UPDATE. My vanishing twin hasnt yet vanished but hasnt grown either ....

[Violet_]

Great to her your baby is thriving mum, sorry about baby 2.

[heidih1977]

Fantastic news about healthy baby 1...sad news about the other twin.

[Mum23boys]

Thanks ladies I am grateful that we have 1 but I just cant shake the feeling of sadness about not having twins - its always been my dream and then it was there and taken from me . Hubby doesnt understand as he thinks twins would be a nightmare not a blessing so i try not to talk about it. Anyway im doing ok and am so hapy i have 1 baby and at th emoment am trying to focus on keeping the GD at bay

[fairyfrog]

Losing one child no matter how many healthy happy children you have doesn't make the pain go away from losing the one. I am so sorry and hope that your are able to mourn the loss of your child and find peace. When I lost one of my unborn children we had a ceremony to help us through the pain. Guys sometimes handle things differently, but I hope he realizes the sadness you are in and steps up. I hope you have someone you can lean on through this hard and joyous time. I find them the hardest to get through, because of the conflicting emotions. FX for your GD to come true. I will keep you in my prayers.