Dreaming Pink Due Date Group: TTC and Beyond

[I Love Ladybugs]

At appt....only 30 more mins....5 less if I count the potty breaks. I am hoping to directly update here, but if not, Dream is going to be my go to girl.

Charlee...I just melted at what you wrote...and Gecon, I so agree with you!!!

[I Love Ladybugs]

Got bumped to second...hope that means good news or at least less worse news.

[Waiting4Daisy]

Good luck ladybugs. I hoe you get seen soon and hope baby is a beautiful totally healthy little bub and maybe a bit of pink icing on top of the cake :-). Keeping everything crossed that everything is just fine with baby xxx

[meeks32]

omg the suspense is killing me! I thought for sure I'd wake up to the news!!

[Dreamofpink]

omg the suspense is killing me! I thought for sure I'd wake up to the news!!

Ladybugs I've pm'd you x x
Hoping for good news too but I have to go to bed, it's late!

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[myrainbowgirl]

Ladybugs - Praying all is well...looking forward to your news!

Everyone else - hi!

AFM - Just went on and on the other thread about the possibility of being depressed. I don't know if I am, just know that I'm really struggling right now. Feel so down and out, and really having a hard time enjoying the boys. It's the end of summer, and I've been home with them since late May, so I think that's a part of it. Looking forward to the new school routine. DS2 started preschool today, that should help, although it's only 2 mornings a week (and he's my easy kid). DS1 (my hard kid) doesn't start school (1/2 day kindergarten) till Sept. 3, as he's going to a brand-new school and they are still finishing the building. Once he's in school, it will help tremendously, but I feel terrible for just counting down the days till then. Yuck. DS3 is very into things and starting (at 15 mos.) to do some naughty things (throwing his food and cup, etc.). Needless to say, adding another one at this point is beginning to seem like a bad idea. I honestly, HONESTLY thought I would get pg with a girl. That's why I did this! Why I was never truly honest with myself about the possibility of another boy is beyond me. Of course I knew it was possible, but I didn't think it would happen to me! Here I am facing the reality of that possibility, and I am struggling. I know in time I will be ok, but right now, it's tough. In my heart, I absolutely know God has a plan, and that it's perfect for me. In time I know I will see why He gave me 4 boys (assuming that's the end result), and will be so happy. I am just feeling the brunt of reality right now, I guess. Ugh. Thanks for letting me vent! (And yes, I know that a girl is still a possibility...trying to have faith! )

[Dreamofpink]

Myrainbowgirl, I'm so sorry to hear that you're having such a hard time of things. Perhaps it'd be a good idea to mention it to your midwife or doc when you next see them. You shouldn't have to suffer alone.

I completely understand the thought of 'the opposite won't happen to me'. Of course, you still have a lot of hope left for a little girl, but it is hard despite all the warnings from Atomic that swaying is no guarantee not to believe that if you work hard enough at it you'll crack it! I am only speaking for me here as I KNOW I'm having a boy - you don't I've been giving it all a lot of thought recently and although it's purely anecdotal, it seems that there's a trend towards getting a girl when you're totally at peace (or maybe mostly) with the thought of another boy. I know for me I was full-on, kitchen-sink, 'if only I do this absolutely perfectly IT WILL WORK!!' and now I can see where that was undoubtedly my biggest downfall. I am now working on finding peace and truly accepting my lot. I want to be a happy boy mum instead of one in denial as I have been for the last 4 years. And the stereo-typical control-freak boy mum!

Sorry for rambling here, but emotions are so much harder to deal with during pg. I had PTSD after the birth of ds1 (extremely traumatic time!) and after 6 months of seeing a peri-natal counsellor I was able to move on. However, time's a great healer too. You must look after yourself just now & speak to someone. I refused any medication even though I could've had some, but I felt that I really wasn't depressed just in shock. IF you need medication though don't be afraid and let your doc guide you.

Sending you a big hug x x

[I Love Ladybugs]

I am finally at the friend's place and online. My message did not go through to you dream initially, so my sort of update did not happen then.

So, I went into the session and listened to it all and only at the end was told gender. My little girl has some concerns and issues, I wish it was simple to explain and be at peace with. The left kidney is perfect, but the right with the two cysts also has "isolate unilateral duplex collecting system and (can't read their writing)uretade? something upper pole.. Basically, cysts that make the top part non functional, but she would have some use of the lower segment. The bladder issue is due to this secondary duct attaching to it and causing a bulge. The news that I am struggling the most with is the 3% chance of chromosomal issues....ie Down's and the like. We will be monitored closely, down again here in 5 weeks, and meet with the ped. nephrologist (sorry, on my pals Mac and know that is not how I want to spell that word.) I will be on my own computer tomorrow and try my best to update better then. I am emotional...I have to believe my baby is going to be in the 97%

[meeks32]

I am finally at the friend's place and online. My message did not go through to you dream initially, so my sort of update did not happen then.

So, I went into the session and listened to it all and only at the end was told gender. My little girl has some concerns and issues, I wish it was simple to explain and be at peace with. The left kidney is perfect, but the right with the two cysts also has "isolate unilateral duplex collecting system and (can't read their writing)uretade? something upper pole.. Basically, cysts that make the top part non functional, but she would have some use of the lower segment. The bladder issue is due to this secondary duct attaching to it and causing a bulge. The news that I am struggling the most with is the 3% chance of chromosomal issues....ie Down's and the like. We will be monitored closely, down again here in 5 weeks, and meet with the ped. nephrologist (sorry, on my pals Mac and know that is not how I want to spell that word.) I will be on my own computer tomorrow and try my best to update better then. I am emotional...I have to believe my baby is going to be in the 97%

I am so sorry this wasn't the good news we were all hoping you would hear.

The only thing to do for your sanity and her health is to look at the positives and focus on those, as you already are... 97% is a fantastic chance of having a baby without chromosomal issues. The kidney issue seems like it is ok for now, we can all survive with 1 kidney, and she has 1.5 functioning from what I understand of the above. It doesnt seem like the bladder issue is going to be a problem during pregnancy at least, does it? And I assume that secondary duct can be fixed surgically when she is born? Also they are monitoring you closely and you have a team of very good specialists tracking you and baby.

97% keeps echoing in my head, if someone said you had 97% chance of winning the lottery, or getting married or having a baby, you would not even think about the 3% chance that you may not. Try and remember it like that maybe?

I'm really useless at this, trying to cheer you up when I've never been in your situation. Trying to think of things that would make me feel more calm. Its not fair that it's happening to you, and with everything else that has gone on recently with your brother and so on, its just even more horrible. I'm so sorry, but I also think that prognosis sounds very promising and I really feel she will survive this with amazing strength and resilience, and you will too.

I know as a mum we always wish we could be the sick one or the one needing medical help, rather than our children, and the most heartbreaking part is when they are sick and we feel we cant help. But you being healthy and surrounded by medical people that can help right now is all you can do for this little bub, and thats just what you are doing.

hugs.

It seems petty now, but I don't want to ignore it, congratulations on your baby girl, I think we have to focus on what positives there are in this unfortunate circumstance. At least you know who is in there now, and can connect to her emotionally.

xx

[I Love Ladybugs]

Meeks...my brother is one tough bean, so I need to be just like him!!! I will get some sleep tonight, some time with the friend tomorrow and will be on the way home on Thursday. How are you holding up? I am going to be stalking all the girls in this thread....and wishing them first and foremost healthy babies..but since I had the 4 weeks of preparing for DS3, I get the gender desire element as well.
You did cheer me up...thanks!