what do you think he meant?!

[britpop]

New here and would LOVE to hear your thoughts.

I have two boys and am pregnant with my third. Had 20 week scan yesterday and basically explained the above VERY clearly to the sonographer that I did NOT want to know the sex of the baby. He was my totally aware of this, telling me to 'look away' from the area etc, even kind of joking about it as we went along. At the very end of the scan he said 'So...DO you want to know the sex?', not in an excited way at all, more a 'final chance' sort of way. I said 'no!' and then minutes later, when there was some other reference to the gender question, he started saying 'you know, three kids are three kids. You will be happy whatever.'

To me, this totally suggests that we are having a third boy, and he was prepping me for the disappointment! What do you guys think? My husband and best friend think I am mad, and he was just making conversation - my husband, if anything, thinks him asking again kind of suggests the opposite.

I feel SO upset to have lost the surprise that this sounds like it's not my DD. I would love to hear what you think...x

[nuthinbutpink]

Gosh, I know I would be like you and assume he meant 3 boys too but who knows really-maybe he I'd one of 3 boys and got his feelings hurt? People say and do things that usually have nothing to do with you and everything to do with themselves.

[britpop]

Thanks nuthinbutpink. It's really hard to know. I would have been so much happier if he had just ended the scan and said 'everything is fine'. Even if he had only asked me again if we wanted to know, I would have been ok. But the 'kids are kids' comment and 'you'll love them whatever' to me sounds like 'awww...never mind'. I posted on another forum and everyone seems to think that he was simply just talking in general terms and it had nothing to do with gender, or if it did mean anything, to ask again if we wanted to know and then keep talking about it means it's a girl!

Arghhh! It's driving me mad! Anyone else got any thoughts?

[shouldihope?]

He could really want you to find out because it is a girl and he wanted to see your excitement. Trying a tactic to convince you to find out.

[atomic sagebrush]

Ugh! What a jerk. I am sorry but I would prob think the exact same thing that you did. I def. got a vibe off my tech at my 12 week ultrasound that she thought it was another boy even though she went out of her way to say that it could still be a girl. I wish I would have just prepared myself then. I wish you the very very best of luck and also peace of mind regardless.

[Flava]

I would think the same . But of course we think this way because we want the other gender . Maybe he wanted to hide this way that it's a girl and for sure you would not think that now? Im sorry he was stupid.

[britpop]

Thanks all. I feel really down. I really just wanted to go through the rest of the pregnancy not knowing, and that any 'preference' would evaporate once I met my lovely baby. I guess I still can't be 100% though, and maybe it's a good way to prepare myself if this IS indeed another boy.

If I'm honest, I have been feeling like this is a girl because my symptoms this pregnancy are so very different to the other two, and my nub shot at 12 weeks was very girlie. So maybe it's a good thing to stop hoping

[shouldihope?]

Should say *he* was trying a tactic to convince you.

[Flava]

Can you post the nub shot ?

[britpop]

Trying! How do I attach an image that is saved to my laptop? Can't work it out! xx