September 2013 babies!!

[Wanting-a-girl]

Aww lucky you! It's still -5 all weekend here and Monday will be 12 degrees but raining! I can't wait for nice weather

[Wanting-a-girl]

I just want a little advice... My little cousin is 16 and just found out she is pregnant about 12 weeks they think... Now I did the whole 16 and pregnant thing myself and I survived iPod I have been very supportive I told her she will do great and congratulated her.. (something that I never got with my first preg) anyways my aunt got preg when she was 16 and it ended being a tubal and she was never able to have kids they tried ivf several times so they adopted my two cousins... Now my preg cousin has struggled With the fact that she was given away and she hates her birth mother for doing it so she is dead against adoption and she has told me this and I don't know if she has told her mom... But my mom just called saying that she is going to try and pressure her into it... What should I do!? My mom never once brought up adoption when I was 16 thank god! Should I talk to my cousin so she expects what's coming? I don't want to over step tho and my aunt to be mad at me but this is serious right? I don't like that she is going to be pressured to do this and I don't want to know that's what is going to happen and not let her know

[Thorz300]

Oh man that's a rough one!! I'm sorry! I would talk to your cousin about your experience and to be supportive. The thing that is MOST important is what will be best for the baby! I am supportive of adoption if that is what is best! I strongly believe however that the baby should stay with his/her birth mom IF there is a stable nurturing environment. The best you do is support her and relate to her through your own experiences but ultimately it's her decision on what she wants to do! You are a good aunt!

[Mum to three girls]

I just want a little advice... My little cousin is 16 and just found out she is pregnant about 12 weeks they think... Now I did the whole 16 and pregnant thing myself and I survived iPod I have been very supportive I told her she will do great and congratulated her.. (something that I never got with my first preg) anyways my aunt got preg when she was 16 and it ended being a tubal and she was never able to have kids they tried ivf several times so they adopted my two cousins... Now my preg cousin has struggled With the fact that she was given away and she hates her birth mother for doing it so she is dead against adoption and she has told me this and I don't know if she has told her mom... But my mom just called saying that she is going to try and pressure her into it... What should I do!? My mom never once brought up adoption when I was 16 thank god! Should I talk to my cousin so she expects what's coming? I don't want to over step tho and my aunt to be mad at me but this is serious right? I don't like that she is going to be pressured to do this and I don't want to know that's what is going to happen and not let her know

Can you take her out for something to eat - I know it's hard with the kids - and just gently say that you'll support her no matter what she decides? That all of her options are hard and that it's important she give herself time to work through them and that you're there to listen to her while she's deciding.

Good luck Thorz!

[shiningstar]

I've been out of town for the last week.. Trying to catch up on everyone. So excited for the upcoming scans. Good luck Thorz & WAG!!!

Am I the only one that has no clue when I will be finding out the gender?? (Besides those who are team green) I have an appointment next week, but they didn't mention anything about having an ultrasound. Tbh, I'm ok with waiting because I'm terrified to find out. I hate that feeling! I try to think about the baby as a boy and I feel like I would be ok... but who knows how I will really react.

[Salsa]

Aww lucky you! It's still -5 all weekend here and Monday will be 12 degrees but raining! I can't wait for nice weather

You can have our nice weather - its 35 degrees C here but its well into Autum!! Im sooooo over this loooooooong HOT summer we've had now for 6 months, I get so hot and bothered in pregnancy and just wish for slightly cooler weather so Im not sweltering everytime I go out with the kids... I become rather grumpy! haha

[WantingPink]

I just want a little advice... My little cousin is 16 and just found out she is pregnant about 12 weeks they think... Now I did the whole 16 and pregnant thing myself and I survived iPod I have been very supportive I told her she will do great and congratulated her.. (something that I never got with my first preg) anyways my aunt got preg when she was 16 and it ended being a tubal and she was never able to have kids they tried ivf several times so they adopted my two cousins... Now my preg cousin has struggled With the fact that she was given away and she hates her birth mother for doing it so she is dead against adoption and she has told me this and I don't know if she has told her mom... But my mom just called saying that she is going to try and pressure her into it... What should I do!? My mom never once brought up adoption when I was 16 thank god! Should I talk to my cousin so she expects what's coming? I don't want to over step tho and my aunt to be mad at me but this is serious right? I don't like that she is going to be pressured to do this and I don't want to know that's what is going to happen and not let her know

I think I would talk to her and let her know that you are there for her and that you will support her in whatever decision she makes. I don't think that anyone should be pressuring her into a decision. She needs to make the best educated decision for her and the baby. She is the one that is going to have to live with the decision long term. If she regrets a decision that anyone pressures her into she is likely to resent the person/people who pressured her into it. Just let her know that you have been in her shoes and that if she has questions or needs advice you are there for her to listen and talk to.

[WantingPink]

Thorz can't wait for your update tomorrow!!

[Southern Butterfly]

I feel like I'm falling so behind with this thread. It's been a busy week with all the kids home for Spring Break but I love the fun and craziness. I'm going to miss my older guys when they go back to school next week.

Diva- I'm so glad your little man is healthy and there was no sign of the valve issue. He's already a cutie!

Thorz- Sorry to hear about your poor little DS3, glad he's feeling better now! Now all of our little guys need to behave and stop getting sick! Can't wait for your scan tomorrow, it's nice to have someone in my same time zone for easier stalking lol.

WAG- I agree it would be nice for you to share your own experience so that she can see all sides of the situiation before making any decisions. That's such a tough spot.

Salsa- You have quite the willpower, I'm impressed! I had considered staying team green but I knew with ll the dozens of scans I would be having that I'd never make it until birth without peeking.

[WantingPink]

Okay ladies I could really use your opinions, experience, advice, thoughts, etc. DH and I really got into it tonight over when his Mom is going to come out to see the baby. I am scheduled for a C-section on a Friday so he wants his Mom to fly out and stay with us the Wednesday before the baby is born until ??? Probably at least two weeks after the baby is born. I really like his Mom however, my Mom is in town and I would prefer my Mom being with me (if I need someone) after the baby is born to help out with the kids while I recover from my C-section. I tried to explain to DH that I would be most comfortable with my own Mom being the one that is around while I am post C-section, in my pajamas, waiting for my milk to come in, hoping my incision doesn't get infected, boobs hanging out, bleeding like a stuck pig, hormonal crying, hair in knots, sleep deprived hot mess!! I like his Mom a lot however, I don't want to have to worry about her comfort, I want to worry about mine and the baby. DH is making me feel like a selfish bi*ch for wanting her to come out two weeks after the baby is born. He even went as far as saying "well then I will tell her not to come out at all then".

WTF?? Am I missing something?? It it normal for the MIL to come and stay with you before until after the baby is born?? Please give me some insight on this... I don't understand why it is a big deal that she waits and comes out two weeks after the baby is born and I am feeling a little more human. I know for a fact it is NOT her that is pushing to come out before the baby is born. I know that she even knew that we were fighting about this that she would completely understand about this and would gladly come out two weeks after the baby was born. She is always more than accommodating and understanding (sometimes too accommodating and understanding). This is 100% coming from my DH. Has anyone else had this experience? What would you tell DH if he was insisting his Mom come for when the baby is born until after the baby is born?