Due in March/April/May 2013 Roll call!

[mummypink]

I think I may have to take a step back from this board. Although I'm so happy for those who have gotten their DG (I really am)- its extremely hard for me to read about some of you hearing what I so desperately wanted to hear. Just when I think I may have a good day with no tears, I will come on here and it starts a downward spiral again. I really hope to get to the place where so many of you with opposites have gotten. I admire your peace and happiness.

Maybe it's silly to say, but what I am feeling is as raw as when I first lost my mom this Spring. And to have a mother daughter relationship taken away from me twice in just 7 months is too much for me to take right now. I feel like no one (even in real life) can truly understand what I'm feeling right now because my feelings are complicated with the death of my mom. And I need to figure out this GD before the baby is born (which will be only 1.5 weeks after the 1 year anniversary of my mom's death). I think I was really depending on a little girl to give me something to look forward to. I know it's not this little guy's fault- and all he wants is to be loved. You all know its not about the things I do have- but about the lifetime of experiences I will never have now.

I'm sorry . Congrats to all of you who have heard such good news! I'm hoping to be back at some point. Just have to figure this all out first......

Sending you a big hug Jark, I understand how you feel and stepping back for a while sounds like a good plan. I'm so envious of everyone that has heard girl, but I'm also genuinely happy for everyone as I know first hand what it means to desire a certain gender.
I've been having quite vivid dreams about my dad that have been really strange and I wake up and remember all over again that he isn't here any more. I lost him 3 years ago and it still hurts and I remember all too well how hard it was for the first year or so. Have you thought about getting some counselling to help you deal with your grief? I think sometimes we are so busy looking after our families we don't take the time we need to look after ourselves and losing your mum is a huge think to try and comprehend. I think it took me a full year to actually acknowledge my Dad had gone.
Have you got anyone you can sit and talk to about your feelings and just have a good cry with?

So wish I had a magic wand Jark so I could bring your mum back and give you a daughter. If only life was that simple. xxxx

[Shellbelle]

Definitely sure. I feel a little numb and like I can't breathe.

[hotdogz&boyz]

Congrats on a sweet little boy Shell! I hope you are doing okay. He sounds like a real sweetheart though, all shy and snuggly.

Whose next? Surgena? Anyone before that that I am missing? We should be heading toward the end of may for elective scans...I know a few folks find out in January at their anatomy though. Then we will be looking down the pike to the first arrivals!!

[mummypink]

Awww Shell, wish I could give you a big hug. The first 24 hours is the worst hun, have a good cry if you need to, before you know it you will soon be looking forward to meeting your gorgeous little man. xxxx

[Brandles]

Jark, Sending you my thoughts and prayers during this time of grief. Take all the time you need and we will welcome you back with open arms when you're ready. Please know that we are all here for you. Big hugs to you. (((HUGS)))

Shell, congratulations on your boy. I'm sorry you didn't hear girl though. Sounds like you already have a little stinker in there since he kept y'all guessing.

[Tiffani3]

Shell so sorry you didn't hear girl, hope your doing ok.
Congratulations on your little man. xx

[spinningmadly]

I was just at the vet with Our new puppy and the vet tech there said she was told boy with her first and 20 weeks later she had a girl!

[homebirthing princess]

I'm really sorry you didn't hear girl shell, but a huge congratulations on your healthy little man! Big hugs being sent your way xxx

[mummypink]

I was just at the vet with Our new puppy and the vet tech there said she was told boy with her first and 20 weeks later she had a girl!

I know it is unlikely but I so hope some of us on here that have heard opposites have this happen to us. I've stopped obsessing quite so much over us pics that proved to be opposites and I am actually looking forward to having three little boys. Doesn't stop me dreaming of having a daughter of course though, or feeling sad at the thought of never having one.

If the big man is watching up there please make sure we all have healthy little ones please and if you can throw us a few gender miracles that would be awesome! x

[Cinss]

Suregena i have been having those crampy feelings too, i think its normal, and ouch that must have hurt your butt. The babies double in size from week 15 - 17 or something like that so lots of stretching of the uterus atm. I also was a little concerned about it because it was pretty bad after i drove in the car and went over a bump in the road a bit too quickly and the seat belt bit into my belly down low under my bump and then it was just so uncomfortable to move and walk. Its all better now, but ladeis just a reminder to take good care of your bumps and be careful with everything you do.

Jark so sorry you are still feeling the double wham of your mom and daughter I hope you feel better soon and we will all be thinking of you while you are on a break from here. I think the spirits should rise quite a bit in here when we start posting the pics of our precious little babies.

Shell congrats on your little boy, hope you are doing ok with the news, sending you hugs.