One more try....

[lindi]

This is how I would look at it: (im kinda in the same boat) Statistically, in general terms, your chances of THIS pregnancy being one way are still only hovering around 50%, your previous kids don't have any "real" impact on the numbers. But you don't know if your body is "set" to have one gender more than another- your age, hormonal makeup, all of these things do weigh in slightly too= so that 50% could move in either direction without you knowing it... kwim?
I would do PGD. And I look at the leftover embryos this way, if it helps at all... there are estimates that SO many women have pregnancies they never knew about, but that were just very early miscarriages, or no implantation, etc. Sometimes that is the fault of the genes, sometimes the hormonal balance of the woman. The fault of that embryo not making it could have to do within its own health, or within the environment it needs to grow (you). God, or the Universe, or however you see things- creates and destroys with a logic that defies anything we can understand. Stimulating your ovaries to produce eggs probably won't give you that many truly viable ones, high quality ones, ones that could be a full term baby. Hopefully you won't be dealing with that many embryos of a high quality that you won't use. 2? 3? I know women with luteal phase defects who had recurrent miscarriages. Maybe they had embryos that were healthy and viable- but no environment that could support them. Those "leftover" embryos are in a similar predicament. They have no suitable environment to grow in.
God, or the Universe, or however you see it guided you to create those embryos just as the woman I know was guided to create embryos that had no hope of implanting and growing. It happens that viable embryos don't make it - without "human" intervention -all the time-I guess is what I'm saying. That is a part of this crazy mystery of reproduction.
That's my views, I know people feel quite differently from me, but that's why I would do PGD.

[Claire]

If you're worried about the leftover embryos from IVF, why not consider donating them to infertile couples? That way they have a chance at life, and a couple who wants a family can try for one. I know if I were infertile, I'd be grateful for such a gift.

[NYFamilyOfFiveRoses]

I would not take the chance. I would do pgd even to walk away with it with loosing the money and no pregnancy. I swayed with #3 saying that I did not care if I had a 3rd girl. I love her to pieces and we are all so glad that she is here. She is the best little girl ever.

However, my GD was horrible. The comments were even worse when you are so sad about and carrying your baby. Then comments on top of it from people in stores, the school (all over). It was something I thought I was okay with and I completely was not. I fooled myself even though I love her more than anything if that makes any sense?

On top of it, for me it made the DESIRE for a boy stronger than ever. I cannot imagine having 4 kids being I only wanted 2 children, but I would have 6 kids and live in a studio if the ivf/pgd would work. I know I sound CRAZY LOL. I just feel any of these other things can come later in life, but a baby cannot because of age mainly.

I am so glad that my 3rd daughter is here, but it took a lot to even get to the point I am at now with leaving the house, answering back morons with comments etc.

I cannot tell you make sure you would be okay with another one of the same gender if you do sway. Because lots of times you can say you are 100% sure that you will be fine then it all changes when the baby is born, post partum sets in, you have extra baby weight on you etc.

I hope that I helped. That was just my own experience. We are all different.

Good luck to you.

[iluvmybigfamily]

When it comes to the odds I'm sorry but I think they are a load of crap!! at the end of the day myself and plent of other women on here have more than 3 of the same gender I have 5 boys! As for swaying I'm sorry but I honestly don't believe it I've seen way too many women over the years follow all the swaying methods religiously and still get the opposite gender. Also there are so many different swaying options trying to decide on the right one would be a nightmare. I think if you know this is your last and you can afford it with out putting a financial strain on your family go for it! Obviously you have to go in with your eyes open to the fact it may not work at all and that money may be wasted and you could walk away empty handed, as for the left over embryos I think there are many ways to look at this first you could as another poster suggested donate them to an infertile couple then again you are left with all the problems associated with that eg your child being brought up by another family. You could destoy them with the mind set that they were never supposed to be aby way but its a hard decision. Or you could keep hold of them incase you decided to try again!

[fivebabies]

I'm not going to even get started........

I usually go by the motto that "If there's any doubt in your mind than the answer is No".

Good luck with your decision.

[mitz0315]

I am in the same boat! Mostly because I have to have a c-section and have postpartum hypertension for a few weeks after delivery. DH and I have always said that we wanted 4 children, but after DS2 was born decided on 3 kids. we both love our sons to pieces but absolutely want a little girl in our lives. It really is a difficult decision to make. A decision I will be praying about for at least a few more months. If we did decide on PGD then it would not happen until next year since we have to move this year.

[Rose]

Dear Chunky,

My DH and I were in your exact place two years ago. Two wonderful sons, only willing to have one more child, deep desire for a daughter, open to HT, but uncomfortable with the extra embies. We researched Microsoft, Ericsson, did several physician consults and spent many months discussing the decision. My DH was 100% clear that this was our last child. We should have done HT, but instead I decided to sway and we got our third boy. Yes, we love him very much, but it is difficult to describe how that felt. It was painful and confusing and very hard on our marriage. The worst GD I can describe. All while I was carrying our DS3.

DS3 just turned one, and we are doing PGD next month for a daughter. Going to four children because GD like you describe doesn't go away. It gets worse, esp when you know it's your last child. My DH was very resentful for a while, and he is still reluctant. But he finally agreed to do it.

I am now comfortable freezing first for future frozen transfers and then donating any extra embryos to scientific research. Given that we are in similar circumstances, I will say it bluntly. That is better than the strain on your marriage from having one more child than you originally wanted... or from having to learn to live the rest of your life without this dream fulfilled... (or at least doing your very best to fulfill it).

We could all get lucky and have a natural pregnancy result in our desired gender... but the downside of it not working is too great.

I wish you the very best.