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May 7th, 2011, 05:19 PM #301
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May 7th, 2011, 05:23 PM #302
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May 7th, 2011, 06:20 PM #303
Selfish little jerk monkey of a husband. Grrrrrrrrrr. We had a nice talk the other night that ended in tears(mine, not his). He basically told me that he didn't want anymore. That if we had another his life was basically over. All I heard of course was "me me me me me". I don't know what to think or do right now.
I'm sending out tons of blue dust and hugs to everyone, in case I don't pop in for awhile.2002
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May 7th, 2011, 06:53 PM #304
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May 7th, 2011, 06:55 PM #305
I can't kick them out unfortunately.. Mum had to leave an abusive relationship and is not doing well at all she has had a breakdown, she has nothing but the suitcase they came with, suffers severe anxiety and depression. It isn't good at all =( We are all they have now and are trying to get her well again.
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May 7th, 2011, 08:28 PM #306
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May 7th, 2011, 08:59 PM #307
FX it is just a phase and he will snap out of his tanty?!
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May 7th, 2011, 09:31 PM #308Dreamer
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Oh, that is so awful. I'm so sorry you are dealing with that. My DH goes on about how he wants a son and I cheerfully say I am up for having three if this sway comes out girl and he acts like three kids would be the worst thing that could ever happen to him. He has said the same thing as yours, that his life would just be over. I don't get it?! I just don't see how they can feel that way. Maybe he is just scared and overwhelmed about having another baby to care for? Worried the sway might not work? I hope he comes around.
And btw, I notice you are in Mississippi too!Tiffany
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Thank you gender dreaming!
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May 7th, 2011, 09:37 PM #309Dream Vet
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Oh Mmsgirlie I am so sorry that happened! What changed his mind, he was on board when you got the IUD out right? Goodness. My bestie is in the same place with her DH now, too ... wanting a 3rd and him saying no more. It is SO hard. I hope he comes around to your side soon!
TTC5 I'm glad you're better emotionally! I do wonder if it had anything to do with the supps? Regardless I hope you can keep peace for yourself with all you have going on. You're a wonderful daughter and sibling to do what you're doing for your family.
Flava you've got a shot at a boy! It ain't over til it's over love and as long as you're willing to have more babies, you're ALWAYS going to have a chance at a son being one of them. I know what you're saying though ... I only have 2 daughters and there are days I feel like there's no way I can hope for a son. But more days than not I try to focus on the fact that it is POSSIBLE! Like Atomic says ... you have NO shot at your DG if you don't get pregnant.
This is really more a statement for another thread/part of the site but I'm too lazy so I'm going to vent here how much I LOATHE people who, when they find out I have 2 girls and want 1 more baby, say "Oh! You know, we would have had more if we had two of a kind too. But since we got one of each we're done." Like there's a "perfect" family and they have it and I don't. I want to dump my wine glass all over their laps. I don't think people realize how smug they sound about this topic so I don't say anything snarky in return .... but oh how I want to put them in their place!
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May 7th, 2011, 09:52 PM #310
[QUOTE=mmsgirlie22;31703]Selfish little jerk monkey of a husband. Grrrrrrrrrr. We had a nice talk the other night that ended in tears(mine, not his). He basically told me that he didn't want anymore. That if we had another his life was basically over. All I heard of course was "me me me me me". I don't know what to think or do right now. /QUOTE]
Girlie, that's the best opening line I've ever heard! I am soooo sorry! You know I know how you feel and I'm sorry. I wish I could give you all the advice I was given but I can't remember it all. DH's work had a program for counseling and it might really help to get some advice like I did. When my DH finally jumped on board w/ this ttc, we were out of the house on a date, had some drinks and a great time, and the conversation went so much better. It might help just to get you both in a different element (we were out cuz our church was starting the book 10 great dates which has a really fun 1st assignment to talk about).
I hear a lot of men talk about their families being "complete" and not understanding why they need anymore DC. It's not a bad thing, and pretty common. It must stem from somewhere, though. Maybe if you go out on a date, have some drinks and relax you can get him to open up and really get to the deeper surface of why he thinks that. Like is it money, space, stress on him as a man, feeling like he can't stretch himself anymore, he's worried about your stress or doesn't get enough alone time w/ you as it is etc. Then, you can really see where his heart is, understand him and speak directly to his concerns. Men think so much differently then we do and they are not going to always understand this deep longing a lot of women have to help create life. This is a huge subject and we need to know where each other is truly at.You may have already done this though, and I get off my soapbox.
My counselor told me that for the sake of our marriage we really needed to come to some kind of middle ground. I was like there is no middle ground, either we do or we don't and someone has to lose. I can't say that he'll agree with you but let him know that he needs to just listen to you and see where you heart is.
A lot of men also seem to ask, "If I give you one more child, will that be enough or will we never be done", and you need to sort of think about that. Personally, my answer is, I'm not sure how I'll feel but I know that right now I am longing to do this again.
I'm thinking about you and I hope you will be OK. You might need to just give him a break for a couple weeks or month and bring it up again. When I was trying to convince DH for baby #4, he was saying no no no. I left it alone for a couple months and when I brought it up again he said yes. I heard him tell someone else that when I waited a while and brought it up again, he knew how important it was to me and that's when he agreed. FYI - I then decided I would be OK if he didn't want #4 and may have been pregnant even when I told him that. Oops!
Hope this helps a little. B prayin for you!