Hey ladies. I am sad to say that I miscarried last night at 4.5 weeks along. I am still so sad and shocked but already thinking about conceiving again. My daughter is 2 years and 8 months old and I just feel some pressure to not have them so far apart. But of course, I just want a healthy pregnancy and baby. Has anyone else experienced a miscarriage and then went on to conceive a healthy baby again? I am not sure about swaying now....
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November 22nd, 2012, 05:39 PM #1Dream User
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November 22nd, 2012, 05:41 PM #2
I'm so sorry.
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November 22nd, 2012, 05:43 PM #3
Im so sorry to hear you went through that. Unfortunatly mc are so common
I did have one at 10 weeks with my 1st pregnancy (baby died at 7 weeks) i know it is so devistating and not many people understand if they haven't gone through it too. But the good news is that you will be able to conceive again, i did and couldnt be happier with my DD, and looking back if i never had that mc, i wouldn't have her today, so it all works out for the best in the end.
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November 22nd, 2012, 06:45 PM #4
Hi hon,
I know how hard it is, but of course it's possible to have a healthy baby after a miscarriage, although it feels scary and you will panic lots during your next pregnancy.
My own history is quite sad, if I'm honest - it goes;
1 - 'late miscarriage', DD halfway through pregnancy
2 - miscarriage, 12 weeks.
3 - Twin pregnancy, 1 lost. DS1 born healthy.
4 - Miscarriage, 10 weeks.
5 - Miscarriage, 6 weeks.
6 - DS2, born healthy
7 - Miscarriage, 4 weeks
8 - Miscarriage, 5 weeks
9 - Miscarriage, 4 weeks (october 2012)
But! Although I've had my fair share of them, I know it's possible to have a healthy baby and I don't worry. It will happen when it happens and although it's always sad to loose a pregnancy I try to rationalise - the pregnancy didn't happen because for some reason something went wrong and the baby my OH and I are meant to have will come with time and he/she will be worth every ounce of heartbreak we've come across over the years.
Try not to despair! It IS heartbreaking, but there is NO reason you shouldn't bear another healthy child to term.2005
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Hoping for another baby girl in 2016/17
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November 22nd, 2012, 06:49 PM #5
So sorry you have been through this. That's the spirit, don't give up. I had a chemical last month and that hurt a lot. I would have been about 4 weeks. I think something was wrong there though as the pregnancy tests didn't get stronger. This time they are. You can absolutely go on to have a healthy baby. Almost every woman of child bearing age will go through a miscarriage of some kind in their fertile years. It's very common, but I understand hard to go through. I was so hurt when I started bleeding, but I also knew that a new cycle was a new beginning, a new opportunity. And I conceived a few weeks later with this bub.
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November 22nd, 2012, 07:20 PM #6
It's so hard, I really am so sorry. I m/c at 12 weeks last month, and I'm 40 now and wondering if I'll ever get pregnant again. My heart goes out to you and your family...
Sept 2008 & successful boy sway
June 2010.
M/C Oct 2012
Is DE in my future?
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November 22nd, 2012, 07:49 PM #7
I'm so sorry.
Yes of course you will have a chance at a healthy pregnancy again. You already had one and that proves you can carry a healthy baby to term.
Unfortunately miscarriages sometimes happen for no good reason. I know it really sucks, but I hope you can go on, as many women have conceived quickly immediately following a m/c. Big hugs!Me (38) and DH (38)
SAHM military momma toDS1 (2004),
DS2 (who's all boy but loves to dance, though not in a tutu!) (2006),
DS3 (2009), and our rainbow baby girl DD1 (2017)
early m/c Jan 2013
Cycle #1 @ HRC (Oct 2014) - 6 retrieved, 4 mature, 3 fertilized and biopsied. 1XX and 1XY abnormal. 1XX no DNA found, rebiopsied and found normal, frozen.
FET attempt #1 (Nov 2014) - cancelled due to functional cyst. FET attempt #2 (Jan 30, 2015) - NT. Remaining embie failed to thaw.
May 2015 - started infertility treatments at OFC. Femara 2.5mg
July 2015 - BFP after second round of Femara. Aug 4 2015 -6w4d
Dec 21 2015 -mmc 7w1d
Apr 2016 - IVF Cycle #2. Converted to IUI because of uneven response and leading follicles.
Apr 19, 2016 - IUI with 3 mature follicles (2 right, 1 left), post wash: 17mil, 94% motility and 89% rapid motility. BFN.
June 3, 2016 -5mg Femara cycle. 5w.
Sep 1, 2016 -5mg Femara cycle. 8w.
Our rainbow baby girl arrived on Mon Aug 28, 2017 - "After every storm comes a rainbow". We are so thankful and grateful for every moment.
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November 22nd, 2012, 10:37 PM #8
I am so very sorry for your loss
I conceived in April and M/C in May.
I used Vitex to bring back O or AF and Red Raspberry Leave Capsules to heal my uterine lining.
A month later from the day I M/C before AF even had a chance to return I got my BFP.. and I am in the 3rd trimester now!
It is possible, completely. Just make sure that you give yourself some time to grieve. Conceiving again was the only way I would fill that hole in my heart. And there's nothing wrong with it. I would recommend highly.. that when you get your BFP to go to your OB and be put on Progesterone. I took it from BFP to just shy of 13 weeks.Age 75
MC May 2012
BFP June 2012 My ~*Princess*~ is now 3 yrs old!
MC May 2015
Chemical June 2015
DS#3 Arrived in April
I love my Rainbow Baby with all my, She took a year to conceive! Thank you GD!
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November 22nd, 2012, 11:18 PM #9Dream User
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Thank you for the support and kind words, it means a lot when I feel so alone! It seems miscarriages are rather common. I feel like I really want to try again ASAP. I am not sure if I should start taking my temp again to see whats going on or use OPK's.
I will get some Red Raspberry Leaf Capsules. I honestly do not know much about Vitex. I just want to be careful! I am not sure if my midwives would give me Progesterone either.
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November 22nd, 2012, 11:41 PM #10Dream User
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Like the other girls said it is sadly very common and you can most definitely go on to have a healthy baby again. Be kind to yourself and good luck with whatever you decide x