Roll-call!! Due June/July/August 2013

[Bama Belle]

Mommyof3boys - I am sorry that your sister is causing drama and stress.

Have any of you ladies considered PGD to get your desired gender?

[cvd]

Mommyof3boys - I am sorry that your sister is causing drama and stress.

Have any of you ladies considered PGD to get your desired gender?

I brought it up to DH. He really really REALLY wants 3 kids, and I only wanted 1. After some convincing we finally agreed on 2 lol. I told him the ONLY way I would go for his third is using high tech to get a girl. He didn't seem into it. It's a lot of money for us. I'm a SAHM and he's just a labourer/farmer. We don't make much, we have savings but it's to buy a farm of our own. I know you can't put a price on family of course but I just don't think we could afford it
Are you thinking about it?? Have you brought it up at all to your DH?

[Praying4Pink]

Well, I don't really have an option for a scan before my 20 week ultrasound. Unless I call up and demand one or pretend I am having some sort of problem. And that is just not like me. My next regular appointment is on February 1, and I'll be 17 weeks, 4 days. I was considering calling them to see if they would do the scan then, but I doubt they would do it that far before 20 weeks. I imagine I'll just schedule my scan for 2 or 3 weeks from then.

Yes I imagine you are right dear. I went in and my doctor said anytime after this week which is week 17 but the scheduler just did it for 3 weeks so I will be 19 + 5. So like you said they will probably just schedule it for 3 weeks after your regular appointment. Well you can gender dream and obsess until then with me sweetie. I will be happy to keep you company!

[Mommyof3boys]

I'm sorry that your dealing with all this, Mommyof3boys. It's upsetting that your big, happy, news has had a damper thrown over it I feel I've got to play devils advocate here, though. I've been in your sisters position before and I was hurt to find out such news over facebook. There are some things that I think are so special, like your pregnancy, that family should be told face to face or with a phone call. I think facebook is becoming so much a part of our lives that lines can get blurred but I know my mom and best girlfriend would've been hurt and angry if they found out that I was expecting through a facebook photo, only minutes before my facebook "friends" saw the same news. There's something exciting and flattering for your family to be in on the secret a few weeks before you make it official on facebook. It's nice to feel that you've been trusted with the inside scoop, and maybe your sister feels that you don't trust her. I'm not saying that you're in the wrong here, I'm just saying that I can appreciate where ALL of you are coming from and I hope you can work it out with your sister soon. I don't think that ignoring her is the way to go here, afterall, she's your sister and I'd have given my left boob for a sister. LOL. She's only hurt because she loves you and wanted to share in your news earlier. Just my 2 cents, hope I haven't made things worse for ya.

I completely understand this and I knew I would be in a little hot water because of the way we announced it. There are several reasons why we did it this way but mainly it was to avoid all of the negative and hurtful remarks that we got in person with the last 2 pregnancies and the constant "how could this have happened" etc. I guess I just didn't expect her to post her negative comments there which is a lot of the reason why we did it that way.

[Bama Belle]

I brought it up to DH. He really really REALLY wants 3 kids, and I only wanted 1. After some convincing we finally agreed on 2 lol. I told him the ONLY way I would go for his third is using high tech to get a girl. He didn't seem into it. It's a lot of money for us. I'm a SAHM and he's just a labourer/farmer. We don't make much, we have savings but it's to buy a farm of our own. I know you can't put a price on family of course but I just don't think we could afford it
Are you thinking about it?? Have you brought it up at all to your DH?

Well, I am 37 and my RE said that he suspects DOR. So we are considering freezing embryos and having a FET when we are ready. I don't think PGD would be that much more expensive. I'm just not sure how to find a doctor that will do PGD for "family balancing".

[Praying4Pink]

Jadis - That would be a lovely birthday present. My due date is June 20th And nope...hr doesn't mean a hill of beans.

cvd - So happy that your little boy is happy and healthy in there, especially after all the recent heartbreak around here. I have heard of those poor babies who are born with their tummys on the outside. Fortunately, they typically have a pretty good prognosis. I have seen it on a babystory I think or another labor and delivery show...can't remember but I saw how they fix it. Still..so sad. Can't wait to see some pictures!

Bama - We are pretty religious so I don't think PGD would go over very well with our families. DH probably wouldn't agree to it either because he is perfectly happy with boys.

Mommyof3 - So sorry that your announcement didn't go as smoothly as you had hoped. It sucks when family reacts negatively towards you during such a happy time. I can't honestly say that I understand what you are going through but personally I think you have the right to announce anyway you choose and if your background shows a lack of support from your family about pregnancy then you had your own reasons for doing what you did. I don't think you intentionally tried to hurt anyone's feelings...just tried to protect your own.

heidih - How many boys do you have? Yes I too am obsessing like crazy! I keep thinking it has got to be a girl. I really hope this obsessing ends for us both really soon.

