♥ May 2011 Blue Cheer Squad Thread ♥

[LolaInLove]

Ugh. I am always hitting the wrong button to reply.

BFN and 12 DPO. I think I am out. I usually have 13 day LP's so we will see. I got a positive FRER on 12 DPO with DD.

So, I want to discuss timing, as I think only dtd the once per cycle is not good- I like the dtd every 48 hour idea, except that you might totally end up with an O-2. For eg. dtd the one night, and if the next, you get a +opk, you don't want to dtd that night because it would only be 24 hours- so you dtd the following night (which is likely O day and you miss it entirely). That is the one thing that scares me about dtd every 48 hours.

My cycles aren't predictable, sometime I O on cd13, sometimes cd17 (or anywhere in between).

Spicy, that is the hard thing about timing....if you are unpredictable (like I am), sometimes you just gotta give it your best guess as to when you might be at 0-2....what I have done before, and plan to do in the future, is when my opk is just darn near + but not a true positive (I get several days of fade-ins), then we dtd, with the hopes that late the next day, it is truly +, meaning then we dtd the following day, which would likely be O day.

Sometimes it is really hard to predict, which is why the SMEP/Deanna's plan works very well. It may not necessarily be optimum boy sway timing, but I don't think the timing matters as much as the way your body is when you have sperm meet egg. But, that is up to everyone's individual belief about it.....many gals on our old thread (who now have baby boys, mind you), just dtd once on O day, and some dtd two days in a row right around O (like day before and day of, or day of O and day after even), and some dtd every day for like 3 days. In fact, just to make you feel better....and I know I've written this before, so sorry if I'm repeating....but a few of us got obsessed with getting the timing down, particularly the unpredictable O girls. We checked out FF charts with "pregnant with boy" in the keywords, and it appeared that there was ALL sorts of dtd sequences, but one thing they all had in common was dtd on O day for sure. Most of them, in fact, dtd two days in a row, O-1 and O day. I think it is best to try to have a 48 hour gap, so I would *try* to do that if you can, but the SMEP plan gets people pregnant, that is for sure, so not a bad timing sequence to follow.

http://www.pregnancyloss.info/sperm_meets_egg_plan.htm

Of course, I am a bit more laid back about the timing....I just want to get pregnant, and since I'm 35, don't want to mess around with it too much. I have faith that if I do the diet and supps solidly for 6 weeks and get pg, that I have a better chance at a son than a daughter....but also I don't care if I get another girl at this point, because it ain't as easy for me as it used to be!

[LolaInLove]

Thanks Lola. so my plan is to DTD cD 12 and 14. what do u think?

I think it sounds like a plan. If you are regularly Oing on CD14, that is easy for you! I would still take the opks just to be sure, but should work like a charm!

[LolaInLove]

It would be nice to have the entire threads since you never know how the conversations will go. I've pm'd now and then on stuff but it would be easy to just feel oK about saying more.

Good point....but only the members can get on the private forums, right? I don't want the newbies to have no place to jump in, that's my only worry. Whatcha think?

[LolaInLove]

LOL! I actually had brunch yesterday with another couple and the wife was like, wow, you look way different with lipstick! Guess I need to make an effort a leeeetle more often. I pretty much live in running shorts (oh how I miss you, running) and tops. Elastic waists hide a multitude of potatoes!

This is DD's last week of preschool and they have packed it full of celebrations and parties and I have had no time to hang out here. Crazy thing, I have had LOADS of EWCM this cycle! It started Saturday and my OPKs are still only near positive, not full +, but I think the EWCM might be going away. I swear every cycle my EWCM leaves the day or two before I O. Why can't they hold hands and be together?!? Ah well. I am having a hard time waiting to TTC lately. Part of me just wants to get it over with, LOL!

I was reading on some other thread yesterday about that very thing....some lady has the same issue, and Atomic said that the ewcm is still in there on O day, it just come out in bunches beforehand. She said to still dtd as you would for boy/girl as far as timing goes and not worry about it. You *could* theoretically dtd when you have the ewcm and probably still be ok for a boy, though (although I wouldn't do that) because the ewcm will keep the sperm good and healthy. Actually, when you think about it, that is not bad at all because if you dtd 0-2 and O, you know you'll have good ewcm the whole time to keep em sturdy.

[LolaInLove]

We are totally in the same situation! Fingers crossed for both of us this month. I am attempting 21 and 23. I am confused as to whether attempt on first night of +opk or second. I am going to do first as I dont want to miss ovulation completely
So I am going to DTD Cd11 and 13 (+opk days 13 and 14 usually).

Well, Atomic suggests to dtd 12 hours after first +opk for a boy, so not a bad idea!

[iluvmyman]

Ugh. I am always hitting the wrong button to reply.

BFN and 12 DPO. I think I am out. I usually have 13 day LP's so we will see. I got a positive FRER on 12 DPO with DD.

So, I want to discuss timing, as I think only dtd the once per cycle is not good- I like the dtd every 48 hour idea, except that you might totally end up with an O-2. For eg. dtd the one night, and if the next, you get a +opk, you don't want to dtd that night because it would only be 24 hours- so you dtd the following night (which is likely O day and you miss it entirely). That is the one thing that scares me about dtd every 48 hours.

My cycles aren't predictable, sometime I O on cd13, sometimes cd17 (or anywhere in between).

So Sorry Spicy! Man, what is the deal w/ no boy team BFP's?

[hope.ful]

Ok, ladies I think our day to dtd is either tomorrow or Thursday! We've been on this crazy boy diet for 6 weeks, and even though our ph numbers are good, they're not fantastic, but we're going to take a shot at it. I hope we get a BFP fist attempt (wouldn't be unusual). You ladies who have been doing this for months are my hero! Wish me luck!!

[iluvmyman]

Good point....but only the members can get on the private forums, right? I don't want the newbies to have no place to jump in, that's my only worry. Whatcha think?

Yes, you're right Lola, I didn't even consider that. Can't really do the private.

[LolaInLove]

Yes, you're right Lola, I didn't even consider that. Can't really do the private.

Well, we should just hint at the Baby Blue Club if we have tmi or sensitive questions!

[LolaInLove]

Ok, ladies I think our day to dtd is either tomorrow or Thursday! We've been on this crazy boy diet for 6 weeks, and even though our ph numbers are good, they're not fantastic, but we're going to take a shot at it. I hope we get a BFP fist attempt (wouldn't be unusual). You ladies who have been doing this for months are my hero! Wish me luck!!

LUUUUUUCK!!!! Don't worry about your ph too much....are you doing ew or preseed? If so, you are adding a higher ph to the mix and will be just fine! Oh, and not to mention the bsf if you do that also.