Back Labor?! I'm afraid I'll have it again ... can't decide between a birth center or a hospital.

[smbarnett11]

So I'm 6weeks pregnant now and am trying to pick a birth center or a regular ob group. I had HORRIBLE back labor with my DS1 and my contractions were only 1 minute apart when they started so I never got any breaks. For his birth I was in a hospital with a doc who wouldn't let me try different positions or a shower or anything. I held out for 7 hours and then got an epidural, which at least allowed me to have a vaginal delivery even if it wasn't med-free. My mom and all her sisters and my grandma all had back labor so I think there is a genetic connection with the shape of the pelvis (being more triangular than round). I'm just convinced this baby will be face-up again and I'll have the same back labor. I want to try to achieve a med-free delivery but I'm scared because that kind of unrelenting pain is intolerable. Is there anyone out there who had back labor with one baby and didn't have it with another? Is there anyone who has any tips on how they managed their back labor? Were you in a hospital or a birth center? I'd like to give the birth center a try -- its only 1/2 a block from the hospital mother/baby center -- so I could go there if I ended up needing an epidural after all and the midwives have privileges so they would still finish the delivery. I just don't know though, a friend of mine had her baby die in a birth center last year so I'm a little paranoid. But I feel like I won't be able to cope with back labor in a hospital setting very effectively. I want to be safe but I want to have more ways to manage the pain than I had the first time. I just can't decide!!!!!

[Wanting-a-girl]

My friend had back labour with her first and not with her other two...
Maybe look into other pain management... There are these water shots they put in ur back to help ease back labour and you can also look into the tens machine

[2boys1girl]

I can't speak of birthing centers b/c I've only ever delivered at a hospital but I had HORRIBLE back labor with my first DD but didn't have it at all with my next 2 children(I labored in front with those). Honestly, the back labor was awful but the actual delivery was easier with that pregnancy. Each one of my deliveries were so so different than the others. My water broke with my last baby and the first 2 it never broke! Anyway, you get have a very different experience the next time around. Good luck!

[Atsaukina1]

I had back labor with my 3. I have heard it is most likely from them being posterier which also leads to longer births since it takes them more time to turn into the correct position. My last babe decided to come flying into the world(a lot shorter labor and ZERO pushing) and I credit that all to my chiro. I started seeing her when my back went out on me and she said my hips and everything were all misaligned(yeah you get that from carrying a babe on your hip lol) and I think her adjustments just ligned baby up perfectly. Might want to give chiro a call. Also being up and active and yoga are good also.

[Atsaukina1]

also just wanted to say that they can not make you do anything. everything is a "suggestion" or "question" even though they don't word it that way
were just going to put in your iv.
is really
do you mind if we put in this iv??
and you can say "NO" or I would like a hep so I can move around more freely. My 1st and only hospital birth I was young but I knew this and ignored what I really thought was dangerous and let some other things go. It was a fight and who wants to fight while giving birth rrr. If you do decide to go to hossy then labor at home up and walking/squatting as long as possible. Then when I got to hossy instead of getting hooked up and monitored I took a long shower lol. Good thing though cuz after that I was stuck to the bed. Like I said I didn't fight everything but I have never been stuck in bed for another birth

sorry about your friend that is heartbreaking. sometimes children pass in hospital,birth centers, home and there is nothing we can do

[smbarnett11]

My friend had back labour with her first and not with her other two...
Maybe look into other pain management... There are these water shots they put in ur back to help ease back labour and you can also look into the tens machine

The birth center I'm looking at said that they do those water shots. I've also thought about trying a tens... I work at a chiropractic office and they have a really cool wireless one. Thanks! Its encouraging to know that some people don't always have back labor.

[smbarnett11]

I can't speak of birthing centers b/c I've only ever delivered at a hospital but I had HORRIBLE back labor with my first DD but didn't have it at all with my next 2 children(I labored in front with those). Honestly, the back labor was awful but the actual delivery was easier with that pregnancy. Each one of my deliveries were so so different than the others. My water broke with my last baby and the first 2 it never broke! Anyway, you get have a very different experience the next time around. Good luck!

Again, so relieved to know there are some people who don't always have back labor. I'd like to know what normal front labor is like .

[smbarnett11]

also just wanted to say that they can not make you do anything. everything is a "suggestion" or "question" even though they don't word it that way
were just going to put in your iv.
is really
do you mind if we put in this iv??
and you can say "NO" or I would like a hep so I can move around more freely. My 1st and only hospital birth I was young but I knew this and ignored what I really thought was dangerous and let some other things go. It was a fight and who wants to fight while giving birth rrr. If you do decide to go to hossy then labor at home up and walking/squatting as long as possible. Then when I got to hossy instead of getting hooked up and monitored I took a long shower lol. Good thing though cuz after that I was stuck to the bed. Like I said I didn't fight everything but I have never been stuck in bed for another birth

sorry about your friend that is heartbreaking. sometimes children pass in hospital,birth centers, home and there is nothing we can do

Yea...the first one was definitely a fight. And it was awful. Who can speak up for themselves when they can't even move?! Lol. That alone makes me want to go to the birth center. I work for a chiro and I did with my first do so I have always had tons of adjustments. Maybe the chiro I work for now has different techniques. I guess I'll just keep hoping for an easy front labor and maybe I'll get it. Thanks for all the advice.

[Rosie85]

I had back labor with both of mine and wanted to die. No advice from me, just here to say I know your pain and I hope to avoid it too. I went to the chiro and will keep going, hoping it helps align the baby!

[Mochagirl]

All of my kiddos were posterior. With my twins I had an epidural, but the back labour was so strong I could still feel it near the end. With ds3 I worked through the pain of the back labour and had a medication-free birth. With dd I had yet another back labour but I'd had 72 hours of labour with no sleep that whole time and had an epidural at about 8cm because I couldn't take it anymore.


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