October 2013 babies!

[Kiara]

Kiara, what you said about wanting to keep telling your son he's the most perfect little boy in the world is exactly why I'm so scared about having another son-my little guy is perfect in my eyes and I just can't imagine another boy being so perfect. I just can't picture another little lad and really want a girl!!!

It was Kira Hihi, our usernames sounds really similar though

[Kiara]

I dont think gender has anything to do about how special a child is. My dd wouldnt be less special if we had an other girl I do agree though that its difficult to imagine how I could ever love someone as much as I love my dd, but I know I will once my second child is born

[Nachelle]

Kiara, what you said about wanting to keep telling your son he's the most perfect little boy in the world is exactly why I'm so scared about having another son-my little guy is perfect in my eyes and I just can't imagine another boy being so perfect. I just can't picture another little lad and really want a girl!!!

I was scared about the same thing when I was having DS2. I just kept imagining having another identical DS1. I was so wrong they are completly different in every way but I love them so much. And not one more then the other, just different. Each child holds a special bond in your heart, byy the time i had DS3 I wasnt even scared about that. If you do have another little boy, he will be different and perfect, and you will love him with everything like DS1. ANd him and DS1 will be the best of buddies!!! I really hope you get your little girl though. I think we all deserve to experience the best of both worlds with each genders!!!

[motherofboys]

Its funny I was talking to someone TTC #2 the other day and they were saying they were worried about not loving another baby as much as their DD.
It feels like your heart is so full it could burst when you look at your LO and you wonder how you could ever fit any more love in there for another child, but its like your heart doubles in size when you have a second child, and its still so full it could burst with love for both of them.

[Kiara]

Its funny I was talking to someone TTC #2 the other day and they were saying they were worried about not loving another baby as much as their DD.
It feels like your heart is so full it could burst when you look at your LO and you wonder how you could ever fit any more love in there for another child, but its like your heart doubles in size when you have a second child, and its still so full it could burst with love for both of them.

I know it will be like that, but its hard to imagine when you only have one child I mean I dont know the baby in my belly yet but ofcourse I will love him so much when he is born:-)

[Kira]

I agree with what you ALL said: aussiettc, MOB, Kiara, and Nachelle…. Thank you all for responding. My son is all I know right now and I love him more than I can express in words…. but if I have another son, he will also be unique and just as special and perfect… and I know after he is born I will not be able to imagine my life without him in it as well. I do think my heart will ‘burst with love’ for the two of them! Also, I have considered the,”You’re the best boys in the whole world” scenario, and honestly that’s just fine. I like what you tell your 3 boys to let them each know how special they are, MOB. I have also heard the benefit of the same gender can be that they tend to be best buds, Nachelle. That’s nice to hear.

I am certain I would not love a daughter anymore than a second son. I know everything you’ve all said is true and I will never want to replace my baby-to-be with another baby of the opposite gender once he or she is born. Still, my husband and I have high hopes for a girl and I feel a bit of guilt thinking I may be ’disappointed‘ for a little while, but this site helps me shed the guilt and prepare for another boy at the same time. The guilt comes in part from never wanting my 2nd boy (if it is indeed a boy) to know that I ever wished he was a she (since family members know we’re hoping for a girl and I would hate for that info to ever ‘sneak out' years later). I already know with certainty I will never want him to be anyone but who he is and would hate for him to hear something and feel hurt in the future (like I wanted a girl, not him). Thanks for sharing your thoughts, ladies! It helps.

[Kiara]

I understand exactly what you mean Kira. I was a bit worried that it would be more difficult for my dd to have a sister than a brother (because it would somehow feel like it would be more jealousy that way ) But then in other hand I felt a bit guilty for wanting a boy because I felt that it would problaly be better for my dd to have a sister in the future than a brother. Haha all those feelings I feel crazy sometimes, worrying for everything. I hope you get your girl! I think to wish for a special gender is really common and nothing wrong, it doesnt mean you would love an opposite less

[Thorz300]

How much would you listen to your kids on names?
I REALLY like the name Seth, I think it fits well with the other boys names and sounds nice when I say it along side his middle and surname.
I asked the boys today if they liked the name after DH said he liked it "and can't think of anything else" (not the enthusiasm I was after) DS1 and DS3 both said they liked it but DS2 said he didn't. He wants to name the baby Sin Cara after a wrestler. I asked if Sin Cara wasn't an option (because its not LOL) if he would like the name and he still said no.
DH says its not DS2s name, he likes his own name so thats all that matters, and we should use it if we want to. But i don't want him to feel I've excluded him or ignored his in put. Everyone who I've mentioned the name to so far has liked it.

