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[spinningmadly]

its just not caught before now because the brain and other organs are just too small to see it. my friend said she did see a massive change between 15-16 weeks with the brain and that is normally when it shows up and because it gets bigger. which is why anatomy scans arent usually done until 16 weeks at the earliest.
it just appears to us now but when its formed is like within the first 12 days, hence a genetic defect.
rosie- i wish that was the case. there is no mild form. while i understand some would be ok to try to carry to term and to sit with a baby in a hospital for 2 months in a nicu. I just cannot do that at this time in my life. my kids have seen this twice now and i get so sick wtih each pregnancy i am missing out on their lives. I need to move on and i feel like i need to do that now. I know what its like to walk around like a zombie hoping and wishing and googling and ive done that once im not doing it again its not fair to anyone around me. i can say i have searched and its not a good thing in anyway and also the echogenic kidney apparently means multicystic (not functioning) and he wasnt even sure if he saw a second kidney. Things are just crappy. But for some reason my body just stopped having healthy kids on its own.

[spinningmadly]

the fact that the baby doesnt have severe deformities *although he thought he saw midline cleft which is also in accordance with this issue) made it hard. but the brain issue is a brain issue, I have googled and its just not misdiagnosed usually. Or ever really.
My midwife has known my peri forever and said hes not he type to jump the gun if he wasnt positive he would have said lets wait and see but with what he said he was positive these are severe issues regardless of trisomy

[TT_3814]

Spinning~ There just aren't enough words... ((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))) I am so sorry, you in no way deserve this and I'll be praying for you and your family. My heart is in pieces for you and your sweet baby girl, much love to you right now..

[Bimby]

Spinning my heart is breaking for you right now Did they say why the blood tests didnt indicate anything at 12 weeks or is that tested for something else? I wish I could say something to make it less painful for you xx

[Rosie85]

Spinning, you are so so brave. It sounds like you have thought it through. I agree, it just isn't fair, not to you, your husband, your boys or that poor baby girl. A brain issue is a serious matter and if doc is sure that would be good enough for me. Life is hard as it is, no need to make anyone suffer through worse when there is sadly no happy ending :-( If they thought they could be wrong it might be different. Big big hugs to you. Thinking of you and your family constantly.

[spinningmadly]

bimby from what i gather the tests only did triomy 18 and downs

[Bimby]

Oh ok, I'll try and dig out my test results to see but maybe its different here as I thought they did T13, 18 & 21 with the bloods?? It doesnt change anything I know I am just trying to make sense of it all for you I guess xx

[spinningmadly]

She said here they don't and regardless my Mw doesn't consider screenings Too definitive too many normal with abnormal and vice versa.
However she did just read me the u/s report from the peri. A lot is wrong seriously. A long list. With hands too. And face, eyes .So.. In accordance w trisomy 13

[Bimby]

Oh hunny ... so where to from here?? When do they anticipate the results to come back from the amnio? Do they have a counsellor that you can talk to?? I just feel so hopeless over here, I really just wanna be there to give you a big hug

[spinningmadly]

We have chosen to induce. Ugh ive had twice as many labors now then take home kids.
I will be needing a serious long appointment with a genetic counselor. But prelim talks with them have made it seem as though they recommend pgd or if we don't want to do that def a Cvs next time but that wouldn't change anything, ya know? Just tell us a few weeks earlier