Wanting one baby but dh says NO

[Lassie1982]

i think i will talk to him again to see if we can agree or not i'm say i'm feeling a little guilty or ready and i haven't done any think yet but i do no that i need to a least give ttc a little boy or my heart will always ache and i will hold dh somewhat response able for it

I think that is certainly the way to go. It might take time, but at least you have done it the right way.
I know you said you'd never tell him that you tricked him and lied to him - so he'd never know, but just because he doesn't know, doesn't make your actions ok if you know what i mean. If for example your husband was having an affair, and you didn't know about it, it wouldn't make the affair ok.

Try and find out what his concerns are, why he is so against another, and then work through those concerns together.
Best of luck!

[bec2483]

i do no want you mean so i will wait until the day after 2morrow to have a chat that way he would have been to the doctors to talk about the snips i noit will take time for them to book him in here so i know nothing will get done straight away..

[Lassie1982]

Good stuff Bec
Best of luck to you let us know how you go



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[bec2483]

i sure will let you lovely ladies no what happens

[bec2483]

So dh doctors was today and he chicken out and didn't go

[LacePrincess]

I'm glad to read that you've decided not to 'trick' DH into having another baby.....even if he never knew, the secret would ruin your relationship, I really believe that. A lie like that, even if 'just' by omission is so toxic and the guilt would eat you up.

Hope he comes on board with ttc again, men don't get the 'broody' thing because they don't have biological clocks! It's not like THEY have a ticking countdown biologically, so they don't get the urgency women have. It's not fair, lol! For us, DH is smack dab in the middle crazy period of his career, and he's always away - on course, deployment, assignments, training, etc etc. So I'm left with young children/babies/pregnancies alone ALL the time. Siiiiigh. It would be far more convenient timing to have kids in 10 years when DH is further along in his career and more likely to have a long term desk job, but that'll be too late for me, likely. So it sucks! I joke I should've married a man 10 years my senior, LMAO.

[bec2483]

Lmao at the 10 years younger part and yes I'm not going to trick him he didn't go to doctor he chicken out so that gives me a bit of le way I think I will give him the option of me getting my tubes tried if he let me try for my little boy which I'm happy to do we are still young so we have a bit of time dh:30 in October Me: 30 February there wishing me luck

[LacePrincess]

Best of luck!! Probably a good idea not to nag or push DH, but it's a great sign that he didn't get the snip snip, sounds like there just maaaaaaay be a little nugget of 'maybe' in his subconscious somewhere. You've planted the seed, now let it alone and let it grow!

[Lassie1982]

it IS a good sign that he didnt go to the appointment.
You are both still young, give it a bit of time and gentle persuasion and i hopefully he will come round in the end.

[bec2483]

Thanks ladies