September Chit Chat for Ladies Due in Sept/Oct/Nov

[Hobbermittens]

I want to preface by saying that I truly have an amazing husband and I have very few complaints about him BUT I know what you mean Hobber. Mine seems more impatient the more kids we have. Has a short fuse with the older kids. They're not bad kids, just alot of noise all the time and throw in them fighting sends him over the edge sometimes.

I feel kinda bad adding a 5th child but he wanted it just as much as me. He hates that we don't have alot of "Us" time.

Yeah, that's how my DH is.... he was fine with us adding a 4th child, but isn't real to him yet, you know? Once the baby is actually here.... well, I guess we'll see how it goes! He loses his patience with the older kids a lot, because he expects a lot of them.

[Hobbermittens]

My DH has been a ball of nerves since I got my BFP. He already feels overwhelmed with 3 kids, and has been dreading the addition of a 4th. The thing is, I do everything around here anyway. Especially when it comes to Sadie - I take care of her needs 24/7. He hasn't been involved in a feeding, diaper change, bath or any of the 'work' at all - he just cuddles her when she's peaceful, then hands her back to me if she gets fussy. He's also soooooo impatient with my older boys and I feel like he yells at them all the time. This has been a very emotional week for them, and I think we need to cut them some slack. When I say this, though, he just gets mad at me too!

In fact, today he's barely speaking to me, because we dropped off ds3 at preschool together and he was upset because we were about 5 minutes late. I told him it didn't matter - we pay for the preschool and can drop him off anytime (especially because the first half hour is unstructured outdoor play). He got angry and said he has things to do and I've been just lollygagging around all morning unconcerned if we were late. That got my back up - I got 4 kids dressed this morning, packed school lunches, fed everyone breakfast (including a long nursing session for Sadie), got the big kids off to school, and dealt with a very big temper tantrum from ds3 who didn't want to go to preschool. All this while dh slept in, took a shower and got himself dressed - that's it. Anyway, when I defended myself he got really mad and hasn't talked to me since. He can be such a jerk sometimes.

Yeah, Mocha, my DH hates it when I am late--and he doesn't do much to help either! He will get himself ready, and then go watch TV or whatever until it is time to go, and then complain that we are running behind. It makes me crazy!

I long for one of those super involved, fun DHs that enjoys parenting. I have a few friends with DHs like that--too bad I didn't get one!

[fivebabies]

Lert him be silent then, Mocha! It's because he knows you're RIGHT!!!

[Mochagirl]

You're right, fivebabies! He always gives me the silent treatment when he knows he's messed up and I'm right. He HATES being wrong! He also hates how capable I am with the kids and I've always sorta felt he resented me for my calm approach to mothering 3 (now 4) kids.

Hobber - I've always wished I had one of those husbands too, but I definitely don't! It's funny, because my Mom's relationship with my Dad wasn't great and he really wasn't involved in our upbringing much at all except as a breadwinner, so she made a point of raising me as a strong, feminist woman. I did two BAs and two Masters Degrees and was working as a curator at Canada's largest museum by the time I was 30. But then I got married, started having kids, and here I am in the same sort of relationship she was in! In fact, sometimes my dh is so similar to my Dad in attitudes, etc. it creeps me out. Especially since my Dad and I never really got along that well. Thank god I have my 4 beautiful kids - it means I could never regret marrying dh, since if I hadn't I wouldn't have them .

[Hobbermittens]

Mocha--my DH is like my dad in a lot of ways too! My dad and I have a great relationship, though. The traits DH and my dad share are mostly negative ones, sadly. I love my DH--I shouldn't be so hard on him--but he isn't exactly what I signed up for, you know?

At least you can see the positives in all of this. I think someday when the kids are older, my DH will be a little mellower. Hopefully yours will too!

[auroara78]

God, I'm glad i"m not the only one! I was starting to wonder..how did we EVEN make this baby even when he's getting on my last nerve lately? hehe


DS2 is such a pita too. He tossed my entire dinner (I had to get the baby) it was unguarded! all over the floor...among other highlights today. I swear he has become a monster...ugh...I am trying so hard to stay patient w/ him and make sure he gets his alone attention too, etc. But if you don't keep your eyes glued to him, he will and does destroy whatever's in sight!

[laughinglynxie]

Wow, I've had to do some catching up!!

Congrats, Mocha!

So, I was so tired when I originally posted, I forgot what I said. But here's the shortest version possible.
I got up to pee in the early morning (typical, haha) and when I got back to bed, I sat down and my waters just broke right there, no warning. I had no contractions or anything. I called my husband (he had stayed at his mom's place since he had to work late and they are in the same town) and my mom and they both eventually got to our house. We were admitted around 8am and the Doc on call was super nice and let me labor without breaking my fore-waters (I was worried about baby position). By 1pm with not much progress, I told her to go ahead and then labor started really well. I walked and sat in the tub, etc. By 7cm the pain was at it's worst and I got back in the bed because I was nervous that baby would be around soon. 3 contractions later, my body wanted to push so I told the nurse urgently, she checked me and I was definitely ready to go. I had to NOT push since we had to wait for the doctor. Once I was allowed to go for it, Baby Girl came out (posterior!!) in a matter of minutes!

8lbs 19 inches at 35 weeks. Crazy! I was measuring big at my appointments. I can't imagine if I went the whole way. She had a week stay in the NICU that was absolute torture for me... I have the utmost respect for mommas that have babies there for super long stays. It's just the worst to get discharged from the hospital without your baby.

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[Butterfly Spirit]

OMG Lynxie, she's SO dang Precious!!!!

Congrats again!

[Butterfly Spirit]

Auroara, I LOVE your new Avatar pic! Sooo sweet!!!!

[TTC5]

I'm finally home from hospital!!!

How is everyone? Update me!!

Lynxie - congratulations and woweeeee 8 pd at 35 weeks!!!