HopingForSaskia's 12 week nub

[Justjessica]

Congrats on a healthy baby boy. Sorry you didn't hear pink, you had such an awesome sway he must be pretty special to break through all that!

[hopingforsaskia]

Thanks everyone. I'm doing better now. I have my moments of course, but that's really only because I just don't have anywhere to go from here. There are no other options available that could maybe give me my girl. I won't sway again. If we want a fourth, I'll just throw caution to the wind and not consider the gender. My dream is all but dead. It's sad, but as I said to my dear Aussie group on Facebook, I am not defined by what I possess, and the genders of my children are no different. I would hate to think I saw my babies as a thing to own or achieve. So I have had to do some really big soul searching and keep my feelings in their rightful place. I am in love with my baby no matter what. I just wish that I could know that some day I would have my little girl. I think I'm still a little in denial that this is a boy, and because of several reasons that only sound crazy I am going to have one more confirmation of gender before I start calling baby "him" or "he".. I will visit my naturopath/iridologist (a very very special man with insight that I have never seen before.. He told me both my boys were boys from 10 weeks just from looking at my eyes) and I will 100% believe whatever he tells me. Boy or not ..

Thank you all again for your lovely and insightful words. It really is wonderful to have all of this support. I know I'm no one special, but you've all made me feel like I really matter. So thank you.

[Tree]

Oh you really do matter! Funnily enough I was telling my husband about the forum and how bizarre it is to find comfort in strangers and how you come to care for them and I told him about you. Hoping for Saskia who lives the other side of the world. :-)

I really think you will have your girl. Your husband is clearly very fertile so I'd just go for the one attempt next time.

I've absolutely no doubt that this little person will bring you a joy that will full your life with unimaginable happiness. In all the reasons we have in desiring a particular gender we forget that it is the sole and character of the person that's most important and actually defines who they are. Whoever you are growing is very special and whether your girl is in there now or still waiting, you will have her.

X

[lindi]

Thanks everyone. I'm doing better now. I have my moments of course, but that's really only because I just don't have anywhere to go from here. There are no other options available that could maybe give me my girl. I won't sway again. If we want a fourth, I'll just throw caution to the wind and not consider the gender. My dream is all but dead. It's sad, but as I said to my dear Aussie group on Facebook, I am not defined by what I possess, and the genders of my children are no different. I would hate to think I saw my babies as a thing to own or achieve. So I have had to do some really big soul searching and keep my feelings in their rightful place. I am in love with my baby no matter what. I just wish that I could know that some day I would have my little girl. I think I'm still a little in denial that this is a boy, and because of several reasons that only sound crazy I am going to have one more confirmation of gender before I start calling baby "him" or "he".. I will visit my naturopath/iridologist (a very very special man with insight that I have never seen before.. He told me both my boys were boys from 10 weeks just from looking at my eyes) and I will 100% believe whatever he tells me. Boy or not ..

Thank you all again for your lovely and insightful words. It really is wonderful to have all of this support. I know I'm no one special, but you've all made me feel like I really matter. So thank you.

Wow I wish I knew you in person, you truly have words that express an incredible spirit, a wisdom, strength and a humbleness that just doesn't belong to a woman who is so clearly powerful. Thank YOU.

[meeks32]

Thanks everyone. I'm doing better now. I have my moments of course, but that's really only because I just don't have anywhere to go from here. There are no other options available that could maybe give me my girl. I won't sway again. If we want a fourth, I'll just throw caution to the wind and not consider the gender. My dream is all but dead. It's sad, but as I said to my dear Aussie group on Facebook, I am not defined by what I possess, and the genders of my children are no different. I would hate to think I saw my babies as a thing to own or achieve. So I have had to do some really big soul searching and keep my feelings in their rightful place. I am in love with my baby no matter what. I just wish that I could know that some day I would have my little girl. I think I'm still a little in denial that this is a boy, and because of several reasons that only sound crazy I am going to have one more confirmation of gender before I start calling baby "him" or "he".. I will visit my naturopath/iridologist (a very very special man with insight that I have never seen before.. He told me both my boys were boys from 10 weeks just from looking at my eyes) and I will 100% believe whatever he tells me. Boy or not ..

Thank you all again for your lovely and insightful words. It really is wonderful to have all of this support. I know I'm no one special, but you've all made me feel like I really matter. So thank you.

So well put. Keep us posted on what happens with the naturopath, I love mine too.

Was the radiologist certain? Did they come across as knowledgable or new? It's not like there has never been a mistake before. Don't want to give you false hope but a friend of mine was told boy for her dd2 and she was a girl at birth!!

I completely agree with what you said about not being defined by what we have and I too have been thinking more lately about why exactly I want a girl so much, and questioning my own motives (in a good way).

