Should I do Shettles, O+12, or what!!!

[atomic sagebrush]

I'm wondering the same thing! We get one last chance at a girl...and out of all the swaying factors I'm most scared about timing. My boys were O day babies...but I ate a very boy friendly diet and was high in Ph....sigh. I can't wait to read what others post

Do NOT waste a second of stress about timing. It has been studied many times and found to be highly unreliable. If it sways, it's only just a tiny bit and not at all worth the amount of worry and effort people put into it.

[atomic sagebrush]

I am so confused becuase DS1 was conceived a few days before my MS cycle started... Maybe Dr Jonas was right about o with the moon (same as time of birth) because that is when he was conceived but DS2 was conceived right around CD15-17 which is matching my current o time. It would be cool if I o mre then once a mth just to increase the preg odds.

You do not O more than once a month, that is physically impossible.

[atomic sagebrush]

I am so where you at right now! This is my very last chance for a girl so I want to get it right. I am going with an abstain for 14 days, my last failed sway we did frequent through O so I am avoiding that. I am still torn however on cut-off or O+12. I am temping 5 times a day right now to see if I can pinpoint O this month so that will help determine what I do next month. I am thinking of abstain then 2-3 day cut-off (maybe tbm) then have DH release 2-3 times a day and try an O+12 if I can pinpoint. Of course this plan sometimes changes when I read something! LOL

If I was swaying and was under 35, I would abstain for 14 days, have my cutoff attempt, then have DH do frequent release 2 times a day and then do O+12. Great plan!!!

[atomic sagebrush]

I am crazy but I keep thinking of having hubby give about 100 samples and storing them and have him spin them at work and collect all the possible girl sperm!!! Why does he have to work at a waste water treatment plant!

I know you're just kidding but spinning sperm doesn't work very well at all. Even at the Ericcson centers they are getting way too many opposites.

[atomic sagebrush]

I just want to say that Shettles didn't worked for us for ttc boy .Also the same with MSU on O with 4 days holding for DH .
Have no clue about O+12 but really I don't think any1 can know for sure when is exactly 12 hour after O...and if You do it to late we don't get pregnant right?

I totally agree Flava. There are probably millions of Shettles opposites walking around out there and O+12 is so hard to figure out!!

[atomic sagebrush]

Everyone differs on the getting preg after ov but I think I agree that it is harder to get preg after O..... even if the egg meets sperm it still has to implant and it may either attach really low or not at all.

I am not sure but I am thinking of either....
5 days before O, if not preg the next cycle 4 days before O, if still not preg the next cycle 3 days before O... and if still not preg I will try 8-whatever after O.
Or I may try the 8-whatever after O first and then try the above

Only 5-7% of all pregnancies are believed to happen after ovulation (and I'm not even talking about 12 hours after, I'm talking from BD at any point after ovulation) The whole female reproductive tract is designed to keep sperm alive and waiting for the egg. Most pregnancies are from DTD 2 and 1 day before ovulation.

[atomic sagebrush]

All the things I have read over the years about timing have made me nervous to make a decision, but I think I have decided to go with a cut-off, at least 3 days before, probably more like you said though and start with 5 days, but I am also thinking about doing the 0+12, using cm changes as a guide. Oh yeh I am am going to try the frequent bd before cut-off and 0+12

5 days is a REALLY long cutoff and it is very unlikely you will get pg that way. It can happen but it is very unlikely. I prefer people get pg quickly if they can because the diet is so hard to stick to in the long term.

Good luck!!

[atomic sagebrush]

I'm also in the same boat about our one and only chance for a girl leaning on 0+12 and two weeks abstinence because it's different from our two boys it's great that were here to give each other support and the best of luck to all of us hoping we all get our desired genders.

Good luck! I wish I had pink dust to give you LOL!!

[Preggypops]

Atomic, what do you think of release and dump once in the morning, hot bath for DH with vaginal release afterwards (tmi sorry!) in the evening; doing this for the 5 days leading up to ovulation and on the day of?

It is reassurring to hear you say you place so little importance on timing as I too feel the most stressed about this factor!

[atomic sagebrush]

That's great if he can manage it!!