her temp hits 40+

Inglewood how are the twins and their colic ?

Maybebaby so good to hear your happy posts !!

xxx

[zanacal]

I had the midwife today. She was going to offer to do a sweep but said she couldn't because the head isn't engaged. My blood pressure was slightly elevated but not worryingly so and I had some protein in my wee so she sent it off for testing. All in all, I just have to sit back and wait patiently! The weather is helping - it's too hot to be this fat but I do feel happier when the sun's shining and it's lovely to watch the boys playing in the garden together. DS2 really hopes the baby doesn't come until after tomorrow because he wants to fill the paddling pool up!

[Inglewood]

Hi all!

Z, wow 2 days over so any day now.... keep checking FB. All the best when the time comes!

Deaks, sorry u haven't been feeling so good hope u are having a better day and have a good wkend.

H&G, FX for those twins! I only ever thought I'd have 2 kids.....she says 4 kids later!! lol Can't say I knew what did it for me? Did the IG diet and supps.... rose quartz etc... u can read my sway on here...

Wishing, Fx for a BFP soon!

Maybepink, hope all goes well? I've had 3 sections, 1 emerg and 2 planned, hope they give u a planned one, alot better, but even if emerg, relax and enjoy meeting ur little baby. A section isn't too bad at all, but I don't have a vag birth to compare to. GL X

Sunset, hope she settles soon back into sleeping all night.

Maybe, how's ur little man doing?

AFM, thanks for asking after the twins and their colic probs!! It's hard going, not had a hot meal or in quiet for wks. Dh who is usually calm is a moaning prat! The final straw for him and he's sitting in a huff was the babies screaming thru our indian takeway tonight (as they did last wk) and I'm too exhausted toput up with his crap My mum helps alot but works 2days, so now dh can see what I have on my own alot of the time. The weather has been lovely and he's clearing the garden for a new shed, that hasn't helped his mood, so I bought him something for the car he wanted and he still is acting like a prat! Wish someone got me something I wanted like I do for him, I'd appear alot more grateful than him. He says he gave me the best gift ever, agreeing to have another baby, which is true, but he needs to realise it's not forever (colic) and I need him to be there for me now too. He does help with the girls, ALOT, but is just in a terrible mood alot of the time and it's making me feel teary.

Haven't been on here for ages because of the stress at home, but thanks for listening to my ranting! The girls have been on infacol and dentinox with no joy. Gonna try Colief then lok at changing the milk to Aptamil comfort or changing bottles. My friend who BF all her kids and they had colic texts me alot to keep me going each day and Deaks is a star and a great support to me!!

Village Gala day tom, can see it far enough! Military operation to go anywhere and since it takes 2hr to feed both girls, I then only have 1 hour before they are due fed again... luckily my mum will come and feed 1 for me to have 2 hours gap to get out. Anywhere I go we get stopped and asked lots of questions about the twins, which is lovely.... but not when u have 1 hour to get out the door, get to asda, faff about with the twin trolley, get ur shopping, get 2 babies back into the car, get home and get 2 bottles ready....phew....out of breath even typing that!! lol So don't go too far anless Dh or my mum come. managed tennis lessons tonight with 4 kids myself..... proud of myself!

Well, off to bed, girls prob up soon.

Anyone heard from LMW?

Take care ladies.

[deaks66]

Hi all, going to catch up with posts later.... seems like we are all going through a lot when i quickly read. Heading out to my nephews party v soon and just about sorted my head out. Visited my friend last night with 3 boys who just had her dd this week. I had prepared myself for finding it hard but it was even tougher than i imagined. She told me how she was much more besotted with this one, how she wanted to go on nights out straight away after her boys were born, but not with this one and how she was enjoying breast feeding for the first time ever. Not great things to hear when you are suffering with gd obviously. She asked me how i was feeling now (she knows i swayed) but now she has a dd she is kind of on the list of people i have to pretend to iykwim. I can only be truly honest with mums of boys only except for one friend i have who has a pp. Anyway, through the night i was very teary and this morning and desperately want to stop feeling sorry for myself. What a rollercoaster!

Just quickly, though will catch up properly later i promise and not be all me me me...

Inglewood hope you had a better eve last night. Glad the cd working for at least one!

Maybe, sorry to hear you and car in the wars. Not good after you have been in such a great frame of mind,

Zanacal...waiting to hear you news. Cant wait. Only smog ladies allowed dd's in my opinion!!

Kell, promise i will do the survey later! Hope you are ok.

