September 2013 babies!!

[Mum to three girls]

Three for me wasn't as big a jump as from one to two. DD2 was at kindy when DD3 was born and now the big girls are both at school which makes it easier. The main difference is that I'm just a bit more organised. For example all three of them are feral after school so I try to get dinner at least semi-sorted during the day and make sure the after school snacks etc are ready for when they're home. Otherwise I find I'm trying to help DD1 with homework, placate a grumpy tired and hungry toddler, bring in washing and cook dinner all at the same time. DH is usually home to help with bath and bed and we're pretty ******lined now.

[Wanting-a-girl]

Ya I found transitioning to number three the easiest as my older two were in school and it basically seemed like I only had one kid for most of the day... Which was great for bonding but now I can't keep ds3 off of me lol constantly hugging and kissing I'm very worried about number 4 I think it's going to devestate ds3

I've been drinking my tea since a could days befor 30 weeks.. It won't put u in labour it's gonna strengthen your uterus s when you do go into labour your contractions are more productive therefore reducing risks of interventions like c section and suction

[DLTAG89]

Thanks WAG, i took it with DS2 and he was a day late where as i didnt have it with DS1 and he was 2 weeks early. I never thought i'd say this but i dont want her to come early lol.

[Wanting-a-girl]

Ya I didn't take it with ds1 and he was over 2 weeks early I drank it with ds2 but wow that labour story is a mess lol I went into labour with him at 36 weeks before I drank the tea I dilated to 5 and hen it stopped and he ten made his appearance like a bat out of hell at 41 weeks with a 30 min labour 2 hours before my induction lol ds3 I was induced at 39 and started the tea I'm pretty sur at 36 or 37 and that's why I wanted to start it early this time thinking maybe it will help a tad in getting me to have him before induction even I it's an hour before I will be happy... I will be starting the primrose at 37 I think just cause it actually causes your cervix to change (soften) and I don't want him pre mature a bit

[Salsa]

Girlsway, I also found the jump from 2-3 easier than 1-2. But my 2 older children arent of school age. Infact only 1 is at Kindy which is just 2 days a week!! So I basically will have the 4 kids at home all day every day (minus 1 child for 2 days) until feb next year!! Going to be a long 6 months! And even then I'll still have 3 at home all the time!
But my second was a really difficult baby. Reflux and chronic ear infections resulting in multiple sets of grommets starting from 6 mths, and tonsils and adenoids out!! Plus I had thyroid surgery when he also was 6months!! So it was a challenging start with him! He still has some challenging ways!! But my third came along and was and still is such a breeze!! He's so delightful!! So I have put in an order for another one just like him!! Lol easy going and placid!!

[Thorz300]

Hi ladies, I hope every one is doing well! Southern how are things going? I haven't been on here in about a week, not even to read what is going on with everyone. Sorry!

I have fallen into a really deep depression and I think maybe talking through it with you ladies (since this is all anonymous) I might start to feel better. I haven't told a soul about this not even family members, or my BFF's and I normally tell them EVERYTHING but this is too HORRIBLE for me to even tell them.

I had a very horrifying experience........about a week ago I was having a painful day and I told my mom that I needed to go to the store for milk and cereal but that I was going to go take a quick rest/nap first. I did just that I went upstairs to take a nap, about 30 min to 45 min later DS1 who is 6 came in my room and asked me where DS2 was (age 4), I told him that DS2 said he wanted to watch a show so he was in the tv room. I then checked the clock and decided I would sleep for another 30 min.......about 10 min later DS1 came running upstairs and told me DS2 really needed my help in the CAR!!!!! I sat straight up, I yelled "why is he in the car????" It was 95 degrees outside! I ran (dislocated hip and all) as fast as I could down the stairs and into the garage. DS2 was sweating from head to toe, totally drenched his whole body was beet red and he was weak and couldn't speak right. He couldn't complete sentences. I carried him in the house put him in front of a fan and got him ice water, gatorade, and popsicles to cool him down. I got my phone and started dialing his doc but unfortunately, I realized really quick that if I made that phone call, CPS would for sure be called, and I would lose my children. I called DH instead, since he is a doctor (although not a pediatrician) and I couldn't get a hold of him. I called 2 of my sisters who are both nurses, and 1 of them is and ER nurse but I couldn't get a hold of them either. However, I noticed in the time it took to try to get a hold of all those people, his color was going back to normal, he wasn't shaking as much and his speech was getting better. So I decided that I would give him a cool bath and if that made a huge difference, I would just monitor his progress, but if it didn't drastically help him then I would call the doc and have to face the consequences because having him taken away would be better than having him die or have serious problems from this. He couldn't walk himself to the tub his energy level was just not there. I got him undressed and into the tub and I was ABSOLUTELY HORRIFIED AT WHAT I SAW He has bad bruises/abrasions on his shoulders and legs where his seat belt was and also on his back/spine (what had happened was, he heard me tell my mom I was going to go to the store, he wanted to go with me so he went and got in the car in the garage and put his 5 point harness seatbelt on. He can put it on himself but he cannot take it off on his own yet) Anyhow I lost it when I saw all those abrasions I just started sobbing right then and there, I couldn't control it. Seeing those abrasions and bruises painted a very graphic picture in my head of what he must have been going through, the terror and fear he must have felt, the excruciating heat (it had to be 100 or more degrees in the car), he must have been screaming for me and I wasn't coming!!!! My poor baby boy, still a week later, writing this is so hard for me...... Luckily by the end of his bath time he was splashing and playing and feeling much better. He had enough energy to walk now but he said it hurt to walk on his foot. So I let him get cozy on the couch with fans and watch tv for the rest of the day (he was really exhausted) I just monitored him and made sure he didn't fall asleep. I felt if he fell asleep things might get worse. DH called me back and was frantic when I told him what had happened but he thought that everything I did was good and agreed that CPS would have been called had I called the dr. When DH got home he took all his vitals and gave him a very thorough physical check over. Luckily everything was ok and he is going to be just fine. The only thing is he may have sprained his foot from kicking the chair in front of him.......

