Roll-call!! Due June/July/August 2013

[LO123]

Mrs P good luck telling work. I was so nervous when I told my boss but he was great. Hope you get the same response.

[Praying4Pink]

Yep I was offered the test but I didn't take advantage of it. I think it is pretty reliable.

[Praying4Pink]

Okay ladies I need your help, advice, thoughts, etc.

I got the results from my MaterniT21 testing today from my Drs office. They test for trisomy 21, 18, and 13 as well as screen for the Y chromosome. The trisomy tests were all negative so I was very thankful for that. There was also no presence of a Y chromosome... so according to the test I am having a GIRL!!! I was so happy when she told me I cried! Of course now that it has been a few hours I am freaking out. Supposedly the gender test for MaterniT21 is 99.4% accurate but in my mind I have all these doubts and crazy thoughts. What if they accidentally switched my test results with someone else's? What if my doctor read me someone else's results? All these crazy stupid things floating around in my head. Should we let our parents know the results? Should I wait until the 20 week scan for conformation?

Does anyone know if there has been any controversy around the MaterniT21 gender results? Can I paint the room pink?? I am I just being crazy paranoid (it is okay if you say yes)

Originally Posted by Maple

Oh yay! Congratulations!

I am sure P4P was offered that test along with her gender scan? Maybe she will chip in with some reassurance for you.... But really 99.4% - it's a girl surely!!!

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Yes I was offered the test but I declined it. Mainly because I didn't want to do anything further to start doubting the validity and health of my daughter. I know my daughter does not have downs and even if she did it really wouldn't change anything. But the doctor did say they can tell gender by the presence of the Y chromosome and that it has a very high success rate. Now there is always room for error and even ultrasound techs and doctors can be wrong. So with that being said...could it happen, yes. Do I think it will for you...nah. Pretty sure it is safe to buy pink. I did and I only had the u/s to go by. Congrats!

[cvd]

cvd, I know you have heaps of comments about MILs but I can't help but share my latest run in with mine. Usually we get on OK but only cause I try really hard, she does drive me crazy as she never listens to anything you say and just does want she wants even when you have said no. She is one of those people when you say I am tired she is worse off, or it was harder in her day etc. Anyway the other week my DHs grandmother passed away. His family live 8 hours from us, so we drove there and back over 2 days to go the funeral. I was really sick at the time and it was a big effort for me to go and sit in the car that long. Of course we would always go but still I thought a little thanks would be nice instead she had a go at me after the funeral saying I always snap at her and continously do it and she is sick of it. How it started was that at the funeral not one family member said to me congrats about being pregnant, I was noticably preganat and it kind of upset me. She later said to me we haven't told anyone your pregnant, I said OH you can tell people. She didn't listen and then said but your SIL let it out of the bag. I said that is fine it is not a secret. Even when my SIL did say something to one of the cousins and they congratulated me, when my MIL walked over they said, congrats your going to be a grandmother again. Her response was , AM I? I thought what do you mean, are you? Anyway when I said to her again it is not a secret, she snapped and said I am always short with her. I said but why are you not telling the family? She yelled at me then and said we are keeping your secret, at Christmas when you told us you were pregnant you said it was a secret. I was 7 weeks then, I am now 13 (or was then), my belly is sticking out, how is it still a secret. Plus it was all about my secret, what I had said. My DH didn't even come into the equation. Anyway she then slamed some doors and went to bed. Of course I had to go and apologise and say I was sorry. She said lets just start a fresh, I thought I don't think so. We had to go back last weekend for a planned visit and she didn't even mention the baby, did ask me how I was or even achkowlegde I was pregnant. I will not forget this for a long time after everything I do to make sure my DH remembers her birthday, mothers day ete. I get him to ring her once a week and much more. Well no more, I will be poilite but that is it.

Sorry for long post, feels good to get it off my chest actually as I haven't really told anyone what happened except my mum.

