Roll-call!! Due June/July/August 2013

[Maple]

She made me promise not have any more kids - in her mind three was more than enough - hoping her granddaughter may sway her though considering she didn't particuarly want any of the boys either (ds1 - she was too young, ds3 he was a boy) and she dotes on them now

Ouch!
I hope she gets over it real quick, for your sake.. Four gorgeous kids, who wouldn't? XX

[Maple]

Hi everyone,
I'm struggling to catch up with this huge thread and endless Christmas prep but just wanted to say congrats for all the recent scans and Mrs P! So happy you heard girl!

I'm telling my family on Friday and in laws next week and fully expecting some comments re. gender - all meant in good humour of course but it's still hard to take. I've been thinking about it for months and am seriously considering saying "yes, actually I am really hoping for a girl, as much as I want a healthy baby first and foremost I would feel completed to have the daughter I've always longed for" and then proceed to list the things ive put myself through to try to sway the odds even a few percent more in my favour and how hard it is to wait for a scan knowing not only that it very likely hasn't worked but that I then have to face people's unhelpful comments and pity!! That'd shut them up pretty quickly!
Seriously though, in some ways I feel that explaining GD and talking about it openly is the only way it'll become less "taboo" but equally, the thought of being pitied is horrible. Interesting idea though?
X

Hi Emmy,

You sound very sensible. I get so defensive about negative boy comments, and lash out when someone pisses me off.. My heart breaks for the boys I have as they are utter darlings. It would be lovely to have another boy, although mourning the reality I might never have a daughter will be so hard.

GD is absolutely awful!

XX

[Maple]

Thanks, Maple! I know how you feel about your MIL's comments. My mom made a comment in front of a room full of people this weekend that made me want to slap her. She said that my DH has put his foot down and refused to have more children even if this next one is (gasp) a boy. She made it sound like I'm a crazy woman desperate for a girl and I'd make my DH keep going till we had 9 boys. It doesn't matter that it's true-I am longing for a girl, I don't need people thinking that!! I felt like she threw me under the bus. At least when I talked to her about it the next day, she apologised and agreed that it wasn't a very nice comment.

Ooh, that wasn't fair, poor you! I cringed while reading this.. People just do not think before speaking when it comes to things such as this. Its weird because if I said to my MIL I bet she wished she was not so overweight (which I never would), she would probably start crying. Yet people pass thoughtless gender comments, in front of my sons! Grr.

Breathe girl, breathe. Lol.

[Mum23boys]

Um, what?! Are you having twins Mum23? If so, that is AMAZING!!!!! Big congrats! XXX

Well i was anxious about the pregnancy after my MC in oct so was honest with the MW and she refered me for a scand an yes 2 sacs 2 bbies but only 1 heartbeat. I need to wait until Jan 4th to go back and see if the other baby has developed and if the one with the heartbeat as grown as it was only measuring 5 weeks. Going to be a tough time over xmas worrying i think.Im worried we could still come out the other end with nothing

[dreamingpink77]

Thanks Jadis, glad all went well with your scan to. I so love my dvd of the baby moving, she is so cute i must have watched it every night at least. I'm usually to much of a mess at my scans to watch properly they always seem to go by in a blur, glad you got some good bonding time in. Did you catch sight of a nub at all

Glad everything is ok with your little baby I must have missed that you're having a girl....so happy for you, Congratulations!

[dreamingpink77]

Mrs p she will ecstatic when she hears its a girl !!! My mum on the other hand already has 4 grand sons and a grand daughter (my sister has 1 of each sex typically ) so she wont mind what sex this baby ( or babies ) are. wHEN I TOLD HER THEY SAW TWINS SHE NEARLY PASSED OUT !!!

Congratulations on your twins Mum23boys, I only saw this now

[dreamingpink77]

Came here today to say that I'm having my scan tomorrow, if I'm lucky baby will let us see his/her parts and we'll finally know the gender. Just read 3boys and spinningmadly's threads and I'm just so sad. Just feel miserable, this is all so unfair. We think our babies will be ok and all of a sudden they're just gone. Sorry girls, I think I'm just upsetting you

[Pearl327]

Good luck tomorrow with your scan dreaming. I hope you see a girlie nub.
There has been a lot of sad news on here lately, but equally there has been a lot of positive news too. The best thing we can do for our babies is to believe that everything will be ok and try not to worry

[dreamingpink77]

Thanks Pearl, I know you're right, but it's not easy though.

[Mommyof3boys]

She made me promise not have any more kids - in her mind three was more than enough - hoping her granddaughter may sway her though considering she didn't particuarly want any of the boys either (ds1 - she was too young, ds3 he was a boy) and she dotes on them now

Sounds like my mom. She told me after the first that no one really needs more than one, even though she had two. Then after the second she said that two was plenty and that no one should ever had 3. After the third she pretty much said that I would be crazy if I ever had anymore. At least your mom dotes on yours we live 10 minutes from my mom and she will go months without seeing them and not even notice and will find any excuse she can think of to get out of babysitting. I do have a sister that lives a few blocks away and she has two boys so we just help each other, I don't know what I would do if I couldn't depend on her.