October Chit Chat for Ladies Due in Sept/Oct/Nov

[Hobbermittens]

Auroara, what cute little dragons you have there, and an adorable baby girl! You will have to put up a picture of sweet little Lillian in her bunny outfit so we can see it.

Pinkin, Oliver is so cute! He sounds so sweet and perfect. I am sorry your family isn't giving him (or you!) any attention. Happy late birthday! I hope your DH and DS1 were kind to you that day, even if your other family wasn't!

Peony, congrats on getting to the Watermelon.... not much longer now!

Mocha, there is some kind of baby wash that helps with the baby acne.... I can't remember what it is called, but I used it with DD1. I will see if I can find the name of it.

[auroara78]

Oh Hobbers, you can bet I will def. be posting pics once we get Lillian in her super soft and cuddly pink bunny rabbit. I kinda thought DH would roll his eyes when he saw the costume but he just smiled. Hopefully this means he's embracing all the pink!

I'm about done with my family atm--my mom is still whining and complaining and calling my DH's names for not having stayed during her entire bday party this past summer. I will always love her, she's my mother, but she is really making it hard for me to want to have an actual relationship with her. I'd never do this to Lillian, and I'd also be a better grandmother. She gets so mad when one of my kids asks me something when we're on the phone. She always says, "can't you wait and call me when everyone is in bed? or tell them to stop being rude?" my oldest just turned 5 and I really doubt DS2 who is 18 mos old now, really understands the concept that I'm on the phone and thus "unavailable"...she is so selfish and absorbed in her problems...anyway, sorry for the rant, but I understand how famlilies can be. My DH's family didn't think we should have had a 3rd, and they barely hold or really hang around Lillian. His great-grandmother said, "Good thing this was a girl..." or what? We'd hang him up..we'd cry a river? I'm still very glad I had a girl, but I hate when anyone makes it sound like having a 3rd boy would have been the end of the world. I would have loved him with all my heart too!

Anyway.../rant off...and oh yeah, DH and I are cooling it for now. We're going to stop taking risks! I just started working out a few days ago and it's really helping my energy level and getting me in the right mind-frame for my return to work on Monday.

[pinkin2011]

Why am I still feeling a mess near 3 weeks after having my baby??? Should I still be emotional? My d/h says yeah yeah just blame it on hormones but I feel I cant stand my d/h atm. I am getting up through the night feeding I can hardly leave the house through the day as I am trying to get Oliver into a routine and also to self settle himself so pretty much I have nothing to do with anyone and d/h life has not changed one bit since Oliver has come along. He goes to work everyday but then after work does whatever he wishes .. Goes to the gym goes to cricket training goes running have a few beers out .. He is never home before 8 pm on a week night and then sat plays cricket all day and now its sunday he has gone to do a 10 km fun run thing.. JUST NEVER ENDS! And this is no lie my d/h has changed 1 nappy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I feel like I want to move out ( I mean nothing is different to before I had Oliver) But I cant stand the fact that My life is the only one that has changed and it has changed ALOT! We are fighting every morning because I am soooooo Moody as I dont get much sleep and here he is getting a full nights sleep every night and I sleep on the couch because its just easier.. d/h wont let me have a lamp on in the bedroom to feed so I have to feed on the couch so I find it easier just to sleep there. Can any of you girls see why I am so moody all the time or am I just being over the top??? Oh and d/h said to me looks like we will only be having the 2 kids because I cant cope... HA HA hmmm because I feel like a single mother maybe!!!!! and I can cope I am just angry at him thats all!

[Hobbermittens]

Pinkin, I feel your pain. My DH has only changed Sawyer's diaper once as well! And we were sleeping on the couch until two nights ago. My DH spends as much time as possible out in the garage after he gets home, I think because 4 kids has put him over the top, and he wants peace and quiet. It is getting tough here for me too. I don't understand why their lives aren't very effected by the new babies, but my DH has been this way with the last two. He was a lot more involved with the first two. He holds the baby sometimes, but really not as much as he could!

[pinkin2011]

Hobb I am glad that someone else knows what I mean... I am just so sick of everything atm.. Oliver is the best little baby its not him at all its just you feel so alone ( well I do) and getting up feeding through the night by yourself the nights are so long and lonely... Then the day times are just the same I feel like I cant do anything which really is the case until Oliver gets to a few months old and is in a bit of a routine.I said to d/h before that how nice it would be to be him.. he can just say he wants to go here go there with out a worry OR responability its all on my shoulders , these newborn weeks are tough I think

[Mochagirl]

Pinkin - I've soooo been there - after every baby, and again this time. DH has not changed even one of Sadie's diapers. If I leave Sadie in the room with him so I can get a shower or something, I'll come out to find her crying in her basket while he works on his computer. He plays hockey several nights a week, goes out for drinks with friends, and of course goes to work every day where he gets to socialise, go out for lunch etc. I do get out too, but only because this is my fourth baby so I have no problem bundling her up and taking her out once my boys are asleep for the night, and when ds3 has preschool 3 mornings a week, Sadie and I go shopping - if I didn't have those outings, I'd go CRAZY. Sometimes a week goes past and I realise I haven't talked to a single adult other than dh, and he and I barely talk these days.

I'm not on the couch this time, at least, but I was when my twins were born, for the same reason - DH didn't want the light on in the night. This time I'm blessed with a baby who only wakes up once and nurses for 5 minutes, so I just nurse her in bed with the light off.

My DH and I had a big fight today too. He's not happy with 4 kids, but please - I do EVERYTHING anyway, how has it changed his life except for a little more noise? Drives me nuts.

[laughinglynxie]

I'm so sorry ladies. My husband is pretty supportive for the most part (especially with DS who is almost 3), but I really feel like he plays dumb to get out of helping with the baby. Like if I go get a shower or I'm trying to clean something and she starts crying, I wait a minute or so but then if he doesn't respond, I get angry and have to go in and soothe her myself. Then he gets all angry at me and says, "Well, I didn't know, you should have told me if you wanted me to pick her up." UM, DUH??? It seems like his temper is getting shorter and shorter and I feel the way he chooses to act out in front of our son is a bad example. And I've noticed that instead of giving a time-out or some other sort of "calm" discipline, he'll just get really crabby/sarcastic/naggy with him...

[Hobbermittens]

Dang! I am sorry we all have tough times with our DHs. I wonder why they all have such tough times with babies? Do they just feel helpless, or ARE they helpless?

[Mochagirl]

I think the answer is men suck. I've vowed to raise my boys to be good husbands and fathers but it's hard when they have their dad as a role model. I won't give up though!

On a happier note, here's a picture of my rainbow baby in her rainbow diaper

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[Mochagirl]

Sadie just started smiling for the first time this morning!

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