AH oh my goodness LO. Sorry to hear you went through that, your story made my MIL seem like an angel almost. Seems like she likes unnecessary drama, I don't get why she was so stuck on it being a secret??? After you told her numerous times it obviously wasn't. I hope you don't have to deal with that often, I probably wouldn't be able to handle that at all.
But it does feel really good to get it off your chest doesn't it? We should have a thread JUST for MILs

[cvd]

how exciting cvd, 19 weeks feels like a lifetime til i meet this little person!

wanting i'm not sure how accurate your test was but i'm not trusting mine either til its confirmed at the scan. I had a cvs test done 99% ish accurate but there are a few moms they get it wrong for (like 1 at most in every 100 - which although low to me was a realistic odd). Maybe view it as a confirmation but hold off telling everyone til your scan just in case. I'm not taking anything for granted as sods law i'd be the one it was wrong for!

Anyone any ideas on how to share your news, particuarly with work (yes we've still not come out of the closet and with a big bump am sick of sitting in my coat - at least its winter and cold though!). My boss will hate the news but i so want to tell her in way that says i'm happy and don't care what she thinks (particuarly because i don't think legally she can say anything horrible although i know it won't be a nice reaction)

ps you team green girls are killing me here!!!!!!!

Mrs P - when I was pregnant with DS1, I was a server in a restaurant, I let it out to my work by first telling my main boss I was expecting in private and then I told my coworkers that I was somewhat close with and of course (gotta love gossipers) it spread like wildfire! They took care of the telling for me Sorry your boss doesn't seem very understanding/supportive, luckily I got along alright with mine so it was easy. Let us know how it goes!!

[LO123]

cvd, luckly she does live interstate but when we see them it is for days at a time. No more planned visits for awhile which is great. I agree a thread for MILs would be very good and would probably be overloaded...

[Atsaukina1]

mrsp- maybe some donuts to the office and a lil sign that says "and another in the oven" oh just plain and simple I'm expecting here eat some donuts lol

[WantingPink]

how exciting cvd, 19 weeks feels like a lifetime til i meet this little person!

wanting i'm not sure how accurate your test was but i'm not trusting mine either til its confirmed at the scan. I had a cvs test done 99% ish accurate but there are a few moms they get it wrong for (like 1 at most in every 100 - which although low to me was a realistic odd). Maybe view it as a confirmation but hold off telling everyone til your scan just in case. I'm not taking anything for granted as sods law i'd be the one it was wrong for!

Anyone any ideas on how to share your news, particuarly with work (yes we've still not come out of the closet and with a big bump am sick of sitting in my coat - at least its winter and cold though!). My boss will hate the news but i so want to tell her in way that says i'm happy and don't care what she thinks (particuarly because i don't think legally she can say anything horrible although i know it won't be a nice reaction)

ps you team green girls are killing me here!!!!!!!

Thanks Mrs.P!! My DH thinks I have totally lost my mind because I am doubting the results. It just seems a little too good to be true and if I tell people I feel like I will jinx myself in some way. If I had heard boy I would be telling everyone without a second thought to keep everyone's mouth shut about having another boy. My DH asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I said I wanted a gender scan. I think he is ready to strangle me

As far as telling co-workers I think it is always fun to bring in a cake or cookies. If you bring in a cake and want to reveal the gender you could do one of those gender reveal cakes. Have them write on it something like "Baby P due 25/06/13, cut a piece to find out if I will be a he or a she". Then have them dye the inside of the cake pink (if you want to reveal the gender). I would tell your boss privately first however, tell her you want to surprise everyone. You could also bring in baby themed cookies with your due date written on the cookies. There are lots of fun things you can do with food.

[Mrs_P]

thanks girls, i really quite like the food idea always goes down well with the piggies in our office anyway. Its really my boss i'm dreading telling everyone else should be pleased for us but i suppose i'll just have to take the plunge (either that or the baby will be born soon and she'll figure it out anyway!)

[Atsaukina1]

well if you tell her in front of everyone else and they are all happy and eating donuts then she'll won't be able to say anything negative or she'll just look like the biggest bitch lol.