Maybepink, what an awful thing to be going through. What did you decide to do... stay home or did you have to go back in. Hope all well. I would rope family in as much as possible and your dh will be fine...good for them to be thrown in at deep end with kids sometimes!

Pinga, babymad, wont be long now. I know i keep saying that but life going to look up when little men are here. I cant wait for my next 20 weeks to go as i know i can stop being a miserable pg woman!

Much love to all. Sunset, everyone else hi!

[Babymad]

Hi girls.....

Maybepink ~ I hope everything is going ok, so good that they spotted it!! I am in the same boat....no family whatsoever to help and DH working lots so we have no one to help with the boys...it's very hard, lots of hugs xx Keep us posted on how you are doing x

Zanacal ~ I'm with you on its too hot to be fat!! My feet and ankles are really hurting! Hopefully little miss will make an appearance soon!

Maybe ~ wow your car was on fire! Sounds scary - hope you are all ok!

Sunset ~ loving your pics on FB!

Inglewood ~ sorry things are hard at home at the mo, don't put too much pressure on yourself or DH right now- you are both very tired and very busy! It won't be like this forever and men don't cope as well as we do with life being manic! I hope the colic settles on so you can enjoy your girls as time will pass so quickly.... Hold on in there Hun, it will get easier x

Deaks ~ loads of hugs hun xx it is so so hard. I pretend to eveyone too and get fed up with having to justify my large family of boys......!! Try to enjoy your pg and remember you've still got chance of having your DD in the future, I know that doesn't help right now but it may help you on your low days. Have you decided where you are going to do PDG?
Things are ok with DH, we aren't arguing as much, even though it's very hard at the mo as we've got so Much going on with the house which is very stressful and time consuming and looking after 3 kids too....!! It's full on and hectic and I've got no patience and very hormonal so some days are a battlefield but we are trying not to take it out on each other as much.
We don't talk about the baby issues and when I do attempt to tell him how upset I have been with everyones comments he just says I take everything the wrong way....he doesn't get it at all!!!
I do think GD is sparked a lot of the time by people's reactions and comments and I know I can't take much more of people's comments - its made me feel so low the last few weeks and I actually dread going out now as Emotionally I'm struggling to pretend I'm ok! We are going to a BBQ later I know I will get the usual shit from everyone and I am dreading it.

Charlie ~ Yes Beck and Noah are very alike bless em! I feel like you....I just have no motivation, excitement or will to do anything related to the baby, I think I'm in complete denial that I'm having a baby and I just think its all going to go away!
Lots of hugs xx

Hi to everyone else....hope you are all enjoying the sunshine

[HopeandDreamG]

Deaks- major ((((hugs)))). That had to have been soooo hard. I would have felt exactly the same way. I totally keep my gender desire a secret. The only people that know are dh (of course), my mom and one friend. I do not want to deal with everything that goes along with the gender discussion. I was at the OB and two women were there saying they were done bc they had 1 each. They knew I was trying for another and after found out I had 2 boys they were like oh, that's why you want another. Everyone just assumes. I guess that really means that it's pretty natural to want both. I wouldn't admit it though even to strangers I will never see again! I was like if u met my boys you'd know why it didnt matter to me. I will have MAJOR GD but id like to elieve i will cherish ever last minute once i have a baby in my arms probably for te last time Anyway, sending love from NY.

[deaks66]

Thanks for the hugs H&D (loving the love from NY!) and babymad! I just cant believe how awful gd is.... its constantly there. Dh commented today that its like i have lost a child and it feels a little like that...like im constantly grieving... ridiculous really. I have to keep telling myself to snap out of it and enjoy my lovely boys as i don't want to remember these years as just gd dominated. Babymad, yes dh and i sat down this morning and had a serious talk (a momentous occasion in my household!). We made a plan that we would head out to HRC next Easter (woah!) and if that fails genesis next summer and again the following easter. Its just a case of why wait! Id rather give HRC a shot while ds3 is really little and fairly immobile.

I hope the bbq went ok and you didn't get too many comments. Awful that you feel like you dread going out but i know where you are coming from. I dread the questions and if i could avoid people and the subject i probably would. So glad that there has been an improvement between you and dh though. Hopefully your little man will bring you closer again.

Hope, im so hopeful for you this month!

Sorry to everyone else that i still haven't caught up on posts properly, been outside most of the day and then chilled in front of a film with dh. X

[zanacal]

Yay for the HT plans deaks! I'll look forward to following your journey

Still nothing happening here. Not keen to do much to try and help baby along but might tackle the 'big steps' up the hill near our house today - I walked up them the day I went in to labour with DS3!