UK SMOG Wannabes May

[maybebabythree]

Zanacal - I hope dd comes soon, I feel for you and babymad in this heat!

Deaks your friend with three boys and a dd sounds like a Pratt. Can you imagine any of us saying how much greater our girls are than our sons? Tis a bit unfair to her kids. I have us ogs say our dds are calmer and more chilled but better? Not heard that. I don't like people having favourites as it causes issues for the kids

Yes gd really sucks. To those with girls please tell us you feel your girls relived that pain? I would love to hear that you feel complete and happy now. I bet you do which is as it should be.

My poor car, I hope it is fixable. Don't realise how much it ment to me. My independence. Having to borrow dhs car now. A astra with three kids and two adults is a squeeze.

Went to a party last night and watched my eldest playing a nine year old girl. I am imagining him with a girlfriend now. I felt proud and upset he is growing up all at once. I just feel like I love him more each day. He is so clever and witty. Dave is unbearably cute - everyone told me at the party so it must be true. But ds2 I'm afraid is just a shitbag. What did I say about favourites lol!

Oh and I had the same comment again from my bf 'will you keepgping for a girl forever?' and three is a handful from a few people. But do you know what three isn't a handful it's a real blessing.

[Babymad]

Z ~ Hope the walk helped Ive always gone over and was induced with the last two so not expecting any diff this time BUT I so want a home birth but mine just don't seem to want to arrive in the world!! Fingers crossed today is the day for you

Deaks ~ That is great news re PDG and how wonderful to have such a supportive husband I am very pleased for you (and very envious!) xx I don't like to think about living in regret but if I could turn back the clock I wish we had had the money to do PDG again - I think that will always be something I struggle with. I think if DH had been supportive it is something we could have done but he struggled with it all - most of my hi-tech friends had supportive DH's when doing PDG and had several attempts, I suppose I feel let down that I didn't have that. Two of my hi-tech friends have recently had their baby girls and they both went to Dr Potter so I have everything crossed for you x

BBQ was awful (as expected) struggled it keep it together, had an argument with DH on the way home and spent the rest of the evening in bed crying. Ive had all the same crap today - i can't explain how much I dread the school run - even the headteacher was saying 'oh god' not another boy today - how I will face everyone when he arrives I just don't know

I do get where your friend is coming from with wanting to stay at home and make the most of her DD, I don't think its about having favourites just that content feeling. I have always enjoyed the baby bit soooo much and loved the newborn cuddles and being motherearth BUT this time all I can think about is being being ME again, getting back into shape and enjoying some kind of social/ keep fit life again. It's like all I can focus on is escaping and getting on with my life - obviously I wouldn't feel this way at all if I was having a girl......so my GD is definitely different this time as I've never felt this way before.

Only 4 more days of putting up with everyones bullshit and then I can hide for several days over half term before my induction on 11th.

Maybe ~ Dave is defo a cutie and a real blessing My eldest is 8 and he's really grown up this year - He's lovely company, I let him stay up last night and watch Soccer Aid, it was nice to sit and watch it together. I am far from a football fan and normally disappear when footie is on the TV so it was nice that I could watch it too (Only wanted to see John Bishop in shorts - I have a bit of a soft spot for him )

Inglewood ~ How is things with the girls and DH?

xxx

[deaks66]

Babymad, its funny cos although my friend probably does have that feeling of just wanting to make the most of this being her last etc, i do definitely get the feeling that a lot of it is to do with her baby being a girl. She has bought a whole wardrobe of girls clothes, which is totally understandable, but bearing in mind her boys arent that well dressed in comparison, i think she is just finally content in life. I would also feel the same but i would never dream of making such comments, especially to someone she knows that swayed and found it hard hearing boy again. just another case of insensitivity.

Cant believe you sons headmistress said that to you. When i got the grimace i JUST about managed to hold it together though i did make a point of saying how everyone seems much more bothered about the gender than i am. She soon shut up. But if someone said something THAT rude id have to tell them how rude they were being i think. Or at least say 'excuse me????!!!!' I feel so bad that you are going through all this...just hideous!

