Why do you want a girl?

[gurly]

I have a very similar reason. I have been trying to get pregnant for the better part of the last decade. If things had been easy for me maybe it would be different. I had always planned on #1 at 27/28, #2 by 30 and try to talk DH into #3 before 35. In that scenario there would have been plenty of time/opportunity to let what happened happen. We started trying right on schedule and DD didn't show up until I was 32. I am now 36 and it is looking unlikely I will get pregnant again, much less two more times. I feel like a lot has slipped away from me, including the ability to just "let happen". I grew up with a sister and I really want that relationship for my daughter. I love girly stuff and I love being a girl mom.

Are you doing fertility treatments? I wish you the best !

[rainbowflower]

I'm very girly myself and I'm one of 4 girls so having girls is what I imagined for myself as a child, I'd love the mother-daughter bond -- being able to help a DD through future pregnancies/babies without being seen as the interfering MIL, have some heirlooms I'd like to pass on to a daughter

[Mum23boys]

I want a daughter for my husband - I'm happy with a 4th boy but he is desperate for a girl and I want to fulfil his dream

[Cherry bomb]

I haven't found the daughter for life saying to be at all true. I think if you raise any gender child to put family first and be supportive of their decisions they won't leave you. My brother lives down the street from my mom. She sees his kids everyday. I live in another country and she sees mine every other year. Everytime I visit my family we also visit MIL. She is as important to my husband as my mom is to me. So, I think if you keep a positive uplifting relationship with your children they will reciprocate. Also, they will hopefully choose a spouse that can appreciate the woman that raised their awesome husband. My husband makes it clear that his family relationships are important. He is important to me therefore his important relationships are also important to me.

I think my reasons are a little selfish. I want to buy cute clothes. I want pedi dates. I want to play games that I enjoy instead of playing games out of duty. I want to teach her things only a mother can I.e how to be a lady, how to tell if a boy is a creep, how to respect yourself, how to live healthy) I want to share hair dressers. I want to shop in the girl toy section. I don't want to worry about what age I have to start sending my boys into Men's room alone. I would like less time spent on football, baseball , wrestling and more time dancing, cheering, and gymnastic. I have so many cute plans for a girly room. I want someone else in the car who understands why we can't roll down the windows. I want to watch my daughter wrap my dh around her little finger. I want to see what great big brothers my boys would be to a little sister. I want someone who's a little more like me.

[Cherry bomb]

I really just want to stop feeling like I'm missing out on something. It's like an exclusive club that I can't get into. Everyone else I know is a member of the club and they rub it in that I'm not allowed. I want to be able to make sure other all boy moms know that their not " missing out". I want to be able to say " I have both and the stereo types are wrong." Boys are wonderful and my daughter doesn't give me anything my boys didnt . Even if its a lie.

[Little Lunasa]

For me, it's because I would like to have the same relationship with a daughter of my own as I have with my mother. We are very close, and she is the first person I tell my secrets too. I feel I will miss a huge thing in life if I don't have a daughter to share secrets with. Xx


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[Funkyfry]

I have two boys so would also like to experience a mother daughter relationship also. If I had two girls I would probably want a boy! I would also like to buy some cute girly outfits !!

[odd]

Growing up, I always imagined a perfect 'traditional' family of hubby, wife and 2 kids (boy & girl) while our lives are far from perfect, lol, It would still be nice to have a li'l girl to dress up and share that special bond with, which I never had with my mother.

[marriedmomof2]

to be honest for multiple reasons, my relationship with my own mother was horrible and I would love to have a mother daughter relationship, no matter what side of the spectrum I am on. My wonderful amazing MIL wants a granddaughter so badly lol. She only has grandsons but she adores them so much that it is so cute. She keeps asking me for a grand daughter and I want that relationship more than anyone will ever know. I used to fear that I would turn out like my own mother, but talking to people has helped me realize that I am a better mother than she could ever dream to be.

[bunnywabbit]

On DH's side of the family (especially on his mother's side), they were all boys. There's one girl, but she's adopted. Would be nice to break the mould. DH also says he wants to be 'outnumbered'. Not sure after living with me for 15 years he's actually through that one through...