I think each child teaches us something we need to know. This time around I've been taught to wait (TTC 12 months now). My first taught me how to deal with things that aren't planned, and just about every lesson in being a hypocrite and/or parenting. My second taught me some kids are just chilled and happy no matter what you do/how you raise them.

Did you get a potty shot other than the one you posted? Because I don't see 'it' there. Did you get a DVD?

[Emily]

So glad to hear that you are in such a clear place. If your naturopath agrees it is a boy please start a names thread so that we can all get excited with you.

It is far too early to think of other children in this post but i wont know when you are thinking it (if you do) so will post this now. If you do decide that you are a 4 child family you could adopt a girl or go for an almost not-sway - breastfeeding, one attempt and trying to lose baby weight(if you are anything like me).

Congratulations again on your healthy baby. - just think of the gorgeous smell of his baby head! Getting broody already

[hopingforsaskia]

So well put. Keep us posted on what happens with the naturopath, I love mine too.

Was the radiologist certain? Did they come across as knowledgable or new? It's not like there has never been a mistake before. Don't want to give you false hope but a friend of mine was told boy for her dd2 and she was a girl at birth!!

Did you get a potty shot other than the one you posted? Because I don't see 'it' there. Did you get a DVD?

I asked her if she was certain, and she said yes. She was really lovely and knew how much we wanted a girl, so I can imagine she would have really tried to be as sure as she could be.

This is the thing.. And I'm going to sound like a lunatic. Right in the beginning, she measured the femurs and there was NOTHING there in that shot. I'm no expert so it might not be something that's really visible in that procedure. But I got a little flutter in my heart. Then, twice, I saw VERY definite 3 lines. Like, I said OH MY GOD! out loud.. She seemed to think "he" had "his" hand down there grabbing at "himself" so I assumed that was the lines. Then it got me thinking though.. If the hands were down there so much, and the only proof shot is the one I posted, how can I honestly know for sure that what she saw half the time wasn't a hand? In any case, I understand that me going to the naturopath is simply going to confirm one way or the other. I'm not looking for him to disprove her gender analysis, but more to lay any doubts to rest for me so that I can start a names thread like Em suggested. the facial shot she gave me to stare at and bond with (in 3d - did I post that??) is soooo pretty and the people I've shown say dumb stuff like - oh she has your lips or her nose is like yours... And then they correct themselves and say he or him. It's little things like that that really play on my doubt and I don't want to spend the rest of my pregnancy hoping this babe will pop out a girl.

I know. I'm a nutcase. xx

Here's the 3d pic of the face btw:

[meeks32]

I asked her if she was certain, and she said yes. She was really lovely and knew how much we wanted a girl, so I can imagine she would have really tried to be as sure as she could be.

This is the thing.. And I'm going to sound like a lunatic. Right in the beginning, she measured the femurs and there was NOTHING there in that shot. I'm no expert so it might not be something that's really visible in that procedure. But I got a little flutter in my heart. Then, twice, I saw VERY definite 3 lines. Like, I said OH MY GOD! out loud.. She seemed to think "he" had "his" hand down there grabbing at "himself" so I assumed that was the lines. Then it got me thinking though.. If the hands were down there so much, and the only proof shot is the one I posted, how can I honestly know for sure that what she saw half the time wasn't a hand? In any case, I understand that me going to the naturopath is simply going to confirm one way or the other. I'm not looking for him to disprove her gender analysis, but more to lay any doubts to rest for me so that I can start a names thread like Em suggested. the facial shot she gave me to stare at and bond with (in 3d - did I post that??) is soooo pretty and the people I've shown say dumb stuff like - oh she has your lips or her nose is like yours... And then they correct themselves and say he or him. It's little things like that that really play on my doubt and I don't want to spend the rest of my pregnancy hoping this babe will pop out a girl.

I know. I'm a nutcase. xx

Here's the 3d pic of the face btw:

I really hope I'm not feeding a bad thing here, but from that story I would say go get a second opinion in both your naturopath and another scan... At the very least it will bring piece. I could see the boy bits so clear with both of mine, and with ds2 I made the tech show me, but actually knew just by looking at his man legs, lol!

Or maybe do the intelligender wee test?

[hopingforsaskia]

Maybe if my naturopath says girl I'll go get a scan while I'm visiting my parents next week. But if he says boy I'll leave it, cos he will be right and it will have the other guesses backing it up. I'm not getting my hopes up - don't worry!! Just looking for a feeling of peace with the "diagnosis". x

[hopingforsaskia]

Oh and like you, I told my techs both times with my boys that they were boys just watching the screen. Ds1 was so crazy obvious that I knew minutes into the scan and with ds2 they scanned the bits and asked me what I thought .. Needless to say I thought 1000% boy. So I know what I'm looking for.