Help - so afraid I will be too jealous of my sister

[luckyfourleafclover]

YES...of course my sister had a baby girl, last night...and well, at the moment I am really feeling ok.

It's been less than 24hrs and already I have had to field loads of insensitive comments from friends & relatives (even from my own mum - who knows we are doing PGD!) I am doing as you all suggested and faking it & keeping a smile on my face....but mostly the smile is real - I am v happy for my sister.

So far so good.

[Adia]

As a good friend points out to me often, remember you are doing PGD for your little girl, not someone else's.

It is wonderful that you can enjoy your niece and be sincerely happy for your sister.

And now that dreaded anticipation is out of the way you can focus on your TTC journey!

[hotdogz&boyz]

Sounds like you are handing it great. It must be hard. But I do agree that now that it's come down, you can focus on your journey to a daughter Hugs!

[ocean]

You sound like you're in a good place - and you're handling the silly comments with grace. I don't know if focusing on your own DD dream helps or hurts you, but if it helps, it'd be nice that she'd have a girl cousin in your niece. As someone said well on one of these sites, once the baby years are past and it's just kids in the family growing up, everything changes. Congrats on being an Auntie!

[luckyfourleafclover]

thanks so much ladies - I am mostly doing fine and keeping busy with my boys still off school for summer.

I am worrying about all the 'big' events that I will now have to face that will heighten my GD, but one day at a time...and I am focusing on my HT journey - going back to Genesis soon.

thanks again - this site is a life saver

[1+2+3boys]

I'm glad you are feeling O.K and goodluck for your HT cycle. For some reason I just know that my Sister will have girls, I don't know why but I just do

[3littleladies]

Mines the opposite, cause my sister had a boy and yes Ive got to say I was very jealous, I will never let her know this but Im also happy that she got her desired gender, I honestly don't think the jealously ever goes especially when you yourself don't get your desired gender.

[3boys531]

Its others comments that really make it so much worse. My husbands 2 best Mates have wives that just seem to make underlying comments all the time. Baby sat the little girl the other night. 2 months old. She came home and said does it make you want a daughter. I replied its a baby they are all the same at this point. The other wife will ALWAYS say something like oh the joys of girls or at night when the boys are settled the girl always wants her nails painted or mummy time. It's really very intentional I think and they know exactly what they are saying will hurt.

We just have to smile and act like it doesn't bother us. On the other hand my best friend just had a girl and I love her to bits because MY friends don't have that cruel bone that secretly wants to make me jealous.

You will luv your Niece so much. It will all be good. And she may never have a boy and secretly be envious of you.

[monkeysnuffer]

I am glad you are doing well. A friend of mine had a girl awhile back and she was always asking me to babysit. It was so hard. I find I had to distance myself to not feel bad.

[Mumof3girls]

I'm glad your doing ok and good luck with your HT girl.