How to prepare for the outcome of the gender scan

[iluvmy4sons]

Those are great names. I came up with a list of why I would be okay with another boy. We also had the name picked out and I had the take home outfit picked out.

[Ipadmad]

We've got our gender scan next Tuesday and I'm bricking it!
I'm starting to get quite scared and also wonder if we're doing the right thing finding out, rather than leaving it until the big day.
But no-one knows we are going for the scan, so at least I won't have to cope with others comments / asking for a few weeks.
Agh!

[Ipadmad]

We've got our gender scan next Tuesday and I'm bricking it!
I'm starting to get quite scared and also wonder if we're doing the right thing finding out, rather than leaving it until the big day.
But no-one knows we are going for the scan, so at least I won't have to cope with others comments / asking for a few weeks.
Agh!

[Ipadmad]

Oops, double post, sorry!

[KidAtHeart]

I felt like I need to have names for both a boy and a girl also before I could find out. I suppose it is a way to enjoy the possibility of maybe being pregnant with a girl before finding out for sure. The validity of being able to shop pink or pick out a girl's name.

While in my first trimester, I was sure I was going to find out this time. But then, when I started my second trimester and was feeling so much better, I started to really enjoy the pregnancy - especially knowing it is my last. I was too nervous to find out for the 20 week scan (even though my husband really wants to know). So I didn't because if it's a boy I didn't want to know for the full 20 weeks. It also really helps cut down on the comments. Since I truly don't know, I don't have to lie to anyone. And the worst thing people say is, "oh, maybe it will be a girl this time". I've been fortunate that no one has been rude and people have been very supportive with the news of this pregnancy.

Since I'm of, ahem, advanced maternal age, I get one more ultrasound between 28-32 weeks. We are planning to find out then but not tell anyone. I figure that will give me time to process if it's a boy and the pressure is off because no one will know that we know. Plus, if it's a boy, I will only have ten weeks or so to deal with it instead of 20 or more. After I found out with my second one, the second half of the pregnancy was depressing, but once he was born, I was fine. With the third I didn't know until the birth, and that was hard because I had to deal with the same emotions, only this time with three children to care for and not sleeping full nights.

I'm sure I will still experience sadness either way - I'm just hoping to minimize the impact on myself and my family and still enjoy as much of the pregnancy as I can.

[jennaesue]

I just wanted to report back in. I found out we are having boy #4 about a month ago. I am glad I found out. And I'm also glad I had myself pretty much convinced it was a boy, as it made it a lot easier since I was totally expecting to hear that. I think I did a pretty good job of preparing myself. And immediately afterwards, I was mostly just happy he was healthy. Some sadness kicked in in the middle of the night that night and the next few days, but right now I am feeling pretty good about everything. We went on a nice long weekend getaway without the boys last weekend, and we have started seriously considering building a new (bigger!) house, so those things helped to give me something else to think about and get excited about. I have been picking up some outfits for him, and we are pretty sure on a name. One thing that I didn't really plan was the immediate feeling that I have to try again. I really thought I'd feel like 4 kids was enough either way. I am not sure how I'll feel after he is born.