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[Turning the page]

Bimby- I did hear this afternoon and have been a wreck since. I didn't want to post because I feel like I am just getting this thread down and depressing.
The FISH results came back negative for trisomy 13, 15, 18 and 21. The genetic counselor and Dr were shocked.
Which means I still don't have an answer which just makes it that much worse. I'm tired of googling for what I did or did not do or could have done and just want them to give me an answer. I feel like if I don't have that answer then I don't know if HT will help or not.
What they will do now is test every single chromosome (since they only tested those few) and then if that shows nothing they will do a microarray of every chromosome and look closely to see if there are any weird dna issues going on within the chromosomes.
My midwife said me and DH should also have that microarray done.
I'm so mad that this has happened to me twice with girls. I feel like the universe is seeing how much I can handle before breaking down. And now I just want an answer and I'm not getting one.

Jesus, spinning, I can't believe it! Surely there must be something in the microarray or the chromosome assay that will shed some light on what is happening. Once they find it, they can certainly evaluate for that with PGD. I'm praying that you get your answer, sooner rather than later...

[spinningmadly]

I know :/ they said 2-3 weeks. which seems like an eternity.
I am so frustrated. we eat organic and I"m so picky about chemicals and this and that and this stuff just keeps happening.
My next door neighbor smokes throughout her pregnancy and her baby is totally fine. (no offense to anyone that smokes)
I just don't get how this is fair.

[Lassie1982]

I know :/ they said 2-3 weeks. which seems like an eternity.
I am so frustrated. we eat organic and I"m so picky about chemicals and this and that and this stuff just keeps happening.
My next door neighbor smokes throughout her pregnancy and her baby is totally fine. (no offense to anyone that smokes)
I just don't get how this is fair.

Oh Hun I'm so sorry.
Life is so unfair. So intolerably cruel, and so very very unfair.
Why do people who abuse their bodies still get healthy babies, but others that do everything right don't?
Why do people that betray their husband into pregnancy through deceit and lies get their dream gender, but honest and morally flawless women just can't get that dream girl/boy they so dearly wish for?
It's unfair, all of its unfair
I wish there was a way to make it right, I wish that doing the right thing meant getting the right thing, I'm so sorry your hurting and that you have been dealt life's low blows.

I really truly hope for you that you finally get lots of rainbows and sunshine

[Bimby]

Bimby- I did hear this afternoon and have been a wreck since. I didn't want to post because I feel like I am just getting this thread down and depressing.
The FISH results came back negative for trisomy 13, 15, 18 and 21. The genetic counselor and Dr were shocked.
Which means I still don't have an answer which just makes it that much worse. I'm tired of googling for what I did or did not do or could have done and just want them to give me an answer. I feel like if I don't have that answer then I don't know if HT will help or not.
What they will do now is test every single chromosome (since they only tested those few) and then if that shows nothing they will do a microarray of every chromosome and look closely to see if there are any weird dna issues going on within the chromosomes.
My midwife said me and DH should also have that microarray done.
I'm so mad that this has happened to me twice with girls. I feel like the universe is seeing how much I can handle before breaking down. And now I just want an answer and I'm not getting one.

Spinning, that is so unfair I wish you were able to have the answers and not have to go through more rigmarole to find out. Im so sorry you are being put through all this. I would be pi**ed too. I remember when I was doing IVF I was asking the same questions you are now. Why can people on drugs/smoke/drink and people who abuse get pregnant and have perfectly healthy children, I still dont understand and I never will. All I wish for is the best for you and your family, please dont feel like you are "letting down this thread" as you said, we all want to know how you are and what you are finding out, we just want to be there for you to support you through all this, I hope you know that - Hugs to you xoxo

[spinningmadly]

I'm wondering now if it's mthfr.
I am assuming if I go ht they will be willing to test for and treat that if it's a problem

[TT_3814]

Spinning~ So sorry you have yet to get any answers. Praying you do very soon and keep you in my thoughts always! xxx

Bimby~ As for the ham question, I hope others chime in as well but this is what my doula/midwife told me when I asked her about holiday foods. I wanted to know how safe the ham would be and she said once its fully cooked, then refrigerated left overs are generally fine to eat hot or cold. Of course you can make up your own mind. I still can't bring myself not to reheat, even though I do trust her.

[Rosie85]

Ladies if the ham is baked in the oven it is different than that of ham style deli meat. Deli meat is processed and has risk of cross contamination and such. A ham that goes from your oven to fridge is perfectly safe to eat cold the next day, I just wouldn't go a day after that without reheating.

[ThreeMenAndALAdy]

Spinning please don't feel like your bringing the board down when you post. You are on our minds a lot, and we want to know what's going on with you. I wanted to ask you yesterday if you got the results back but was afraid too. This is your group too and we are here to listen and help if we can. I hope you find the answers you need to move on to ht.
I have no idea why you have to go through this again, but I hope something positive does come out of it down the road.

[spinningmadly]

Thanks TM&AL-
I just feel like this thread has slowed down since my news and you guys can continue to talk about normal things..
and any GD etc etc, I understand the GD despite having an unhealthy baby, I don't want anyone to feel like I am not sympathetic to GD still.

I found out from my midwife today the last labs the other dr ran after my last loss they forgot to do MTHFR!! (which is a genetic issue where you can't process folic acid I believe but it can cause clotting issues too) anyway she said we will have to do that when I come in. I was pretty irritated they totally missed that.

[Tiffani3]

Spinning please don't feel like your bringing the board down when you post. You are on our minds a lot, and we want to know what's going on with you. I wanted to ask you yesterday if you got the results back but was afraid too. This is your group too and we are here to listen and help if we can. I hope you find the answers you need to move on to ht.
I have no idea why you have to go through this again, but I hope something positive does come out of it down the road.

I agree, spinning we are all here for you totally any time you need us! We all love you lots and I just wish there was something I could do to make it all better for you xx