I have been very lucky with dh about pgd. I think deep down he would love a dd. Though he has never said that to me. I think he also see's how upset i have been and knows that i know we have the money to do it (the first attempt at HRC would be my inheritance money anyway) so doesn't really have a leg to stand on. Im sure he wont be quite as chilled when he has to turn up to various clinics to leave his deposit of swimmers! I sooooo wish there was a way you could give pgd another shot

Maybe - i love how you summed up having three! I really cant wait to have three and apart from a wobble every now and then have got my head around another boy. Im sure the sunshine helps, im not sure why but when i see them playing outside my gd is so much less. Im actually jealous of you babymad, zan and ping, all having babies over the summer. So lovely to be able to show them off better and also get to look at those lovely skinny newborn legs all day long.

Hi everyone else! Zanacal, you had better be having your baby right now!

[maybebabythree]

Wow babymad that comment from the head is so hurtful. I wonder if they even realise how rude that is? My worse is my bf. When I had dave she kept saying to dh did he want to hold her dd as it's his only chance to hold a girl. That hurt as I want to him a girl to hold plus I had just had dave so he seemed like a sorry second place to her I guess? Also she keeps saying will I keep trying for a girl like no family can complete without one. Yes I will keep going till I have hundreds of the little buggers and when I get my dd the boys are going on eBay (tempting with ds2). They are my kids! Yes I do want a girl but I can still love and enjoy my sons. But I don't she realises what she says so I try not to get upset. Apart from that I don't get the comments. I think my bf upsets me as it's said on front of dh like she won the jackpot and I came second place. But I really didn't. We both hit the jackpot

[deaks66]

Kell, i did your survey, i hope it wasn't too late. I actually have no probs with male midwives/surgeons as i had a lovely surgeon help deliver ds1 when things got difficult and i was rushed to theatre.

[deaks66]

What a cow hun! Anyway whoever is more broody by someone else's daughter than their own son?!!...she sounds soooo annoying! funnily enough, im not nearly as broody around baby girls as i am boys, i guess because i have never had my own. Sons are equally amazing as daughters its just that we'd like to experience both. Wish other people could see that and stop being so smug!! ha ha!

[Babymad]

I agree boys are just as wonderful as girls......and its awful how people react so negatively to all boy families Maybe its because I'm on number 4....most peoples worst nightmare! I feel like I've defo had my fair share of comments!

Maybe ~ Thats very unkind what your BF has been saying......I wouldn't be able to stay calm or let them kind of comments go over my head.....just dreadful!

Deaks ~ I agree your friend was very insensitive saying those things when she knows what situation you are in - some people only seem to think about how they feel though and once they've achieved their dream those who are still trying just don't matter anymore!

Cant wait to start hearing all about your hi-tech journey

[zanacal]

Wow, I can't believe the comments some of you have to put up with - just shocking! I seem to avoid them somehow or I'm completely oblivious to them because I'm too busy trying to keep the boys in order The only comments I've had lately were to tell me how lovely the boys were (in Costa - they're not always!!) and I think any big family is something to envy! I was watching my 3 in the garden together yesterday and thinking how wonderful it is that they have each other. Yes they're a handful but they're a heartful too

Starting to get a teensy bit p!ssed off with not going in to labour now. I know I'm 'only' 5 days over but that's more than I've ever been before I don't even feel like baby's head is engaged!

[maybebabythree]

Zanacal dave didn't engage even in labour. I think our wombs just get too slack after two kids! I get lovely comments too but every now and again they show me up! Like just now down the doctors - grrgghh! I hope you have lots of nice summer outfits for dd. I would love to buy some summer baby dresses! I see lots of lovely things for Ashton but he has too many clothes from his brothers. I need to stop spending too as god knows how much my car will cost to fix

[zanacal]

I think most children misbehave at the doctor's - I've spent many a time in the waiting room sweating and stressing!!

None of my others were engaged before labour either (though they were all back to back!) - but they also arrived pretty much on time so I didn't have the issue of not being able to have a sweep because I didn't need one! The boys are bouncing on the trampoline and I may just go and join them - that might do it