Went with my sister to her gender scan today

[Wishing4Emma]

I too understand and it sucks. It sucks in general but it sucks to feel that way and still have to put on a brave face even though you don't want to. Huge Hugs to you! I would also say that you are a great sister!

[Jojogirl]

I think you are a very sweet sister to care so much. Hugs!

[Sunset]

I can only voice what's already been said, you sound like such a great caring sister!! congratulations on your nephew!

[desperatefordresses]

This sounds so much like my situation! My sister had all her girl stuff packed up for me, and then I had DS#2. I was dissapointed, for sure.

I also said 2 was it for me...so you just never know! :-)

How awesome that she has such a supportive sister. Not all people understand GD, and it is nice to have someone to be able to vent to.

[Out of the Blue]

HUGS, Mama! I'm so sorry. Your post brought tears to my eyes as I suffer from GD...Not really GD actually but more like Gender Absence since I am completely smitten w/DS#2 but morning the absence of my girl.

When I was preg w/DS#2, I waited until delivery to find out the gender...I think I did this mostly to keep the PINK dream alive a bit longer. Also, as you spoke of before, I really wanted that moment of "IT'S A GIRL" which would have been compounded by 40wks of waiting on finally receiving my DD. My OB didn't tell me...she made me look between his legs when she put him on my chest. My heart was flooding with joy and dissappointment all at the same time. Sigh... Now I'm debating whether or not to find out the gender of our future child b/c if he's a boy I don't want to send disappointment vibes to him while in utero. But if I wait, the disappointment may be worse. UGH! I'm toying with using the Ramzi method of gender prediction at the 6 wk scan since things wouldn't be set in stone but could give me a direction of whether or not I was carrying an XX or an XY.

I was just thinking of how wonderful it is that you and your sister are so close. I always wanted a sister growing up but instead had one brother...Just the two of us. We've NEVER been close and I've always been sad that I had no other sibblings, especially a sister. Watching my two boys play together (it's just been recently that they're old enough to do so) sometimes brings tears to my eyes since I know they'll be close and I'm so thankful they have eachother. But they really need a pink presence to even them out. I think having a sister(s!) would make them more well rounded when dealing w/women in the future.

So sorry about this rant...I'll end here and just say that here's a big HUG for you, Mama.

[Flava]

Im sorry
I feel the same way...like I will never hear It' a BOY!!!
I only felt that joy for a little bit when "rebirtha" send me a text message after she find out it was a boy. I was happy for her.
But for me? Every time I go for my us I just know they will tell me it's a girl... I can't even believe they would ever tell me boy , like it's just not possible .

[sela]

NBP, sorry things didn't work out as desired. However, you will be a wonderful support to your sister if her disappointment continues as you've been there. My sister has two kids of the same gender and I know she would love the opposite for her third child in a few years. I have not told her about pursuing HT...kinda want to travel that road first myself and if I get a happy outcome then maybe guide her the same way. Is there no way your sister would try for a third and maybe go HT? I can imagine that anti-climax despite HT working. To go through so much to get a DD or DS, I would think that a person gets too emotionally exhausted to get overly excited. Take care of yourself and I know you'll take great care of your sister. Sela xx