September 2013 babies!!

[Wanting-a-girl]

When I find out this baby is a boy my mind set will just change from thinking if it's a girl to thinking if he is going to be normal which is a much longer wait to find out a girl radically reduces the risk

[WantingPink]

I am so sorry you didn't hear girl. I know how you feel (DH only wanted two kids and he said a 3rd was out of the question at the time) and it is okay to cry without guilt. I know others don't understand but we do. Take sometime and hide out for awhile. You are brave for posting on FB, I wouldn't have been able to do that. You need to cry and upset before you can face others with the news. People will say stupid, awful, hurtful, and rude things and you need to be strong enough to deal with them when they happen. Others won't understand why you are upset. I wish I could give you a big hug right now.

Take it easy on yourself and don't hold back your emotion or feel like crying means you don't love this baby. Go do something nice for yourself and be very thankful you have a supportive DH (mine still thinks I am crazy)

[Longingforgirl]

Exactly my thoughts, wanting. DS1 is a special needs kid as well, and when DS2 arrived, I still remember how happy I was. The first look I took at him, he looked so healthy, and I was so, so so happy, cannot even put it in words. Dispite the GD I had had, it was such a miracle that DS2 was healthy. I kind of didn't expect that somehow.
We had planned to go HT for our third kid, because I couldn't imagine I could deal with boy number 3. Now it is as it is, and I know I will deal with it and love him. I have to, there is no other way. And he deserves that, he doesen't know I want a girl so badly. I will love him anyway, and I am still so shocked about what she said about not being able to love him. Every baby deserves to be loved and only loved. I really hope that she will come around somehow and be able to deal with it and love him too. I really hope she didn't really mean what she said today.
Something I also don't get - she already has a girl. And she doesen't know how great boys are. How can she just assume they are not lovable? It is just so sad

[4Giffins]

Well back from my scan...wish I had something good to update with but I dont! No nub shots at all and the majority of the scan I couldnt even see cuz the tect had the screen facing only him! Im slightly disapointed but at least I got to see babe and I dont have a girl nub to be down about. Now I can hold out hope for a boy for a little while longer! I dont know how you ladies get such good shots! I couldnt see a thing! Lol I thought the nub would be soo obvious..shows what I know! Haha

[Longingforgirl]

When I find out this baby is a boy my mind set will just change from thinking if it's a girl to thinking if he is going to be normal which is a much longer wait to find out a girl radically reduces the risk

I totally agree. I will be worried the rest of the pregnancy.
Still of course I wish for a girl also for other reasons. But I do not think about adoption or even killing the little one, even though all this was unplanned and I so didn't want another boy. This little guy was meant to be somehow. And I hope he's healthy. If he's a he. But chances are high he is.

[shiningstar]

4Giffins: That's a bummer! I didn't even have a NT scan so I know your disappointment about not getting a nub shot. Now I'm kinda happy I don't have anything to obsess about.. The baby's hb was lower than it was at my first appointment and I'm obessing about that plenty. haha!

[Wanting-a-girl]

I personally LOvE boys! Growing up I was a tomboy from having three brothers I loved doing boy things I hated hanging out with girls cause they were way too dramatic for my liking lol... I hate how everything with girls is competition lol my cousin would literally try and be better at everything! I had two really good girlfriends and my best friend has been my BFF since grade two and we are just so alike so we mesh well... I get along with women now obviously now that we're grown up

Growing up I always said I want three boys no girls lol I sure did get that lol but I really would love the mother daughter relationship... I didn't and still dont have a good relationship with my mom so I want to try and be the mom I wish I had... Although when I came home knocked up at 16 my mother was super supportive surprisingly

I honestly don't think I will have GD just cause I went into ttc just wanting a baby in general but I did give all that I could to sway so I won't have any I wish I did it that way... I also resent the fact that my normal ds my first I had so young that I was too stupid to appreciate things like I would now... I feel I took it for granted and I realized that as soon as ds2 started giving me black eyes didn't learn to talk couldnt follow simple directions... Now that is what I found hard and still do I don't look at people with girls and wish I had that I see people walking through the grocery store with their kids ... Having a conversation with their kids... Their kids playing together... And thats what I wish I had.... I love my kids but I hate watching the struggles that they will have to deal with forever

Ds3 fell off my bed when we were sleeping together when he was five months old and ended up with a sever cornea laceration... Got rushed to surgery 2 weeks later a cataract surgery number 2 for cataract removal... Surgery #3 lens transplant... Surgery number 4 something to do with his cones and he will be having another this year sometime ... He's been sedated more times than I can remember... Then my one friend calls me laughing a few weeks ago sayi g her baby rolled off the bed and was fine omfg...

And now he is speech delayed and lack of understanding... Deja fucking vu

[divakotka]

Omg! I cant believe people think like that! Not to undermine anyones feelings but if you want to kill or give ur baby away cause its not the gender you want then that person should not be having babies! That's terrible makes me so sad so many people lose their babies and have sick babies or can't have babies so in the end I'm just happy to have a healthy baby regardless of penis/vagina... I myself have a special needs boy and actually prob two...so really if a get a normal healthy baby boy I will be crazy happy... That's why I'm not as obsessed this time around cause that's all u want just a girl would be the cherry on top...

I love your attitude. You are still quite young but very wise and mature. I also absolutely cannot understand how people could give away their baby or terminate because of the sex. In fact, I couldn't even donate one of our frozen embryos (not that we have any but I know that's the newest thing now). I would always wonder because essentially that's your child.

[shiningstar]

Longingforgirl: That is so sad. I hope your friend comes around when he's actually here. This baby is also a surprise for me. Sometimes it's hard being faced with all these gd emotions, especially when I wasn't trying to get pregnant. You sound like you have a great attitude. I really hope this is your girl.

[Longingforgirl]

OMG you have been through so much!! I am so sorry I cannot even begin to imagine how that must feel like! I had completely different problems with DS1. He has had 4 surgeries as well already, I guess this year he is getting his fifth, but it is always the same. Doctors have not told me what the matter with him was for the first two years. We still don't know for sure, we just know that he has to get surgery every now and then to be able to breathe while sleeping. Which wasn't possible for the first two years. At least not lying down, so he would sleep on top of me, me sitting up. He cried about 12 hours a day and nobody told me why.
Now he is almost "normal". He goes to a special school, and he does look different, he has a very huge head and the eyes are more apart than usual. So you can still see that he is different. But.. he is supposed to be together with normal children in school later. This is what is worrying me, will he be able to keep up with them, I am so worried he is going to be bullied. And he is the most sensitive kid that I know. So I am already suffering for him which is stupid of course. But it breaks my heart. He is so in-between normal and not, I have no idea how he is going to cope with that.

Well, so much for that... I hope we will all get healthy babies.. even though it is priority number one for everyone, sometimes I almost forget that within all the gender obsessing...

Oh, and the mother/daughter relationship... I want to do it better than my mom too. She was a bad mother in every way.


Haha, about the nub shot.. I was so nervous as well. And I was so sure I would be able to see something. But then - nothing. I was still nubsessing because afterwards I thought I saw something.. first I thought I saw a girl nub, and then I was sure it was a boy nub.. haha. Now that my memory has almost vanished I feel a little relieved I don't have a picture to obsess about