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[ThreeMenAndALAdy]

Thank you Tiffani. I don't want to sound ungrateful, I just wish I could enjoy this instead of feeling the way I do.

[spinningmadly]

I don't know what I'm doing Tiffani. I think I'm a bit depressed because I'm still so sick. I feel really bad for my kids. We are usually very busy and this ms has stopped me dead in my tracks.

I'm so sorry. I had hypermeisis with my last pregnancy and I know how awful it is and I also felt awful for my kids.
I think that is why I really want a DD, not because I don't want more kids, but I just can't deal with the pregnancy again if its bad, especially if I was to have another child to watch. I felt bad for not playing with them etc , it's hardest for the littlest ones I'm sure. I don't know how much your 7 year old understands but maybe he can help a bit at least?
But they will love to have another sibling I'm sure and all of this is worth it! (clearly I thought so because I am pregnant again..) Do you have friend/family that can help you? or make meals for you to freeze etc?
I know it's awful and there is nothing that makes it feel better but sometimes it feels good to be reminded that there is a nice reward at the end (a baby!)
I had a friend who also gets extremely sick with her pregnancies, she told me that it helped to look on baby center as to how the baby was growing and developing etc so that she could remind herself that this was what her body was working on and growing.

[ThreeMenAndALAdy]

I'm so sorry. I had hypermeisis with my last pregnancy and I know how awful it is and I also felt awful for my kids.
I think that is why I really want a DD, not because I don't want more kids, but I just can't deal with the pregnancy again if its bad, especially if I was to have another child to watch. I felt bad for not playing with them etc , it's hardest for the littlest ones I'm sure. I don't know how much your 7 year old understands but maybe he can help a bit at least?
But they will love to have another sibling I'm sure and all of this is worth it! (clearly I thought so because I am pregnant again..) Do you have friend/family that can help you? or make meals for you to freeze etc?
I know it's awful and there is nothing that makes it feel better but sometimes it feels good to be reminded that there is a nice reward at the end (a baby!)
I had a friend who also gets extremely sick with her pregnancies, she told me that it helped to look on baby center as to how the baby was growing and developing etc so that she could remind herself that this was what her body was working on and growing.

Thanks so much for this response. I do have my parents right around the corner and they've been great. I wish we had a meal plan of sorts because my kids have been eating pasta almost every night. I need to keep reminding myself that there is a wonderful reward at the end, I just pray it's a girl.

[Tiffani3]

Totally understand, personally think its the worst part of being pg. I haven't functioned properly for weeks then I get a random day of feeling really good full of energy no nauseous etc then the next day I feel completely awful again. Wish it had a time limit so at least you knew when it would end. Lol and we wish this on our selfs! xx

[spinningmadly]

ThreeMenAndALAdy - do you have friends nearby that can set up some kind of schedule to share making meals and freezing them for you? I hate asking for help and I always assumed my friends knew how awful I was doing but really they didn't and didn't want to bother them asking for help since they all are busy, but the truth was they just didn't know, once they knew how sick I was, everyone was trying to help and trying to make meals and it adds up quick and helps a lot.
Glad your parents are nearby! that must be a relief.

[Cinss]

I had my first Dr appointment yesterday and it was a bit strange, my Dr told me that the way she likes to do things with antinatal care is see me once a month for the first 28 weeks, is this the schedule you guys are all on? Last time i think i only had to go see her about 3 or 4 times through the whole pregnancy. I wonder why she would want me back there every month? I looked a bit confused when she was explaining it to me, mostly because of the cost it is going to add up to and she said i don't have to stay with her, there are other doctors that will put me on share care with the hospital for free, but she likes to be thorough and charges full price. I dont know if i should stay with her, i feel like maybe she is just trying to make a lot of money, but then i think she must be passionate and caring, i am confused. I have to make a decision soon because she wouldn't give me a referal to the ultrasound place until i commit to her care.

[NCBeachyGrl]

I live in the US and go in every 4 weeks for visit with a doctor until 32 weeks then every 2 weeks until 36 weeks then weekly until birth. They have to do gestational diabetes testing, urine screening, check baby hb, etc.. that I wouldn't feel good about going any less than that! I have insurance and all visits are covered 100% so I do not have to pay anything. But, my dr. office does make us pay delivery fees ($1,500 after insurance) up front. So, I am on a monthly payment plan to have that paid by 7 months.

[NCBeachyGrl]

Threemen - huge hugs to you I totally feel for you and know how awful it is. I really hope you get better and can get back to normal. My ms has gotten beter, but today was a bad day and I felt sick and out of control with the kids. I have this strange eye pain and I think I have some kind of virus. I have been so tired and not able to do anything today!

[Tiffani3]

Wow $1,500 to deliver your baby?? xx

[spinningmadly]

I'm in the US as well and I think it depends on who you see partially. Most OBs do exactly what beachy said. I know with my midwife with DS2 I stretched it out to every 7-8 weeks for the first part and at the end every 3 weeks maybe? but he came earlier than we thought so I didn't see her that much. he had no issues etc.
This time around I am high risk so I will be seeing someone every couple weeks.
I think it depends on what you are comfortable with? I know with DS2 I wasn't nervous at all and it was sufficient. This time around the peri has told me a lot of my appts won't be for medical reasons but just to make me feel better.