I'm not part of this due date group, but I LOVE the name Seth!! The sweet little guy in my profile pic is my DS3 and his name is Seth, it's a perfect name!!

[Nachelle]

Ive been feeling down and lonely lately. I feel like no one understands me. Everybody seems to get annoyed when I talk about the baby. Espeacially when I ponder what the sex is which I do alot go back and forth between boy and girl. Even DH, he acts like he doesnt care. Always says I dont care only if its healthy and he kind of wants a delivery suprise. I want to put the gender in an envelope, find out by myself and not tell anybody for a littlle while. I know it seems selfish but everybody hates when I talk about the baby and gender and stuff now but If I knew I bet they would want to listen. I kind of want this one thing to mysellf for a bit. Maybe even DH. He was talking about how he doesnt really want a girl because of all the worries that come with it. SO I feel alone and sad and down, and I wish I had friends that understood what I was going through, mostly all of them have either one kid or one of each adn everybody already thinks Im crazy for wanting a big family. Ive been getting alot of snub comments like "if its a girl are you finally going to stop having kids?" That makes me so mad. This is my family! I dont know why it bothers people that were on our 4th child. I dont think its anyones buisness. I love having a big family, I wouldnt change it for the world. YEs its hard but worth it. Those moments when were all together are irreplaceable. Im already considering a 5th espeacially if its a boy. Im really scared though. I dont mind having more kids. I just dont know how many more chances Ill have. I only have one falliopian tube. (I had to get the other removed from an eptopic) Ive miscarried 3X, it seems to be every other pregnancy I miscarry and now Im scared I may never get a chance to experience a baby girl. I dont know Im rambling. Im sorry Im just feeling a whole lotta pregnant crazy emotional right now. Thanks for listening girls. I feel like sometimes your the only ones I have to talk to lately!

[motherofboys]

Nachelle, I rarely talk about the baby to other people. I get the odd "how are you feeling" but I always take that the same as a friendly "how are you?" rather than actual concern and answer "fine thanks"
The only one who seems genuinely interested in my pregnancy is my brother in law! He asks how I am, and if I'm in maternity trousers yet, and if I'm feeling movement. And when he makes me a drink he asks if I'm still drinking tea/coffee and if I still want sugar in it. (I only drink 1 cup of tea at MILs and one coffee at BILs when we visit each week)
On friday I decided to actually tell someone when they asked how I've been feeling. I told her still a little sick in the mornings, and still ready for bed by lunch time. She just said "so another boy huh" and I said "yeah the boys are really happy, they wanted to have another brother" and she replied "well that doesn't matter, every baby is a blessing" I know that, but to kids they only know what they want and don't want and I thought it was cute that they had been excited and cared what gender we got.
I've also had questions about whether we would try for a girl in the past, and would we stop if this one was a girl. I said to someone once "if I get a girl next, then I will not stop, I will have one more and pray its a boy just to prove to everyone I didn't keep going to get a girl" I'm already prepared so that if anyone does comment on me 'having my hands full' I'll be saying "I know great isn't it?! I'd rather they were full than empty"
I'm thinking more and more about another. I love my baby already. I'm feeling some movement though not as regular as I like but I have an anterior placenta and its still early. I worry when I don't feel him. I've bought him a few outfits, I've named him and I feel I'm bonding with him now. I'm excited to meet my little man and think about how at Christmas I'll have a 2 month old, and how this time next year I'll be weaning him onto food and he'll probably be trying to crawl and sitting up and giggling.
But I do still feel my family isn't complete, there still seems to be a space, that I'm not sure anything but a daughter could fill. I've thought long and hard and I do want to try again. Its just whether or not to sway. And its scary because 5 will have to be our limit and if we get a 5th boy, then I may always be left with that empty space. I know some people can get past it and feel complete at some point in the future but I worry I wont ever get that feeling.

Thorz, I remember your post and their being some confusion in the scan pictures section, have you had another scan since? I think we are definitely calling DS4 Seth. Nothing else seems to fit as well, its like he is Seth so no other name feels right.

Kiara, I feel crazy some times with the hormones and the ideas flitting back and forth in my head LOL I worry about so many things that are beyond my control and that may never even happen.