November 2WW

[meeks32]

Thanks meeks! I know what u mean. but its the position, my cheating on diet during week of ov and T levels oh and dummy dh abstained only 5 days. You see why im so worried? Oh well, at this point i cant do anything to change things around and hoping for a healthy baby.

How many dpo are you??

GL to you

Totally get you, but remember position doesn't sway either. 5 days abstain is pretty good, atomic had a girl after a 4 day abstain. Remember on the positive, you've been doing the diet for a while right? One week cheating isn't bad if you generally stuck to it otherwise. Also, you won't have been taking multivitamins either, bar the usual folic acid and girl sups, and no doubt you were loosing weight prior to the week of cheats. You have still got lots going for you!

T levels are unavoidable, it's in built, the sway is deigned to reduce them (via diet, loosing weight etc) but really, there is always going to be something you can't control, and t is probably it for most of us.

Look at it like you have done more to sway than with your other son(s).

Xx

[Thorz300]

So Im glad you brought the timing thing up.....I have been thinking that what I thought I was supposed to do, was actually a boy sway!!! I think I have read so much that my head was spinning, especially since there were some contradicting things in other sites. Anyhow, we DTD every day from AF until the day after O (11 straight days, husband was in heaven)!. Is that a boy sway????

[meeks32]

So Im glad you brought the timing thing up.....I have been thinking that what I thought I was supposed to do, was actually a boy sway!!! I think I have read so much that my head was spinning, especially since there were some contradicting things in other sites. Anyhow, we DTD every day from AF until the day after O (11 straight days, husband was in heaven)!. Is that a boy sway????

Not at all that's perfect girl sway!

According to this site, and I really believe this because I had ds2 doing shettles timing (clearly wrong), timing doesn't sway, FREQUENCY sways.

So basically both frequent release (fr) and abstain methods sway girl. Fr is 7+ days of releasing one or more times a day, BUT you don't attempt with the sperm until after 7 days. So he releases daily, or you bd daily but start straight after period so when you get to your fertile window it's been 7+ days of bd-ing already. If both of you are older, 5 days would be ok, and only once a day, because sperm count for men over 35 is already low.

So your plan is perfect fr girl method.

FYI Abstain is ideally 7+ days then doing it once, as soon as you can after +opk, ensuring your attempt is in the fertile window. Abstain isn't recommended if dh is over 35 for sperm quality. Abstain has been known to work quite well even after 4-6 days abstain, so if you muck up, don't worry, atomic says of all sway elements, frequency sways the least, so it's the one you can afford to muck up.

Timing or boys is regarded as bd every 2-3 days.

[Thorz300]

Oh good that makes me feel better. DH is barely 32 and I just turned 34 so we aren't quite in that window yet. Swaying is stressful, I never even truly ttc with any of my kids, just stopped taking birth control, but obviously if I keep that up I'll for sure get a boy since right now I am 3 for 3 in the DS category, so something needed to change. But because I never tracked anything before, I have no idea what frequency or timing we used the last 3 times.

[meeks32]

Oh good that makes me feel better. DH is barely 32 and I just turned 34 so we aren't quite in that window yet. Swaying is stressful, I never even truly ttc with any of my kids, just stopped taking birth control, but obviously if I keep that up I'll for sure get a boy since right now I am 3 for 3 in the DS category, so something needed to change. But because I never tracked anything before, I have no idea what frequency or timing we used the last 3 times.

Totally hear you, we never tried either, I feel lucky for that, because trying and TTC girl are both a huge stress, although I try to pretend they aren't to keep t levels low, which is stupid because really, I doubt just trying not to stress actually reduces anything! Haha

But you know I keep thinking about those women who have 6 kids trying for a girl or boy but not changing anything in their diet or lifestyle. Obviously if you don't change anything, the odds are pretty high that you will have the same again. And the more I hate the girl sway, the more I think it's working, because it goes against all my natural tastes and tendencies, and I really believe everything I used to do was super of friendly. Like, everything! Diet, sups, exercise, all the things I ate and did we're total boy things.

[Thorz300]

Totally hear you, we never tried either, I feel lucky for that, because trying and TTC girl are both a huge stress, although I try to pretend they aren't to keep t levels low, which is stupid because really, I doubt just trying not to stress actually reduces anything! Haha

But you know I keep thinking about those women who have 6 kids trying for a girl or boy but not changing anything in their diet or lifestyle. Obviously if you don't change anything, the odds are pretty high that you will have the same again. And the more I hate the girl sway, the more I think it's working, because it goes against all my natural tastes and tendencies, and I really believe everything I used to do was super of friendly. Like, everything! Diet, sups, exercise, all the things I ate and did we're total boy things.

That sounds exactly like me too! I guess we'll know soon enough, I might POAS sunday if I get my courage up, but starting that too early gives me unnecessary stress too lol!

[meeks32]

You guys might be interested in this calculator, when considering when to test (which really depends on your cycle length and luteal phase): http://www.pregnology.com/pregnancy-test.php

[Thorz300]

That was great!!!! Thanks for sharing that website!

[meeks32]

GREAT! Think all this fr has resulted in me getting a urinary tract infection! Now I don't know how to get rid of it without swaying blue or taking lots of cranberry, which would impact implantation! Damn damn damn. Have to go to doctor tonight now. At least I can ask about the luteal phase thing. Am only 1dpo, egg not even fertilised yet possibly and I had to take a vitamin c tablet and a cranberry tablet. Normally would have taken more but don't want to affect the gender during fertilisation! As it is I'll stress about what I took!

[Thorz300]

Oh man, so sorry, I hope it all works out! Let us know what the dr says!