On the note of obsessing: It doesn't make it any better that I didn't get one boy guess at all on my nub shot although I know they are just guesses. I thought to myself...ok if I get 75% girl and 25% boy or 50% girl and 50% boy then I am ok with hearing that it is a boy. But to have 100% girl guesses is driving me bonkers. I don't know how I will react and that is the depressing part. I don't want to feel like a bad person for experiencing sadness if I do hear boy. AND I keep thinking I will experience a loss which adds to my anxiety. I actually woke up in a panic this morning. I can't explain it. It was almost like I felt my stomach and I was half awake and it felt super flat. So I shot straight up in the bed and felt again....and it was still there, lol. I don't know what is going on with me these days. I guess I just want to feel the baby moving already and it is still so sporadic.

[Mrs_P]

Jadis - That would be a lovely birthday present. My due date is June 20th And nope...hr doesn't mean a hill of beans.

cvd - So happy that your little boy is happy and healthy in there, especially after all the recent heartbreak around here. I have heard of those poor babies who are born with their tummys on the outside. Fortunately, they typically have a pretty good prognosis. I have seen it on a babystory I think or another labor and delivery show...can't remember but I saw how they fix it. Still..so sad. Can't wait to see some pictures!

Bama - We are pretty religious so I don't think PGD would go over very well with our families. DH probably wouldn't agree to it either because he is perfectly happy with boys.

Mommyof3 - So sorry that your announcement didn't go as smoothly as you had hoped. It sucks when family reacts negatively towards you during such a happy time. I can't honestly say that I understand what you are going through but personally I think you have the right to announce anyway you choose and if your background shows a lack of support from your family about pregnancy then you had your own reasons for doing what you did. I don't think you intentionally tried to hurt anyone's feelings...just tried to protect your own.

heidih - How many boys do you have? Yes I too am obsessing like crazy! I keep thinking it has got to be a girl. I really hope this obsessing ends for us both really soon.

On the note of obsessing: It doesn't make it any better that I didn't get one boy guess at all on my nub shot although I know they are just guesses. I thought to myself...ok if I get 75% girl and 25% boy or 50% girl and 50% boy then I am ok with hearing that it is a boy. But to have 100% girl guesses is driving me bonkers. I don't know how I will react and that is the depressing part. I don't want to feel like a bad person for experiencing sadness if I do hear boy. AND I keep thinking I will experience a loss which adds to my anxiety. I actually woke up in a panic this morning. I can't explain it. It was almost like I felt my stomach and I was half awake and it felt super flat. So I shot straight up in the bed and felt again....and it was still there, lol. I don't know what is going on with me these days. I guess I just want to feel the baby moving already and it is still so sporadic.

Me to i'm still so worried about this baby, a day before my midwife appointment i had some pink discharge (obviously a tiny bit of blood in there somewhere) scared the life out of me and i've been getting so really strange pains (not like contractions but stopped me sleeping the other night), am so scared i am going to miscarry. On the positive side though the heartbeat was good and regular. Although i did wake up the morning after and bump had deflated - its come back now but that scared the life out of me to. I think its all the sad stories makes me feel like i am just waiting for it to happen.

Not sure i put too much stock in heart rate, my midwife told me last time based on heart rate that she thought it was girl (his was 16something), babes heart rate the other day was 154 but it sounded different to the way the boys did

[Mrs_P]

mommyof3 sorry your family wasn't more supportive, i can understand your sister feeling miffed a little but then she probably would have said something however you'd told her, at least that way you got to avoid all the nasty gender comments. I still haven't really told anyone about our baby yet (just keep covering up my bump) so your a braver woman than i am. She will come round x

[Praying4Pink]

Me to i'm still so worried about this baby, a day before my midwife appointment i had some pink discharge (obviously a tiny bit of blood in there somewhere) scared the life out of me and i've been getting so really strange pains (not like contractions but stopped me sleeping the other night), am so scared i am going to miscarry. On the positive side though the heartbeat was good and regular. Although i did wake up the morning after and bump had deflated - its come back now but that scared the life out of me to. I think its all the sad stories makes me feel like i am just waiting for it to happen.

Not sure i put too much stock in heart rate, my midwife told me last time based on heart rate that she thought it was girl (his was 16something), babes heart rate the other day was 154 but it sounded different to the way the boys did

Well I had lots of spotting at the first and I was super nervous about that. Thankfully I didn't have any more but yes I get how scary it is especially this far along. The first time they used the doppler on me the doctor said it may be a girl but the hr wasn't that high...156 I think. My son's was the same. On Monday the hr was pretty low...135. So now I am freaking out about that, lol. I am a whack job! I honestly don't think hr has anything to do with gender either because I know women who have had girls whose hr was low in the 130's and 140's so...

[Mommyof3boys]

Just when I thought the worst of it was over and I just had to wait out my sister my mom started in. She didn't say anything about the way we announced it and she acted excited about it last night but in hindsight I think that was just because my grandparents live with her and she wouldnt say anything in front of them because my grandpa would stop her. Today she started texting me all kinds of questions about my birth control and saying "weren't you on the Mirena" and asking about my periods and how could this have happened, blah, blah, blah. I seriously feel like a teenager living at home telling my parents I got pregnant by a stranger not a married adult that has never asked her for help with anything.