Pregnant, now thinking what have i done :(

[lightofmylifexxxy]

Hi Auroara - thats exactly how i feel. Like i am in a black hole. Totally regretting it now, and worried to the point of being physically sick. I don't want to eat, and having trouble sleeping too. I am worried now about the future of the family, and what i may have done for my own selfish reasons of 'thinking' i wanted another DD. I am definitely not in a good place right now, and pray i come out of this dark hole. You give me hope Auroara, and wishing you all the best with your new baby xx If you have any ideas on how i can make myself feel better, please share!

[girlmom]

stupid hormones! hun i get it. i got my desired gender and i still paniced. i have 5 children and its the start of summer vacation. non stop fighting, bickering. sleepless nights and here i go adding to the chaos??? what was i thinking? but everytime i look at him my heart melts. he's so tiny and perfect and sweet. right now yes the whole baby idea seems like a bad idea but it will get better, maybe not until after you see him but he/she will be worth it all in the end. congrats on your new baby!

[Butterfly Spirit]

Ya know, the past couple days I haven't felt like myself either. I am approaching 7 weeks. After my doc called on Friday to congratulate me on the rising hcg and asked me if I was nauseous at all, that night ironically I started to feel it. Plus with my conception before this one being a loss I am so nervous day after day and feeling like it's taking forever to reach 12 weeks! Then I swayed and had to seduce my hubby and even lie to him to get my third baby. Then day after day when things are tough he loves to bitch about how selfish I was to want a third when we have our hands full with 2 boys as it is. I'm also having food aversions and it's so hot I'm terrified I'm not drinking enough and DS#2 is Bfing still. So I guess I am depressed and I blame the hormones! Ups and Downs are normal. It's interesting though. I was never depressed with my first 2 pregnancies. The worst part is being sick though even though it's not that bad yet *knocks on wood*
I think you should tell your babies that another one is on the way, they might be excited. My boys are! They love to say "Baby sister in your tummy!" I hope you feel better soon.

[toomanyboys]

all the same feelings and am on no.5 hun!!!!!....didn't tell DH until i was 12 weeks.....his reaction surprised me.....not overly supportive and over the moon but supportive and kind all the same....i suppose just like you your DH will feel a bit anxious about the change but like my DH said when i told him so you haven't yelled yet....its probably sinking in.....he said....well .....there is obviously that elemnet of excitement there.........3 of my kids delighted one of my kids doesn;t want to know...but who cares.....i am just anxious abut the sex and all these feeling syou have i have about the sex......how will i cope with another boy and not another dd???i am totally not prepared for a boy and i have no idea how i will feel seeing him...but i know one thing for sure....this is only a couple of months then everything will be different....things fall ionto place, feelings change a lot and there is no way you or all your family will feel bad about the new addition....if anything your kids will be over the moon....one of the most exciting things for kids that age is having a sibling on the way they can boast about to all their teachers and friends.........just remember it is your hormones.....what is meantto be is meant to be.......and it is what it is.....stay happy and positive hun.......your are truly blessed to have this baby.....and dh will feel just the same!!!!i can guarantee this....

[lightofmylifexxxy]

Thanks ladies for your kind words of support and encouragement - everytime someone replies it helps me to feel so much better. To know that there are other ladies with similar feels and worries helps to know that maybe i am not crazy after all! I have told my husband how i feel. He is being very supportive, and thinks i need to give it time to accept. I am worried i will not be able to love another baby as much as i love my DS & DD./ they are the loves of my life - they mean everything to me, and i worry that i wont be able to have enough time left for them.
as you know, i am SO worried how my dear 8 year old son will react. He didnt want any more siblings and cried and cried when my daughter asked for a baby - he loves his 6 year old sister, and thats all he wants - he likes things the way they are!! So that terrifies me, and i am not going to mention anything yet. I look around and everything is perfect - happy little family - that may be no more if i end up with depression. I wanted another DD so desperately, and i know that it is a boy - just a gut feeling. I had 3 attempts in a row, and didn't realise this swayed blue I even got out some baby pictures of my DS when he was a baby, just to remember how much i loved him, and maybe i will feel the same about this baby....

[auroara78]

lightofmylifexxxy,

thats what i did do when I felt down..I pulled out pics of my babies (esp. DS1, since he was already 4 by then) and remembered fondly how magical it is when you have a snuggly newborn! It just took time for me to get out of the black hole; sometimes the more I berated myself about it, the worst I felt. When I tried to just let go, and not think, that is when I got some relief.

Then around 9 weeks I was OK and could tell my mental state had begun to lift. That was the biggest symptom I had different from my boys was that i was super happy being preg with them, and this preg I was really depressed in the beginning, and this is my long awaited daughter! Maybe it's the hormones are different and my body reacted weirdly to it?

If it makes you feel any better, the other day my 4 year old got mad at the 1 year old and said he wanted to send him back to the baby doctor. He begged me crying and said he wanted to him taken away. While it upset me a little, I know he was only angry that the baby knocked down the blocks he was working on, and that he really does love DS2. Your children, DS1 esp. will adjust and come to love this new baby too, trust me :0

[toomanyboys]

this thread is made for me.....my hubby is being a complete creep right now and i cannot stand the sight of him.. he is so annoying and horrible that we have not been intimate at all since he found out i am glad i told him at 3 months at least i enjoyed having him treat me normally up until then. ....all because i now i wanted this baby and he didn't and like one of the posts says i had to seduce my hubby to get on with it during my week of O. i knew my chances of pg were slim...but it happened and now i am here feeling moody sick and depressed on and off......deep in my heart i am hoping and still believe that this will be the sister for my little DD. i know in my heart that once the baby is here everything will fall into place albeit if it were to be a boy it would take a little more time getting used to but just the same.....
GD really suck!!!!!