In defense of boys

[motherofboys]

I know a mum of 2 girls who when we met up with my 3 and our other friends 1 our boys were running round having fun and playing typical boy games and her daughters were so quiet. She said at the time she'd like another but wouldn't want a boy. Apparently she just isn't a boy person. She wouldn't want to stand in the cold on the side of a football (soccar) pitch on a Saturday morning. Which was something I was doing myself at the time and I remember thinking "if you can't make a tiny sacrifice to be cold for an hour while your kid is doing something that makes them happy then it doesn't matter whether they are a boy or a girl" (plus we had a couple of girls on my sons team anyway)
I also know a mum of 3 girls who looks down her nose at me when I talk about things my boys like and things that they say and do. There are some things that people who have not had boys just will not understand.

[BZ94]

I agree with others that I probably would have been a SMOG if I hadn't had a son -- would have only wanted a boy to satisfy my husband (who probably would have made me keep going until he got his son no matter what lol). I would have thought boys were "gross" and probably would have thought moms of boys who's kids were all over the place (like mine usually are) were doing something wrong.

It's funny how your "interests" change and adapt to your kids' interests. I get ridiculously excited over construction vehicles on the road that I can point out to DS2 and actually laugh at some of the potty talk that goes on at our dinner table. Even though I'm sad that I won't be sitting on the sidelines of ballet class (although there's a good chance DS1 might be into acting/theater, much to DH's dismay), I agree that when it's YOUR child you support their interests no matter how foreign they might seem...

That said, I did log into this site today after skimming the GAP KIDS Diane Von Furstenburg line and getting a HUGE lump in my throat over the girl clothes I don't get to buy. Baby steps...

[ejk741]

As a mom of a girl it is funny to read this. I think that no matter you have, people will have something to say about it. I remember when I found out I was having a girl people said that they were sorry for my husband. They also said that they felt bad for me in 13 years, because (of course) she is going to hate me. I will have to worry about her getting pregnant... I will only be surrounded by pink and princesses... she is going to be winey and needy. This could not be further from the truth. My daughter is outgoing and funny. She is a girly girl, but she loves to ride her bike and help her dad at work (he is a motorcycle mechanic). She is also sooo soo easygoing. I think that the ladies that are saying that they would never want a boy are either:

1. actually smug or 2. insecure... maybe they want a boy and it is just easier to deflect the comments they are receiving about only having girls than to reveal to everyone that they too would like a boy.

Either way.. I am sorry that we all have to deal with judgement. It really isn't fair coming from any side!