This whole experience really has taken a toll on me, I can't shake all the thoughts of "what ifs......" What if DS1 hadn't gone out to look for him..... I wasn't planning on going to the store for another half hour....... I can't shake the terrifying thoughts of what was going through my little guys head and his feelings of terror, fear, and abandonment. This made me spiral into thoughts of, how can I even think of having a 4th baby when I can't even keep track of the ones I have???!!! I know I am a very very good mother and many of my friends think I am over protective.....How could this possibly happen, how could I be peacefully sleeping while my baby was struggling for his life!!!

So after talking to DS1 and my mom, this is what happened.......DS2 asked me if he could watch a show, I told him if he cleaned 20 toys he could watch 1 show... Then I walked upstairs, as I was going upstairs, I told my mom I needed to go to the store but needed to rest first. What I didn't hear was DS2 say "I want to go to the store with mommy" (I didn't hear it because by the time he said it, I was upstairs and he was downstairs in the tv room) My mom and DS1 heard him say that because they were both downstairs too. My mom was making herself some lunch and she did notice he wasn't downstairs, but thought he went upstairs to be with me until I was ready to leave (he often will come be by me during my naps and just watch a show in my room, so that is what my mom thought he was doing). DS1 is my little hero!!!!!! He saved his brothers life. He wanted to play with him and he too thought that DS2 was with me so that is why he came upstairs, to get him to come play. When he saw he wasn't with me he asked me where he was, and I told him that he was in the TV room. He checked in the tv room and didn't find him. And then, in DS1's words "Something just told me to go check in the car.....I don't know why" When he got in the car DS2 cried for him to HELP!! DS1 unbuckled his car seat for him and ran in to get help! What a HERO!!! I truly believe that a higher power was involved in this I believe DS was guided to the car to help his brother! I am so very grateful that he is healthy and perfectly ok but things COULD HAVE turned out so so so much differently and if DS1 hadn't been inspired to go look in the car I might not have my beautiful boy with me....... I don't know exactly how long he was stuck in the car (somewhere between 10-45 min) but I do know that I wasn't even going to be leaving for another 30 min.....

Sorry for the long long long post, I'm still so very shaken up. He is perfectly OK but the experience really rocked my world and I just cant let it go, and I have really fallen into a depression because of it. I feel TERRIBLE I feel like an AWFUL mother...... but I know deep inside, I'm not a bad mom, but I can't shake this.....

[Wanting-a-girl]

Omg thorz that is horrifying! Your kids would not have been taken away if cps was called they would have just done a short investigations... It is sad that we have to be scared to get our kids seen in emergencies... I remember when ds3 fell off the bed when he was laying beside me and he had blood coming out of his eye ball I knew before I called 911 that cps was going to be called and the cops were called on me and e dr accused me of punching ds3 in the face... But honestly the woman from cps knew it was an accident and was constantly apologizing for having to intrude on this tough time... Maybe you should put locks on your doors so he cant get out cause I think this was an extremely close call and we need to learn from our mistakes basically.... After Ezra's accident I threw my 2000 dollar bed in the garbage... I literally ripped it into pieces I was so angry with what happend ... I'm glad he is okay and is feeling better and that it didn't end in tragedy

[Tree]

Thorz these things horrific as they are do sometimes happen, it's not your fault and he is ok!! Not that long ago my DS drank a whole bottle of calpol, luckily DH caught him with the bottle in his hand (even though he had polished off the lot), we took him right to A&E and they made him sick and gave him a drop to metabolise the parecetamol. They couldn't tell me if he would be alright, I was terrified. It still makes me feel sick to think about and makes me want to cry but not so much as time goes by... He was, and is totally fine by the way! Since it happened I spoke to lots of people and have discovered many people have similar stories to tell! Pregnancy is hard, especially when you have multiple children to think about. You weren't reckless or careless here, I was careless and that's even worse to deal with!
Aside from the experience being truly horrifying for me it was also positive, made me remember not to take for granted that he is ok, not just after the incident but generally. My boys are exhausting, crazy hard work but they are happy and healthy and remembering to focus on that fills me with energy.
You're a mother, not a superhuman and that's ok. Forgive yourself. Like me you've learnt a few lessons and that's only a good thing.
Our boys our fine. Spend the energy you're currently putting into thinking about this and getting down into extra cuddles for your gorgeous children.

[atomic sagebrush]

thorz please do not blame yourself. I think the most dangerous time is when there are two adults watching the kids because each person thinks the child is with the other adult. Every single one of us has had moments where the kids are not watched like a hawk , and honestly if we were watching them every second of every day I'm not sure it's good for their development anyway. I am so thankful that everything came out ok in the end and I hope that you can forgive yourself, it was an accident and accidents happen to everyone.

[DLTAG89]

Aw thorz, big hugs. Sounds like you have been through a rough time. It really can happen to any of us, please try not to beat yourself up about it. Not 2 weeks ago DH was holding DS1's hand walking across a car park when he saw his grandad on the other side, pulled away from DH and ran right in front of a moving car, thankfully it didnt hit him but could have been so much worse. Even when we do watch them they still do things that put them in danger.

It sounds like you did a great job looking after him and getting him back to his happy self. Does your DH or mum know how your feeling, maybe having a chat with them might help as they could be feeling the same. Very glad your little boy is ok though x